When did your girl know how much you make & amount in the bank

[antidope]

So I have to be either hiding something or have been hurt in the past to not want someone who's not my immediate family knowing my full financial picture.

Noted

 

[americangenius]

So I have to be either hiding something or have been hurt in the past to not want someone who's not my immediate family knowing my full financial picture.

Noted

You never answered taxes. When you file jointly they will know your salary unless you lie to the gov't or don't provide her a copy of her return.

If you choose not to file jointly, then you'll be leaving tons of money on the table.

 

[hugheyfreeman]

Grandpops told me never let a girl know how much you make and never put her on your mortgage lmao

your gramps is a real one lol.

 

[antidope]

So I have to be either hiding something or have been hurt in the past to not want someone who's not my immediate family knowing my full financial picture.


Noted

You never answered taxes. When you file jointly they will know your salary unless you lie to the gov't or don't provide her a copy of her return.

If you choose not to file jointly, then you'll be leaving tons of money on the table.

Never gave it any thought. I'd have to figure that out eventually

 

[young_keafor24]

Grandpops told me never let a girl know how much you make and never put her on your mortgage lmao

Gramps is the real OG

 

[marcielago]

So I have to be either hiding something or have been hurt in the past to not want someone who's not my immediate family knowing my full financial picture.

Noted

Just curious, but why would you want immediate family knowing your finances anyway? I would think you'd want your wife to know them before your parents/siblings who, when it comes down to it, aren't going to buy a house with you, have children with you (assuming you want them), file taxes with you, etc, etc.

I can see them having a general idea "well he must be doing ok", "he must have some money if he can afford x,y,and z", but for them to have complete knowledge of your finances when they possess no control or power over them, and then have your wife, where quite the opposite is true; know nothing just seems backwards to me.

 

[americangenius]

Never gave it any thought. I'd have to figure that out eventually

Unless you're making money through businesses or off the books, there's no way around reporting taxable income.

If you are balling, you can do the file separately and not care about the tax hit but for the most part your plan won't work.

For the record, I never reveal how much I have or make but I own a business.

 

[antidope]

 

So I have to be either hiding something or have been hurt in the past to not want someone who's not my immediate family knowing my full financial picture.

Noted

Just curious, but why would you want immediate family knowing your finances anyway? I would think you'd want your wife to know them before your parents/siblings who, when it comes down to it, aren't going to buy a house with you, have children with you (assuming you want them), file taxes with you, etc, etc.

I can see them having a general idea "well he must be doing ok", "he must have some money if he can afford x,y,and z", but for them to have complete knowledge of your finances when they possess no control or power over them, and then have your wife, where quite the opposite is true; know nothing just seems backwards to me.

My immediate family will have total insight to my life as long as I live. They are the ones who contributed to my upbringing and made sure I had opportunities to become who I am. As far as I'm concerned the money I make is theres by extension. 

The same can't and may not ever be true of someone who I meet at this age onward. They have already missed a quarter century plus of my life, they don't have a lot of room to add value to it.

Children would get the same treatment as my parents/brothers. A spouse is a tertiary concern.

 

[Belgium]

Most people I know are pretty open about it.
I know exactly how much my close friends make and even how much they have in the bank in some cases.
I'm not gonna bring up money personally but if someone asks I'll tell them.

 

[delete1234]

Dude saying immediate family like yo wife ain't gon be sleeping next to you for the rest of your life(or atleast that's the intention), having kids with you, etc lmaooo.

You must be making a lot of money bro to be acting like this lmao. Dude gon keep his tax return form in a safe

 

[delete1234]

Matter fact, did you grow up with a mom and dad in the household? No shade but seriously asking cuz at a certain point even your kids are gonna know what you make. How your kids gon know but not your wife?

I know what my parents make...I've seen their tax returns, for financial aid, and various other reasons

 

[durden7]

 

So I have to be either hiding something or have been hurt in the past to not want someone who's not my immediate family knowing my full financial picture.


Noted

Just curious, but why would you want immediate family knowing your finances anyway? I would think you'd want your wife to know them before your parents/siblings who, when it comes down to it, aren't going to buy a house with you, have children with you (assuming you want them), file taxes with you, etc, etc.


I can see them having a general idea "well he must be doing ok", "he must have some money if he can afford x,y,and z", but for them to have complete knowledge of your finances when they possess no control or power over them, and then have your wife, where quite the opposite is true; know nothing just seems backwards to me.

My immediate family will have total insight to my life as long as I live. They are the ones who contributed to my upbringing and made sure I had opportunities to become who I am. As far as I'm concerned the money I make is theres by extension. 

The same can't and may not ever be true of someone who I meet at this age onward. They have already missed a quarter century plus of my life, they don't have a lot of room to add value to it.

Children would get the same treatment as my parents/brothers. A spouse is a tertiary concern.

This whole post blows my mind.

 

[Belgium]

Y'all really that tight about money in the US though? I think of a dozen people that aren't family where I know exactly how much they make per month.
Ironically I don't know how much my dad makes though

 

[Chopper]

Y'all really that tight about money in the US though? I think of a dozen people that aren't family where I know exactly how much they make per month.
Ironically I don't know how much my dad makes though

It's just not something most of us deem appropriate to discuss. F I look like walking around telling people how much I make, let alone asking them!?! That's some broke boy **** we don't partake in.

Edit - Antidope wildin the hell out

 

[antidope]

I grew up in a two parent household.

Odds are that she will find out but it won't be because I want her to know.

