Why do some humans not want children?

[los angeles fresh]

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by scshift

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by djaward

Because some humans are selfish.

why don't most humans adopt? Why bring another child into this world when many need parents?

Because many feel that since the child isn't theirs, they won't have the fulfillment that having their own children would bring.

It really shouldn't matter, but people don't have that connection between an adopted child and one they created.

I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.

im still waiting for the day that i disagree with you

 

[los angeles fresh]

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by scshift

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by djaward

Because some humans are selfish.

why don't most humans adopt? Why bring another child into this world when many need parents?

Because many feel that since the child isn't theirs, they won't have the fulfillment that having their own children would bring.

It really shouldn't matter, but people don't have that connection between an adopted child and one they created.

I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.

im still waiting for the day that i disagree with you

 

[|A-Man|]

I want dozens.

 

[|A-Man|]

I want dozens.

 

[hongcouver604]

Originally Posted by dmbrhs

Originally Posted by trak1sh

Mostly because they are selfish and care more about themselves. But damn moody you stay posting long content in your threads.

If being selfish means not crapping out a bunch of unwanted kids and raising them without fathers, then I'm all for it.

I'm sorry not everyone grew up in a privileged, white household with both parents around like your lucky self. 

 

[hongcouver604]

Originally Posted by dmbrhs

Originally Posted by trak1sh

Mostly because they are selfish and care more about themselves. But damn moody you stay posting long content in your threads.

If being selfish means not crapping out a bunch of unwanted kids and raising them without fathers, then I'm all for it.

I'm sorry not everyone grew up in a privileged, white household with both parents around like your lucky self. 

 

[northmiamiboi]

Originally Posted by ATGD7154xBBxMZ

I want dozens.

 

[northmiamiboi]

Originally Posted by ATGD7154xBBxMZ

I want dozens.

 

[antonlavey]

Originally Posted by Los Angeles Fresh

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by scshift


Because many feel that since the child isn't theirs, they won't have the fulfillment that having their own children would bring.

It really shouldn't matter, but people don't have that connection between an adopted child and one they created.

I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.

im still waiting for the day that i disagree with you

The girl in you avy's boobs are lopsided...do not want.

 

[antonlavey]

Originally Posted by Los Angeles Fresh

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by scshift


Because many feel that since the child isn't theirs, they won't have the fulfillment that having their own children would bring.

It really shouldn't matter, but people don't have that connection between an adopted child and one they created.

I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.

im still waiting for the day that i disagree with you

The girl in you avy's boobs are lopsided...do not want.

 

[scshift]

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.

I think it goes both ways... there are people out there who genuinely care about those unfortunate enough to lose their parents so they take them in and treat them like their own. But a lot of people aren't that selfless, they want children not because they want to give a young child a chance in life, but because they want to have the pride and satisfaction of knowing they raise their own child.

You don't get that with an adopted child. While you do raise it, ultimately it is not your child and not a product of you.

For many parents, they have children not for the children, but for themselves. It gives them a feeling of responsibility, maturity, power, ownership, whatever. It is most definitely not a completely selfless act.

 

[scshift]

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.

I think it goes both ways... there are people out there who genuinely care about those unfortunate enough to lose their parents so they take them in and treat them like their own. But a lot of people aren't that selfless, they want children not because they want to give a young child a chance in life, but because they want to have the pride and satisfaction of knowing they raise their own child.

You don't get that with an adopted child. While you do raise it, ultimately it is not your child and not a product of you.

For many parents, they have children not for the children, but for themselves. It gives them a feeling of responsibility, maturity, power, ownership, whatever. It is most definitely not a completely selfless act.

 

[quincy powell]

Originally Posted by DT43

Too soon.

 

[quincy powell]

Originally Posted by DT43

Too soon.

 

[thenewjs23]

Originally Posted by djaward

Because some humans are selfish.

I second this because I know I can be selfish. I am big enough to admit it. I raised in such away I am selfish. I have one child and I know I have no business having anymore. My one may be the only one I have.

 

[thenewjs23]

Originally Posted by djaward

Because some humans are selfish.

I second this because I know I can be selfish. I am big enough to admit it. I raised in such away I am selfish. I have one child and I know I have no business having anymore. My one may be the only one I have.

 

[antonlavey]

Originally Posted by scshift

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.

I think it goes both ways... there are people out there who genuinely care about those unfortunate enough to lose their parents so they take them in and treat them like their own. But a lot of people aren't that selfless, they want children not because they want to give a young child a chance in life, but because they want to have the pride and satisfaction of knowing they raise their own child.

You don't get that with an adopted child. While you do raise it, ultimately it is not your child and not a product of you.

For many parents, they have children not for the children, but for themselves. It gives them a feeling of responsibility, maturity, power, ownership, whatever. It is most definitely not a completely selfless act.

Very true. Some genuinely have children because they want to share their life, experiences with another being. There are too many abandoned parentless children out there for me to give having kids the nod of being a completely selfless act. Not having children on the other hand doesn't make you a selfish person. If you don't have the means to have kids, it's actually to your unborn child's benefit to not be brought into an uncomfortable existence.

Now not having children because you love yourself too much shows selfish qualities, but how can one be selfish to something that doesn't exist. If you're that selfish a human being you probably shouldn't be having children.

 

[antonlavey]

Originally Posted by scshift

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.

