When did your girl know how much you make & amount in the bank

[Mark Antony]

 

 

^^^^^so you gon go into marriage lying? The foundation you set is the basis your relationship gon be built on.

What does it matter. My money wouldnt be hers even if I was married. I earned it not she, she does not need to be privy to that information.

She can always take half down the line if she wanted, fam.

Bet you she couldnt. It really is never as cut and dry as "Oh you're married so she has to get half". 

 

 

^^^^^so you gon go into marriage lying? The foundation you set is the basis your relationship gon be built on.

What does it matter. My money wouldnt be hers even if I was married. I earned it not she, she does not need to be privy to that information.


In terms of my family, they deserve to know because they were the ones that contributed to my upbringing and the reason I am who I am. They deserve to know and will have access to my money, a spouse will not.

I agree with you, makes sense in principle, but trust the second you say I do or she says I'm late, all that changes and she will have access to it.


#wrapitupfam #dateUPnotdownatleastlateral

Also no.

Aware us of this world you think exists in your favor.

 

[datznasty]

I assume you know already, but we are all operating under the assumption of a breakup or separation, not implying that the second you get married she automatically is added onto all of your accounts without having to have your sayso

 

[slighted]

She can just allege you abused her, etc. and you're done.

Prenups get thrown out all the time and guys have to take the L. The simple solution: just don't risk it by getting married.

Edit: And get a paternity test if she gets pregnant.

 

[Chopper]

This dude Antidope girl must have just Ethered him.

 

[antidope]

I assume you know already, but we are all operating under the assumption of a breakup or separation, not implying that the second you get married she automatically is added onto all of your accounts without having to have your sayso

I am aware, still doesnt change what I said.

 
She can just allege you abused her, etc. and you're done.

Prenups get thrown out all the time and guys have to take the L. The simple solution: just don't risk it by getting married.

Edit: And get a paternity test if she gets pregnant.

It's not only limited to prenups, there are other ways to protect what is yours/make sure it goes somewhere other than in her hands upon your separation and/or death.

Not saying she wont get some, but half? No way no how. 

We're getting off track here kinda, the point is that someone who I meet at 26 and onward has no reason to know nor can they make any claim that I would deem valid as to why she should have knowledge of my finances. It is none of her business and outside of some legal decree it will never be.

 

[al audi]

What does it matter. My money wouldnt be hers even if I was married. I earned it not she, she does not need to be privy to that information.

In terms of my family, they deserve to know because they were the ones that contributed to my upbringing and the reason I am who I am. They deserve to know and will have access to my money, a spouse will not.

I agree

They can go off whatever job title

I won't tell any girl I know in future about lawsuit they can just assume from my job and my parents jobs that I do well and I come from good family

When she sees my scars I will tell her I survived a shark attack.

 

[slighted]

 

What does it matter. My money wouldnt be hers even if I was married. I earned it not she, she does not need to be privy to that information.

In terms of my family, they deserve to know because they were the ones that contributed to my upbringing and the reason I am who I am. They deserve to know and will have access to my money, a spouse will not.

I agree

They can go off whatever job title

I won't tell any girl I know in future about lawsuit they can just assume from my job and my parents jobs that I do well and I come from good family

When she sees my scars I will tell her I survived a shark attack.

Always admired how @Al Audi has good humor about his nearly fatal accident.

 

[andretti]

Wouldn't tell a soul



It's my money .

 

[antidope]

 

What does it matter. My money wouldnt be hers even if I was married. I earned it not she, she does not need to be privy to that information.

In terms of my family, they deserve to know because they were the ones that contributed to my upbringing and the reason I am who I am. They deserve to know and will have access to my money, a spouse will not.

I agree

They can go off whatever job title

I won't tell any girl I know in future about lawsuit they can just assume from my job and my parents jobs that I do well and I come from good family

When she sees my scars I will tell her I survived a shark attack.

You're kinda going too far with this. With all the resources out there (Glassdoor, Indeed, and general word of mouth) giving a full job title is enough to give someone a ballpark figure. This one is harder to fight but I would try hard not to tell her exactly what I do either. You can know where I work and have a general idea, but job titles and the like? Nah

 

[mplsdunk]

Bruh I've told girls I got in a shark attack. I got a huge scar right down my whole stomach to my d like 2ft long and it was 2 inches wide but I got plastic surgery.

Yeah they can know I'm a cook and assume I'm broke. It's all good that's how I find the real ones. They don't know or need to know everything else.

 

[al audi]

You're kinda going too far with this. With all the resources out there (Glassdoor, Indeed, and general word of mouth) giving a full job title is enough to give someone a ballpark figure. This one is harder to fight but I would try hard not to tell her exactly what I do either. You can know where I work and have a general idea, but job titles and the like? Nah

I'm well aware check earlier in thread, I get what you're saying though like if you work for a company that has many job don't tell her exactly your position.

If ur wife is a nurse based on area and Internet not hard to figure out a range

 

[al audi]

Bruh I've told girls I got in a shark attack. I got a huge scar right down my whole stomach to my d like 2ft long and it was 2 inches wide but I got plastic surgery.

Yeah they can know I'm a cook and assume I'm broke. It's all good that's how I find the real ones. They don't know or need to know everything else.

That's dope as hell

And I respect cooks it's not an easy industry an I remember you have more of a business side not just some line cook.

 

[mplsdunk]

Yeah man. I got a food truck with a friend and am working on some meal planning stuff with some dietitians for athletes coming up. I don't have anything set in stone on that yet but should be good if we can work out a contract.

