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Originally Posted by DanzInRealLife
There are many contributing facts to the reasons why some people don't want to have children.
Originally Posted by DanzInRealLife
There are many contributing facts to the reasons why some people don't want to have children.
Originally Posted by AntonLaVey
Originally Posted by scshift
I think it goes both ways... there are people out there who genuinely care about those unfortunate enough to lose their parents so they take them in and treat them like their own. But a lot of people aren't that selfless, they want children not because they want to give a young child a chance in life, but because they want to have the pride and satisfaction of knowing they raise their own child.
You don't get that with an adopted child. While you do raise it, ultimately it is not your child and not a product of you.
For many parents, they have children not for the children, but for themselves. It gives them a feeling of responsibility, maturity, power, ownership, whatever. It is most definitely not a completely selfless act.
Very true. Some genuinely have children because they want to share their life, experiences with another being. There are too many abandoned parentless children out there for me to give having kids the nod of being a completely selfless act. Not having children on the other hand doesn't make you a selfish person. If you don't have the means to have kids, it's actually to your unborn child's benefit to not be brought into an uncomfortable existence.
Now not having children because you love yourself too much shows selfish qualities, but how can one be selfish to something that doesn't exist. If you're that selfish a human being you probably shouldn't be having children.
Originally Posted by AntonLaVey
Originally Posted by scshift
I think it goes both ways... there are people out there who genuinely care about those unfortunate enough to lose their parents so they take them in and treat them like their own. But a lot of people aren't that selfless, they want children not because they want to give a young child a chance in life, but because they want to have the pride and satisfaction of knowing they raise their own child.
You don't get that with an adopted child. While you do raise it, ultimately it is not your child and not a product of you.
For many parents, they have children not for the children, but for themselves. It gives them a feeling of responsibility, maturity, power, ownership, whatever. It is most definitely not a completely selfless act.
Very true. Some genuinely have children because they want to share their life, experiences with another being. There are too many abandoned parentless children out there for me to give having kids the nod of being a completely selfless act. Not having children on the other hand doesn't make you a selfish person. If you don't have the means to have kids, it's actually to your unborn child's benefit to not be brought into an uncomfortable existence.
Now not having children because you love yourself too much shows selfish qualities, but how can one be selfish to something that doesn't exist. If you're that selfish a human being you probably shouldn't be having children.
Originally Posted by Hazeleyed Honey
How is it selfish to not want children? Isn't it selfish that you want a child?
I go back and forth on the thought of having children. As a woman, I am usually looked down upon when I express my thoughts about not knowing if I want children. It is as if it is some written rule that as a woman, you serve your purpose of having to be a mother.
The thing that gets to me is that I might regret not having children. I hear some parents say that when their child was born, they finally understood their reason for being. Children are also good to have around when you need someone to take care and provide for you when you lose means to take care of yourself. Then again, if you have children, not always guaranteed they will be there for you when you grow old for them to take care of you. On another note,not every human is made or fit to be a parent. There are some horrible ad disgusting parents out there.
Originally Posted by Hazeleyed Honey
How is it selfish to not want children? Isn't it selfish that you want a child?
I go back and forth on the thought of having children. As a woman, I am usually looked down upon when I express my thoughts about not knowing if I want children. It is as if it is some written rule that as a woman, you serve your purpose of having to be a mother.
The thing that gets to me is that I might regret not having children. I hear some parents say that when their child was born, they finally understood their reason for being. Children are also good to have around when you need someone to take care and provide for you when you lose means to take care of yourself. Then again, if you have children, not always guaranteed they will be there for you when you grow old for them to take care of you. On another note,not every human is made or fit to be a parent. There are some horrible ad disgusting parents out there.
Originally Posted by Los Angeles Fresh
Originally Posted by AntonLaVey
Originally Posted by scshift
Because many feel that since the child isn't theirs, they won't have the fulfillment that having their own children would bring.
It really shouldn't matter, but people don't have that connection between an adopted child and one they created.
I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.
im still waiting for the day that i disagree with you
Originally Posted by Los Angeles Fresh
Originally Posted by AntonLaVey
Originally Posted by scshift
Because many feel that since the child isn't theirs, they won't have the fulfillment that having their own children would bring.
It really shouldn't matter, but people don't have that connection between an adopted child and one they created.
I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.
im still waiting for the day that i disagree with you
Originally Posted by whyhellothere
because i hate children
Originally Posted by whyhellothere
because i hate children