People in this thread have raised several situations where it would behoove and benefit me to disclose that information to a spouse, and I won't deny those things, but until those days come she won't know.

We aren't running around telling all our friends how much we make why can't I not tell my spouse. Again it's none of her business and its not her money.

 

[nazdrowie]

Y'all really that tight about money in the US though? 

a majority of Americans are broke and finances are a sore topic among us so we regard it as nobody's business but our own...not me though, I'm cool with everyone knowing I'm broke...

Approximately 62% of Americans have less than $1,000 in their savings accounts and 21% don’t even have a savings account, according to a new survey of more than 5,000 adults conducted this month by Google Consumer Survey for personal finance website GOBankingRates.com. “It’s worrisome that such a large percentage of Americans have so little set aside in a savings account,” says Cameron Huddleston, a personal finance analyst for the site. “They likely don’t have cash reserves to cover an emergency and will have to rely on credit, friends and family, or even their retirement accounts to cover unexpected expenses.”

This is supported by a similar survey  of 1,000 adults carried out earlier this year by personal finance site Bankrate.com, which also found that 62% of Americans have no emergency savings for things such as a $1,000 emergency room visit or a $500 car repair. Faced with an emergency, they say they would raise the money by reducing spending elsewhere (26%), borrowing from family and/or friends (16%) or using credit cards (12%). And among those who had savings prior to 2008, 57% said they’d used some or all of their savings in the Great Recession, according to a U.S. Federal Reserve survey of over 4,000 adults released last year. Of course, paltry savings-account ratesdon’t encourage people to save either.

http://www.marketwatch.com/story/most-americans-have-less-than-1000-in-savings-2015-10-06

 

[SoleByThePound]

So your wife knowing how much you make and how your assets are allocated is flexing your bankroll?

NT never fails. Why would anyone marry someone they weren't comfortable sharing that information with?

This place never disappoints

We have a few never getting married/ future miserable divorcees in here.

 

[Belgium]

It's just not something most of us deem appropriate to discuss. F I look like walking around telling people how much I make, let alone asking them!?! That's some broke boy **** we don't partake in.

Edit - Antidope wildin the hell out

It's not really something that gets brought up out of the blue but it's casually talked about in conversations about jobs.
During my nursing internships I've also had people randomly showing me their paycheck to give me an idea of what I'd be making later.
Money isn't that taboo here. You can't be just bringing up how much you make at random without anyone asking but the question of asking how much someone else is fine to most people, if that makes sence.

 

[inshoekid]

I guess I just don't get it. My wife knows things my mom and dad have no clue about. My parents know I'm doing well, but they don't even know exactly what I make. I'm 32, been married long enough to know the more my wife knows the less likely she is to guess and turn something trivial into a big deal.

I have to change my phone passcode every 90 days for work and the day I change it I let her know what the new code is. If I don't, for the first few days I'd never remember it. And I'm an open book with her.

Growing up my dad was completely open with us. I knew how much he made from a young age. He told us so we understood what it took to live like we did. It was how he motivated me to strive to do better than him. I grew up well off, so maybe things are different in my mind because finances have never been a big worry to me. My wife and I both came into our relationship from succesful families. Both families wanted us to sign prenups and we both said we weren't interested in planning for failure.

 

[Mark Antony]

This is nt my dude. Dudes can't even grasp marriage,let alone openness and communication.

 

[marcielago]

 

So I have to be either hiding something or have been hurt in the past to not want someone who's not my immediate family knowing my full financial picture.


Noted

Just curious, but why would you want immediate family knowing your finances anyway? I would think you'd want your wife to know them before your parents/siblings who, when it comes down to it, aren't going to buy a house with you, have children with you (assuming you want them), file taxes with you, etc, etc.


I can see them having a general idea "well he must be doing ok", "he must have some money if he can afford x,y,and z", but for them to have complete knowledge of your finances when they possess no control or power over them, and then have your wife, where quite the opposite is true; know nothing just seems backwards to me.

My immediate family will have total insight to my life as long as I live. They are the ones who contributed to my upbringing and made sure I had opportunities to become who I am. As far as I'm concerned the money I make is theres by extension. 

The same can't and may not ever be true of someone who I meet at this age onward. They have already missed a quarter century plus of my life, they don't have a lot of room to add value to it.

Children would get the same treatment as my parents/brothers. A spouse is a tertiary concern.

Huh? So you're saying that the woman that you marry, that promises to love honor and obey you; stay with you until you DIE; that binds her own life to yours; that gives you your first born child; isn't allowed to know what you make in a year???? How does that even make sense? You say that someone you meet from here onwards wouldn't add much value to your life, but her having your children in itself adds value.

You'd really place your wife and the mother of your kids third in terms of importance in your life?

 

[antidope]

That is what I said. Dressing up the term wife isn't going to change anything

 

[jhowlett]

Me and the wife have a joint account so there is no hiding anything from each other. We went in with the mindset that it's a team thing that we are both going succeed. In order to make it work we can't have any secrets from each other.



If anybody wants to know how much I make they can just look up my unions website

 

[3am scholar]

I've lived with roommates before and in each situation we all had separate accounts. We all talked about how to split each bill and about whom would be responsible. I can't fathom using the same system with my wife as I did with my roommates.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

 
Me and the wife have a joint account so there is no hiding anything from each other. We went in with the mindset that it's a team thing that we are both going succeed. In order to make it work we can't have any secrets from each other.
 
If anybody wants to know how much I make they can just look up my unions website

Do you have your own personal account as well?