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I can't imagine being a black female and reading through all 30+ pages of this thread.
I'd want to punch someone.
I'd want to punch someone.
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Originally Posted by Id Walk a Mile for a Camel
I can't imagine being a black female and reading through all 30+ pages of this thread.
I'd want to punch someone.
You give guys the benefit of the doubt that for the most part, can feel a chick out (no pun intended) before they get to know said chick. But whena dude said you seemed like you were too much work, you got upset. And I could understand if this was just one dude but you said guys so more than one dudepicked up this vibe. The dudes were giving their honest opinion which is a trait that females are supposed to like. To me it just didn't match up with howyou said you were earlier but then again I could be reaching or it could just be a dude that wants to smash.Originally Posted by HarlemKickDiva
Talk to me what's not adding up?Originally Posted by p0tat0 5alad
This isn't adding up.Originally Posted by HarlemKickDiva
I understand all girls aren't saints. But like I have said in this thread I have had guys tell me "I look like too much work" So you're telling me that had I just let you use me at your discretion then you'd want to get to know me? That's unaccceptable. And idc if I'm called w/e name under the sun my morals are in tact and I know what's really good.
I am from hood, hell I still live here. And you know what?Ya'll dudes (general statement) aren't that stupid. You know who these girls are when you start talking to them. You know the girl will argue with you, you know she's a hoodrat, but you don't care because some of you think bomb @ss sex is worth it. And quite frankly alot of men in this thread are full of it because ya'll don't even realize you are subconsciously attracted to that in which you are complaining about....
Originally Posted by shortydoowopp
So who took this thing to youtube?
chefiya (2 weeks ago)
Stop making excuses and BE MEN, Yall complain when we are independent and complain when we arent, Its a problem if we are too weak and if we are too strong.. Stop making excuses and find yaselves. Be more of a man instead of spending so much time looking like one on the outside learn how to be one on the inside
That's what I'm saying. No respect at all but that's how he likes em and picks them I guess. He doesn't have to come correct he just has to lay pipe correctly. He knows his role there.Originally Posted by Capricorn1229
Originally Posted by OptimusPrimeAPhiA
In an effort to not turn this into an ANTI black women post...we should note that NOT EVERYONE is like this...Originally Posted by Sixfoot nathan
wow.. i just had to come in and co-sign most of the stuff i read here
i'm in an interracial relationship with a black girl from the west indies, who's only been in north america for less than 10 years and hasnt been much influenced by some of the situations that were mentioned before. Although it seems that many of her friends are also single mothers, unwed,etc. even at older ages and it seems to be the norm.
i dont know her full dating history and if they've all seemed to be losers.. but i doubt it. the reason for the failed relationships.. who knows if what she says is the truth or not
everything i ask her she denies off bat.. and not just when it comes to serious talks, even daily conversation she acts like im interogating her and she will be convicted if she agrees with something thats being asked
i dont have much experience with black women (only been with 2) but i'd have to say that all the conceived notions of upset black women pertaining to men in general .. not just black men.. are on point. i also share the same feelings as a 'tired black man'
i'm expected to drop everything im doing to cater to her ALL THE TIME, and reciprication needs to be petitioned for before it is even considered
there's too much stuff to rant about.. so i'll just keep reading and learn from my mistakes
although i love the good side of her, im disgusted by the rest.. screw face,teeth sucking,slick talk,irrelevant excuses, and lack of personal well being
i respect a woman with an opinion, but i cannot respect someone who does not express it with respect for another
this is definitely helping me with some closure to a relationship lost
But to the NT females who feel we're talking to them, don't get gassed up and take this personally...but we all can't be lying about feeling the same way...
There is a pervasive lack of respect...and a lack of reciprocity...but we still love ya'll...
...but why ya'll gotta make it so hard? Or is chivalry truly dead and we want 50/50 in the world...
It's too late for that. What else don't you like about black women again? AND you don't love us because if you did you would have stopped and known that this is just the beginning so now it is what it is and the line has been drawn.
Note to the black men in here because clearly I wonder now who all is black: When you have your black daughters with whoever get ready for this kind of downing on the regular. Hopefully she can speak for herself and is strong(I know yall HATE THAT WORD) enough to take this BUT wait some of you in here will want her to submit to this kind of bashing just b/c somebody in your past #@$! on you...I forgot.
I mean it goes both ways guys....
There's someone in this thread who has posted making a joke about the lack of goog black women in his age group....
He also gets serious and asks "how can we uplift our black women yada yada"
Yet he made a thread about having 2 girlfriends, girls, JOs or whatever....
But really? You want respect and understanding...
Yet you decide to be triffling and date multiple females at the same time? Where's the respect there?
Yet you decide to be triffling and date multiple females at the same time? Where's the respect there?
I'm sorry...but Flex talked about this...it aint the old days when our parents came up and you dated someone and knew what time it was...samething about my example of my lifestyle above...you gotta constantly date people in order to find the right one. Experience is the best teacher...especially inthe field, I'm in...i rarely talk to any chick in my industry. There's no disrespect in letting a dude know what time it is and that you're seeingother people because if he was smart he'd already assume that. Same thing I tell females: "I'm not looking for a relationship but if it happens ithappens. We'll take things how they come, but I'm extremely busy and I'm also talking to other people". See! It's all funky andthere's no harm because I'm upfront. She has the freedom to choose and (try to) change my mind which often leads to them hating my guts...#!%backwardsly because I told em what time it is and they subconsciously hate themselves for failing...I'll give it up to females...ya'll know come upwhen you see one...whew..not to sound like Goldie..but the BADDEST chick I ever been with used to talk this whle game about wanting a dude to support her andall this +#$ about me falling in love with her...I dropped that chick like a bad pass. Just because I could. I really cut losses early.
