Originally Posted by Retro23J
Originally Posted by eiddyfouw
Sidenote: a woman on the same physical appearance level as this one, once told me "girls like us work harder than the gorgeous ones. the gorgeous girls just lay there and wait for the job to be finished cause they know dudes will always come back based on their looks. where as girls like her...put in that WORK to make sure you come back
True and come back I do
Originally Posted by Retro23J
Originally Posted by eiddyfouw
Sidenote: a woman on the same physical appearance level as this one, once told me "girls like us work harder than the gorgeous ones. the gorgeous girls just lay there and wait for the job to be finished cause they know dudes will always come back based on their looks. where as girls like her...put in that WORK to make sure you come back
True and come back I do
kdawg wrote:
^ that's exactlly what I was going to say. You just don't divide it.
It's not 'not fair' because you're not thinking about who it's not fair to - you're not 2 people but a couple and thinking that way is the only way you'll not be unhappy about the split.
The business example isn't a bad one - it's about doing what's best for you (plural) but still allowing each other to have individual freedom.
......i didnt want to say it at first, but from what ive always seen with couples that practice this 'splitting up the money' stuff. the individuals in the realtionship want their cake and eat it too. meaning they want to be married but be single financially.
- when you take a step back and look, its all coming from the same pot anyway. the splitting up the money thing is only an illusion.
kdawg wrote:
My wife would go daft too if I bought a car without talking to her about it - not really because of the money but more because I went off and did something that affects us without talking to her about it.
It's a much bigger issue than just finances - it's about respecting your partner.
- and this was my second thing, and im not a big traditional person by any means, but you are supposed to be ONE now.
.....splitting up the bills in marriage is the equivalent of taking your own check as a single person and putting half in the left pocket and half in the right, paying some bills from one and not the other
....here is a link to that OTHER THREAD
kdawg wrote:
^ that's exactlly what I was going to say. You just don't divide it.
It's not 'not fair' because you're not thinking about who it's not fair to - you're not 2 people but a couple and thinking that way is the only way you'll not be unhappy about the split.
The business example isn't a bad one - it's about doing what's best for you (plural) but still allowing each other to have individual freedom.
......i didnt want to say it at first, but from what ive always seen with couples that practice this 'splitting up the money' stuff. the individuals in the realtionship want their cake and eat it too. meaning they want to be married but be single financially.
- when you take a step back and look, its all coming from the same pot anyway. the splitting up the money thing is only an illusion.
kdawg wrote:
My wife would go daft too if I bought a car without talking to her about it - not really because of the money but more because I went off and did something that affects us without talking to her about it.
It's a much bigger issue than just finances - it's about respecting your partner.
- and this was my second thing, and im not a big traditional person by any means, but you are supposed to be ONE now.
.....splitting up the bills in marriage is the equivalent of taking your own check as a single person and putting half in the left pocket and half in the right, paying some bills from one and not the other
....here is a link to that OTHER THREAD
Yup.....I pretty much do what my mother and her ex husband did. Only reason they didnt last is because he was a drunk.........money and bills were all in one account......which is how she knew he was spending all of his money at the liquor store by his job.Originally Posted by seasoned vet
- you know, alot of these silly practices come from our parents. and lets face itsomealot of our parents are dumb as hell when it comes to money......AND RELATIONSHIPS. but we blindly follow their lead.
- what i talked about above i adopted on my own. to me it just made sense to do it that way. sure, my wifes mother (and grandmother) would like her to split the bills up, and for her to have a seperate account, but we dont do it that way. not to mention they're single, old and bitter from past relationships over the years, she isnt.
....alot of stuff we've learned from our parents, we need to take a step back from and look at differently. you'd be surprised with what you come up with.
Yup.....I pretty much do what my mother and her ex husband did. Only reason they didnt last is because he was a drunk.........money and bills were all in one account......which is how she knew he was spending all of his money at the liquor store by his job.Originally Posted by seasoned vet
- you know, alot of these silly practices come from our parents. and lets face itsomealot of our parents are dumb as hell when it comes to money......AND RELATIONSHIPS. but we blindly follow their lead.
- what i talked about above i adopted on my own. to me it just made sense to do it that way. sure, my wifes mother (and grandmother) would like her to split the bills up, and for her to have a seperate account, but we dont do it that way. not to mention they're single, old and bitter from past relationships over the years, she isnt.
....alot of stuff we've learned from our parents, we need to take a step back from and look at differently. you'd be surprised with what you come up with.
Originally Posted by Tupac Jordan
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Originally Posted by Tupac Jordan
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Why do YOU already have in mind what gets split and what doesn't. Gas, Water, Cable will always be less than the mortgage. I mean how is that an even excahnge?
Why do YOU already have in mind what gets split and what doesn't. Gas, Water, Cable will always be less than the mortgage. I mean how is that an even excahnge?
Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
Why do YOU already have in mind what gets split and what doesn't. Gas, Water, Cable will always be less than the mortgage. I mean how is that an even excahnge?
Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
Why do YOU already have in mind what gets split and what doesn't. Gas, Water, Cable will always be less than the mortgage. I mean how is that an even excahnge?
Originally Posted by SoleWoman
Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
Why do YOU already have in mind what gets split and what doesn't. Gas, Water, Cable will always be less than the mortgage. I mean how is that an even excahnge?
i was making an example and speaking in general terms. it dosent matter who gets what. you are like the one NT'er I despise.
Originally Posted by SoleWoman
Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
Why do YOU already have in mind what gets split and what doesn't. Gas, Water, Cable will always be less than the mortgage. I mean how is that an even excahnge?
i was making an example and speaking in general terms. it dosent matter who gets what. you are like the one NT'er I despise.
Riiiiiiiiiiigggggggghhhhhhh ....Originally Posted by SoleWoman
Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
Why do YOU already have in mind what gets split and what doesn't. Gas, Water, Cable will always be less than the mortgage. I mean how is that an even excahnge?
i was making an example and speaking in general terms. it dosent matter who gets what. you are like the one NT'er I despise.
Riiiiiiiiiiigggggggghhhhhhh ....Originally Posted by SoleWoman
Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
Why do YOU already have in mind what gets split and what doesn't. Gas, Water, Cable will always be less than the mortgage. I mean how is that an even excahnge?
i was making an example and speaking in general terms. it dosent matter who gets what. you are like the one NT'er I despise.
