- May 9, 2006
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If I was that dude I wouldn't know what to think. I think you were playing games.
Update p. 14 Does this guy have a right to complain? Vol. Help a sista out.
If I was that dude I wouldn't know what to think. I think you were playing games.
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whip it out???
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"Maybe"
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C'mon daughter
If I was dude I would have just kept it moving after that reply, to men that scream out "NO". Why you might ask? Well men face rejection way morethan women so by you acting like your all that then sometimes dudes will think
-This chick thinks shes the hot stuff (lolz in side head)
- I guess that means no (Oh well at least I tried)
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C'mon daughter
If I was dude I would have just kept it moving after that reply, to men that scream out "NO". Why you might ask? Well men face rejection way morethan women so by you acting like your all that then sometimes dudes will think
-This chick thinks shes the hot stuff (lolz in side head)
- I guess that means no (Oh well at least I tried)
- Feb 12, 2008
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Are you sure that he was serious in getting mad? Maybe he was being sarcastic about it...
But if indeed he was angry, I can understand where he was coming from.
But if indeed he was angry, I can understand where he was coming from.
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Originally Posted by swishasweets
As you can see from all this help.... Women play too much games cause everybody got something different to say
Speaking of everybody got a different thing to say, in the first thread I posted about this guy doing the Ric Flair thing to me, the general consensus was that"he wants to smash." Now, I post that I didn't say "hi" first, and people are saying he's genuinely interested.
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I'm pretty sure he was serious, but the thing is it's not like my telling him the price of his meal was a bad thing or like it was goingto be the only thing I'd say to him the whole day. It was just the first thing that came to mind. He was waiting to pay, right?
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in other words, man up and stop acting like you're in middle school.
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LOL @ this thread.
Cats came in here guns blazing.
Cats came in here guns blazing.
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what do either of these events have to do with each other? the problem isn't that you didn't say "hi" first.. the problem isthat you're playing childish games by throwing all these mixed signals and not being honest with him about how you actually feel. grow up.Originally Posted by SShanique
Originally Posted by swishasweets
As you can see from all this help.... Women play too much games cause everybody got something different to say
Speaking of everybody got a different thing to say, in the first thread I posted about this guy doing the Ric Flair thing to me, the general consensus was that "he wants to smash." Now, I post that I didn't say "hi" first, and people are saying he's genuinely interested.
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I just read your first post. I didn't read any other post or page in this thread but I have come to my conclusion.... You like girls but you just don'tknow it yet
- Oct 28, 2000
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I think its quite fair for him to believe that youre brushing him off. You saying you had to \\\"read\\\" for school sounds like a really bad excuse (even though it isnt) and may have made him hesitant to keep trying with you. Then you say you gave him the impression you didn\\\'t like him? Dudes will pick up on this and leave you alone. He isn\\\'t going to try and chase you if he thinks youre only trying to politely tell him to go away. Try this...next time you go and hes there, mention that there is an olive garden right next to your house but \\\"Something about this place makes me keep coming back\\\" when you\\\'re talking to him. Unless he is dense he will get it. I think at this point some positive signal would help a lot.
That's actually a good idea. I never would have thought of that.
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this is why he's tapping anther female who's being straight forward.
pardon the bluntness...but i had a few drinks.
pardon the bluntness...but i had a few drinks.
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That's actually a good idea. I never would have thought of that.
That's what we been sayin the whole time, give a positive signal that u are in fact interested
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OP is a girl.
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That's another thing that I think about. I see him every few weeks, and I don't know him outside of the workplace. He could very well beinterested in another girl, so I wouldn't want to look dumb expressing my interest if he's into someone else. I must also add that we live inWhitesville, USA. There are enough white girls to go around, but he's interested in me, the black chick. Actually, the last time I saw him at hisrestaurant, he was surrounded by two white girls who were talking to him. Granted, they work for him, but I couldn't help but to be jealous. I startedthinking if he has a number of white girls available to him, then why would he choose me? That also factored into my thinking of why he didn't call me. I'm not totally sure what's going on. I know I think he's the bomb, so I don't see why no one would have snatched him up already. I'mapprehensive about the whole situation.
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That's another thing that I think about. I see him every few weeks, and I don't know him outside of the workplace. He could very well beinterested in another girl, so I wouldn't want to look dumb expressing my interest if he's into someone else. I must also add that we live inWhitesville, USA. There are enough white girls to go around, but he's interested in me, the black chick. Actually, the last time I saw him at hisrestaurant, he was surrounded by two white girls who were talking to him. Granted, they work for him, but I couldn't help but to be jealous. I didn'teven respond to his flirting, because I was uncomfortable in the situation. I started thinking if he has a number of white girls available to him, then whywould he choose me? That also factored into my thinking of why he didn't call me. I'm not totally sure what's going on. I know I think he's thebomb, so I don't see why no one would have snatched him up already. I'm apprehensive about the whole situation.
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zzz...
seriously, this woman is the only woman that needs to man up.
ask HIM questions.. like, hey so watsup with you? single, etc? Lets do this, lets do that, lets go here or there, together holding hands.
Its 2010, women can set plans too. for real. i swear.