It's business people. Chess, not checkers.
What exactly do you do?Originally Posted by blackmagnus514
I'll give it up to females...ya'll know come up when you see one...whew..not to sound like Goldie..but the BADDEST chick I ever been with used to talk this whle game about wanting a dude to support her and all this +#$ about me falling in love with her...I dropped that chick like a bad pass. Just because I could. I really cut losses early.
It's business people. Chess, not checkers.
Originally Posted by shortydoowopp
Originally Posted by HarlemKickDiva
I mean it goes both ways guys....
There's someone in this thread who has posted making a joke about the lack of goog black women in his age group....
He also gets serious and asks "how can we uplift our black women yada yada"
Yet he made a thread about having 2 girlfriends, girls, JOs or whatever....
But really? You want respect and understanding...
Yet you decide to be triffling and date multiple females at the same time? Where's the respect there?
notice they were both white girls tho...he knows a sista would have his $#+% cut up on the lawn waiting for him when he got back from Cali...
that was a joke...kinda
Originally Posted by shortydoowopp
Originally Posted by OptimusPrimeAPhiA
...but why ya'll gotta make it so hard? Or is chivalry truly dead and we want 50/50 in the world...
OP CHANGE THE TITLE OF THE TOPIC...we on some whole other tip right now...
i think alot of black women are on the defensive from jump...just watching people and how they act you think to yourself..."he's not about to play me" or whatever...so you have this guard up and for alot of women that becomes who they are...
there's more but i'm not about to type and essay...
basically what i've said the past three pages...Originally Posted by shortydoowopp
Originally Posted by OptimusPrimeAPhiA
...but why ya'll gotta make it so hard? Or is chivalry truly dead and we want 50/50 in the world...
OP CHANGE THE TITLE OF THE TOPIC...we on some whole other tip right now...
i think alot of black women are on the defensive from jump...just watching people and how they act you think to yourself..."he's not about to play me" or whatever...so you have this guard up and for alot of women that becomes who they are...
there's more but i'm not about to type and essay...
Originally Posted by SuperAntigen
what's more to blame than that?Originally Posted by Thugnificence
Damn i wish i had a computer so i could participate in this thread... but all i got is my phone so ill do a lil mini response...
People always talk about how black women always have to be on the defensive because they are always being talked bad about... they always have to have their guard up & be so "strong & independent"...
But lets realize that black women talk bad about black men just as much... but do you see black men getting all defensive & trying to make it overly difficult for men to get to know them...
And to all the people who talked about the lack of respect that black women show men... that is the complete truth...
And i hope people don't blame BWs lack of respect on not having a father...
Also the biggest thing i agreed with... was the person who said that black womens problems start with their mothers telling them to find a man that will take care of them... as opposed to finding a man who respects you, is honest, loving, caring, & all other qualities of a good man...
*Looks around post* Nah you never see that, black dudes don't be saying nothing negative about black women.Originally Posted by Thugnificence
Damn i wish i had a computer so i could participate in this thread... but all i got is my phone so ill do a lil mini response...
People always talk about how black women always have to be on the defensive because they are always being talked bad about... they always have to have their guard up & be so "strong & independent"...
But lets realize that black women talk bad about black men just as much... but do you see black men getting all defensive & trying to make it overly difficult for men to get to know them...
And to all the people who talked about the lack of respect that black women show men... that is the complete truth...
And i hope people don't blame BWs lack of respect on not having a father...
Also the biggest thing i agreed with... was the person who said that black womens problems start with their mothers telling them to find a man that will take care of them... as opposed to finding a man who respects you, is honest, loving, caring, & all other qualities of a good man...
Originally Posted by airmissionretro
Originally Posted by shortydoowopp
Originally Posted by OptimusPrimeAPhiA
...but why ya'll gotta make it so hard? Or is chivalry truly dead and we want 50/50 in the world...
OP CHANGE THE TITLE OF THE TOPIC...we on some whole other tip right now...
i think alot of black women are on the defensive from jump...just watching people and how they act you think to yourself..."he's not about to play me" or whatever...so you have this guard up and for alot of women that becomes who they are...
there's more but i'm not about to type and essay...
And this has been too common too...but I attribute that to the copious amount of "thirst" in a lot of black men these days.
Also, Ms. shortydoowopp...you don't have to type an essay but you can still share more of your statement---this is a perfect opportunity to express and contribute to our problem as a Black community---I would like to hear more from the women too.
And like AphiA said, this isn't a anti-black women post, by no means at all. This is a problem that exists in the Black community as a whole---both men and women.
I will share more my thoughts later on....
but do you see black men getting all defensive & trying to make it overly difficult for men to get to know them
lies...if a thread was started but ended up going in this same direction about BM there would be pages and pages about slavery,racism, COINTELPRO and anything else you can think of to explain why BM are where alot of them are today...but when it comes to women we're just suppose toknow how to diagnos the problem when no one wants to look at how it got this way the only one who came close was airmissionretro (who i'm developing an e-crush on) with his thing about welfare and some points on slavery...
And i hope people don't blame BWs lack of respect on not having a father...
if not that than what? BW are just born disrespectful? A father is KEY in any childs development...for different reasons but he is needed equally by bothsexes...ya'll need to tell some of your boys to step up...and some of these ladies need to chill...
was the person who said that black womens problems start with their mothers telling them to find a man that will take care of them... as opposed to finding a man who respects you, is honest, loving, caring, & all other qualities of a good man...
trust and believe thats not a black thing...its more a woman thing...