I would have quit cooking years ago if I didn't have the food truck on the horizon. Line cooking is fun but it isn't gonna pay you ever unless you figure out how not work for someone.

I could never tell anyone that cooking is a good idea. It sucks for the most part. I was unhappy for many years with it but I don't know how to do anything else. I have no degrees or anything and could never get a good paying job using my mind.

It's a means to an end. I'll be done cooking by 35 and onto the next venture.

 

[htg designs]

^^^^^so you gon go into marriage lying? The foundation you set is the basis your relationship gon be built on.

What does it matter. My money wouldnt be hers even if I was married. I earned it not she, she does not need to be privy to that information.

In terms of my family, they deserve to know because they were the ones that contributed to my upbringing and the reason I am who I am. They deserve to know and will have access to my money, a spouse will not.

If you cant be honest wit her, you shouldnt marry her. Unless you just want a wife just to say you have one. If so, then your response makes sense. IF all goes well you will be with your wife longer than your actual family. She will see sides of you your family never has. Your fam was preparing you for life with her....

 

[DCAllAfrican]

Been with my girl about 2.5 and we've lived together for about year. Still don't know the exact amount. I guess once the knot is tied then we will know then. Still not a fan of combined income in one account.


Am I selfish if I want my own saving account on the side?

How would that be selfish? Well, why would that be a bad or wrong thing?

 

[antidope]

^^^^^so you gon go into marriage lying? The foundation you set is the basis your relationship gon be built on.

What does it matter. My money wouldnt be hers even if I was married. I earned it not she, she does not need to be privy to that information.

In terms of my family, they deserve to know because they were the ones that contributed to my upbringing and the reason I am who I am. They deserve to know and will have access to my money, a spouse will not.

If you cant be honest wit her, you shouldnt marry her. Unless you just want a wife just to say you have one. If so, then your response makes sense.

If she really wishes to be married to me she should accept that she's not going to know my financial situation. The fault does not lie on me here. I will have made it clear that she doesn't get to know my financials and her unwillingness to accept that will get her lied to.

Tell me why I should comprise myself and tell someone something they have no business knowing?

 

[slighted]

Been with my girl about 2.5 and we've lived together for about year. Still don't know the exact amount. I guess once the knot is tied then we will know then. Still not a fan of combined income in one account.


Am I selfish if I want my own saving account on the side?

Is it not the norm that a married couple has a shared account + separate personal accounts?

 

[DadNboujee]

Found out before she knew me.


Her best friends boyfriend at the time mentioned to her how much I make.

She doesn't know how much I have in my bank account though.

 

[antidope]

This is a two way street, iIwould never ask her how much she makes either. I don't need to know and it's not my money. If she chooses to disclose that information that's on her and would not be cause for me to do the same.

 

[al audi]

Yeah man. I got a food truck with a friend and am working on some meal planning stuff with some dietitians for athletes coming up. I don't have anything set in stone on that yet but should be good if we can work out a contract.

I would have quit cooking years ago if I didn't have the food truck on the horizon. Line cooking is fun but it isn't gonna pay you ever unless you figure out how not work for someone.

I could never tell anyone that cooking is a good idea. It sucks for the most part. I was unhappy for many years with it but I don't know how to do anything else. I have no degrees or anything and could never get a good paying job using my mind.

It's a means to an end. I'll be done cooking by 35 and onto the next venture.

Yea no doubt, im sure you know cooks who are 50+ tired and struggling and worked many diff places

 

[mangudai954]

I was very surprised when my mother told me that my father would never tell her what he made.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

The idea of you are supposed to relinquish all privacy when you are in a relationship (and even married) isn't something I can subscribe to. You are entitled to your privacy and shouldn't be shamed into giving stuff up off of the idea of, "What do you have to hide?"

Same goes with email, FB, passwords. Cell phone passwords, etc.

 

[htg designs]

^^^^^so you gon go into marriage lying? The foundation you set is the basis your relationship gon be built on.

What does it matter. My money wouldnt be hers even if I was married. I earned it not she, she does not need to be privy to that information.

In terms of my family, they deserve to know because they were the ones that contributed to my upbringing and the reason I am who I am. They deserve to know and will have access to my money, a spouse will not.

If you cant be honest wit her, you shouldnt marry her. Unless you just want a wife just to say you have one. If so, then your response makes sense.

If she really wishes to be married to me she should accept that she's not going to know my financial situation. The fault does not lie on me here. I will have made it clear that she doesn't get to know my financials and her unwillingness to accept that will get her lied to.

Tell me why I should comprise myself and tell someone something they have no business knowing?

If thats some stipulation in the beginning of your relationship and its no hindrance, cool. If it evolves into a marraige and doesnt change, great. I cant knock someone for wanting things how they desire, specially if they are honest bout it from jump. But when yall plan yall life together, money is deciding factor on the degree to which yall dreams can be fulfilled. That planning is best done together. And the more information you both have/share, the better the decision can be made. The best decision is usually the most informed decision.

 

[slighted]

 
The idea of you are supposed to relinquish all privacy when you are in a relationship (and even married) isn't something I can subscribe to. You are entitled to your privacy and shouldn't be shamed into giving stuff up off of the idea of, "What do you have to hide?"

Same goes with email, FB, passwords. Cell phone passwords, etc.

B-b-b-b-b-b-ut if you don't tell her, it means you don't love her.

 

[Mamba4life]

You guys are hilarious. Once you're married, you're married. Just make sure you marry the type of woman who won't spend you into the poor house.