YOU said u realized hes interested because he asked aobut you. when do you ask about him? why didnt u try talking to him before? Why is it when HE comes in youare available to talk all a sudden.
BUMP that! I woulda dropped long tiem ago. (=his thoughts)
seriously, this woman is the only woman that needs to man up.
ask HIM questions.. like, hey so watsup with you? single, etc? Lets do this, lets do that, lets go here or there, together holding hands.
Its 2010, women can set plans too. for real. i swear.
YOU said u realized hes interested because he asked aobut you. when do you ask about him? why didnt u try talking to him before? Why is it when HE comes in youare available to talk all a sudden.
BUMP that! I woulda dropped long tiem ago. (=his thoughts)
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This is the problem with too many females nowadays. Its 2010, bout time ya'll acted like it regarding EVERYTHING. You want to be treated as equals, yetdon't want to approach a guy and be straight up with them from the beginning and play stupid hard to get games like you're still in middle school.Here's an idea OP. Instead of coming to a forum to ask the advice of a bunch of people who: 1. Don't know you or the guy personally 2. Most of thepeople aren't mature enough to comment on the subject, and 3. (at least on #NT) are more concerned with smashing than building an actual relationship howabout you TALK TO HIM. There is no handbook in learning how to get to know or deal with another person, don't go to a message board to try and decipherwhat's going on, go to the person and learn directly from the source. It's not that difficult.
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OP, how old are you?
I have girls at my work 11-16 who are more "grown up" then you. i dont mean that harshly but you sound like a lil A!!! girl.
you see dude all the damn time, strike up a damn convo. talkin bout sayin there's an olive garden near you and hopin he gets the hint.
Tell dude straight up," i wanted to go out wit you before, but i had school work. Im free this Friday, we should do something."
you get your date, and you go from there.
SMH
I have girls at my work 11-16 who are more "grown up" then you. i dont mean that harshly but you sound like a lil A!!! girl.
you see dude all the damn time, strike up a damn convo. talkin bout sayin there's an olive garden near you and hopin he gets the hint.
Tell dude straight up," i wanted to go out wit you before, but i had school work. Im free this Friday, we should do something."
you get your date, and you go from there.
SMH
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Truth be told, I was interested in him first. I had this new serving job for the summer (but stayed into the school year). Anyway, my boss talksall the time, and he would talk about this restaurant across the street that he sometimes picked up pizza at. One morning he told me he took fresh basil tothe restaurant owner across the street. Well, later that afternoon, this young guy drove up in a Mercedes. He came in and asked for my boss. I told him hewasn't there, so he said that my boss had brought him some fresh basil. Okay, my bosses are in their 50s, so I was expecting the owner of the restaurantacross the street to be old. He asked for a menu to order something to go. Then he started calling someone. He told me that he was eating in. I liked whatI saw, so I started asking him questions about himself. I learned that he was a 25-year-old Italian. Some people came to join him, a woman and a little boy. I thought it was his girlfriend and son, and then he said, "This is my sister." He was not interested in me at all then. I didn't see him forlike 3 months, and then the first time we saw each other after that, he was different. He seemed to have missed seeing me, and he was asking all kinds ofpersonal questions. It was then that he learned I was in law school, that I was older than he thought (although I told him how old I was the first day I methim. He didn't care back then, though), and he told me I could come to the birthday party he was having in 2 days.
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OP OP OP
, just ask the dude out for pete's sake. U know where he work, go holla at the kid and quit w/ the shenanigans.
/thread
And this a real life grown folks "A Bronx Tale"
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And this a real life grown folks "A Bronx Tale"
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whip THEM out.
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Good approach, but I talked to the last guy I was kind of interested in. He was lying his butt off, and it turns out that he was just trying to get me tosleep with him. I asked a question about him on a message board, and the guys told me that he wanted to sleep with me. But I was like nooooooo, this guy hasliked me for so long, like he said. He put my picture as the screensaver on his computer. He put me on his Top Friends list on myspace. He wrote a rap songabout me. Yada, yada, yada. Turns out, he just wanted to sleep with me, and as soon as I wouldn't he did a 180 and "wifed" a fat Latin chickwith 3 kids.
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Originally Posted by SShanique
Good approach, but I talked to the last guy I was kind of interested in. He was lying his butt off, and it turns out that he was just trying to get me to sleep with him. I asked a question about him on a message board, and the guys told me that he wanted to sleep with me. But I was like nooooooo, this guy has liked me for so long, like he said. He put my picture as the screensaver on his computer. He put me on his Top Friends list on myspace. He wrote a rap song about me. Yada, yada, yada. Turns out, he just wanted to sleep with me, and as soon as I wouldn't he did a 180 and "wifed" a fat Latin chick with 3 kids.She went from nowhere on his top friends list to #3, way above me. It wasn't because I wouldn't sleep with him, because even if I had he would have been with me one night and then asked that girl to be his girlfriend the next. I know not everybody's like that, but I try to be cautious because I don't ever want to be in a situation like that again.
"When you start to equate and base your opinion on an entire group of people based on a single experience, you are deciding to become ignorantto the fact that no two people are exactly alike." ~ The U.R.G.
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