I think it goes both ways... there are people out there who genuinely care about those unfortunate enough to lose their parents so they take them in and treat them like their own. But a lot of people aren't that selfless, they want children not because they want to give a young child a chance in life, but because they want to have the pride and satisfaction of knowing they raise their own child.

You don't get that with an adopted child. While you do raise it, ultimately it is not your child and not a product of you.

For many parents, they have children not for the children, but for themselves. It gives them a feeling of responsibility, maturity, power, ownership, whatever. It is most definitely not a completely selfless act.

Very true. Some genuinely have children because they want to share their life, experiences with another being. There are too many abandoned parentless children out there for me to give having kids the nod of being a completely selfless act. Not having children on the other hand doesn't make you a selfish person. If you don't have the means to have kids, it's actually to your unborn child's benefit to not be brought into an uncomfortable existence.

Now not having children because you love yourself too much shows selfish qualities, but how can one be selfish to something that doesn't exist. If you're that selfish a human being you probably shouldn't be having children.

 

[los angeles fresh]

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by Los Angeles Fresh

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by scshift


Because many feel that since the child isn't theirs, they won't have the fulfillment that having their own children would bring.

It really shouldn't matter, but people don't have that connection between an adopted child and one they created.

I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.

im still waiting for the day that i disagree with you

The girl in you avy's boobs are lopsided...do not want.

i didnt add this avy tho.

but i dont agree with your love of trench coats so i guess we have that.

 

[los angeles fresh]

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by Los Angeles Fresh

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by scshift


Because many feel that since the child isn't theirs, they won't have the fulfillment that having their own children would bring.

It really shouldn't matter, but people don't have that connection between an adopted child and one they created.

I understand that's why I asked that cause it voids the selflessness argument. If raising kids is about selflessness then shouldn't more people be adopting. And do parents who abandon their kids have them selflessly? Some may argue that having children is actually a very selfish act, many people have a lot to gain by having kids that's why they wonder why others refuse to. These benefits range from personal fulfillment to passing your genes or your family legacy, these aren't selfless reasons.

im still waiting for the day that i disagree with you

The girl in you avy's boobs are lopsided...do not want.

i didnt add this avy tho.

but i dont agree with your love of trench coats so i guess we have that.

 

[hazeleyed honey]

Originally Posted by djaward

Because some humans are selfish.

How is it selfish to not want children? Isn't it selfish that you want a child?

I go back and forth on the thought of having children. As a woman, I am usually looked down upon when I express my thoughts about not knowing if I want children. It is as if it is some written rule that as a woman, you serve your purpose of having to be a mother.

The thing that gets to me is that I might regret not having children. I hear some parents say that when their child was born, they finally understood their reason for being. Children are also good to have around when you need someone to take care and provide for you when you lose means to take care of yourself.Then again, if you have children, not always guaranteed they will be there for you when you grow old for them to take care of you. On another note,not every human is made or fit to be a parent. There are some horrible ad disgusting parents out there.
  

 

[hazeleyed honey]

Originally Posted by djaward

Because some humans are selfish.

How is it selfish to not want children? Isn't it selfish that you want a child?

I go back and forth on the thought of having children. As a woman, I am usually looked down upon when I express my thoughts about not knowing if I want children. It is as if it is some written rule that as a woman, you serve your purpose of having to be a mother.

The thing that gets to me is that I might regret not having children. I hear some parents say that when their child was born, they finally understood their reason for being. Children are also good to have around when you need someone to take care and provide for you when you lose means to take care of yourself.Then again, if you have children, not always guaranteed they will be there for you when you grow old for them to take care of you. On another note,not every human is made or fit to be a parent. There are some horrible ad disgusting parents out there.
  

 

[antonlavey]

Originally Posted by thenewjs23

Originally Posted by djaward

Because some humans are selfish.

I second this because I know I can be selfish. I am big enough to admit it. I raised in such away I am selfish. I have one child and I know I have no business having anymore. My one may be the only one I have.

You want to live your life comfortably, and feel that your personality/unpbringing would hamper the well-being of your unborn child. This is better than being a selfish bastard who has children with multiple women around the block and raises none of them. Not having kids for a "selfish" reason is not necessarily a bad thing. My mom gave her all and made a lot of sacrifices to raise me and my 2 siblings, I refuse to have children unless I can do that and more. Children aren't asked to be born, so if you choose to bring one into this life it is your duty to make sure it is as comfortable as possible. If you're not confident in your ability to do so then don't have anymore children.

 

[antonlavey]

Originally Posted by thenewjs23

Originally Posted by djaward

Because some humans are selfish.

I second this because I know I can be selfish. I am big enough to admit it. I raised in such away I am selfish. I have one child and I know I have no business having anymore. My one may be the only one I have.

You want to live your life comfortably, and feel that your personality/unpbringing would hamper the well-being of your unborn child. This is better than being a selfish bastard who has children with multiple women around the block and raises none of them. Not having kids for a "selfish" reason is not necessarily a bad thing. My mom gave her all and made a lot of sacrifices to raise me and my 2 siblings, I refuse to have children unless I can do that and more. Children aren't asked to be born, so if you choose to bring one into this life it is your duty to make sure it is as comfortable as possible. If you're not confident in your ability to do so then don't have anymore children.

 

[kingjay718]