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I have my moments of rationalityOriginally Posted by Jking0821
I think your actually rational though thats the problemOriginally Posted by Nawth21
nah not trying to go in and people in general are just grimy. But I'd rather get dumped than cheated on. That's the whole point of dating though, finding out if they're compatible for you etc etc and sometimes something better comes along. Getting dumped or doing the dumping is just a fact of dating life. There's no emotional betrayal though. It's easier to get over being dumped than it is to get over being cheated and lied to.
There is nothing wrong with the inability to be monogamous. That's who you are and isn't necessarily a conscience choice to be that way. It is wrong to lie to the other person about it though.
A lot of girls just wild out on you no matter what. The old "o you have a new girl 3 weeks after we broke up you prob cheated on me with her". Girls need some sort of reason for the break up and apparently "I think i can do better" doesn't suffice.
I'm not sure if not being monogamous is a life long trait or not though? I don't know if anyone at a young age looks in the mirror and says "I am never going to get married I am not a monogamous person". If you can say that then you prob shouldn't lie and try to find an open relationship but if you can't yet i think its just part of the maturing process.
I have my moments of rationalityOriginally Posted by Jking0821
I think your actually rational though thats the problemOriginally Posted by Nawth21
nah not trying to go in and people in general are just grimy. But I'd rather get dumped than cheated on. That's the whole point of dating though, finding out if they're compatible for you etc etc and sometimes something better comes along. Getting dumped or doing the dumping is just a fact of dating life. There's no emotional betrayal though. It's easier to get over being dumped than it is to get over being cheated and lied to.
There is nothing wrong with the inability to be monogamous. That's who you are and isn't necessarily a conscience choice to be that way. It is wrong to lie to the other person about it though.
A lot of girls just wild out on you no matter what. The old "o you have a new girl 3 weeks after we broke up you prob cheated on me with her". Girls need some sort of reason for the break up and apparently "I think i can do better" doesn't suffice.
I'm not sure if not being monogamous is a life long trait or not though? I don't know if anyone at a young age looks in the mirror and says "I am never going to get married I am not a monogamous person". If you can say that then you prob shouldn't lie and try to find an open relationship but if you can't yet i think its just part of the maturing process.
Originally Posted by starzinoureyes
Knowledge has been dropped.Originally Posted by Nawth21
No. It's not complicated. If you can't be monogamous you should be upfront about this. If she is looking for a committed, monogamous relationship it will be unfair to her. It's not that you shouldn't be in relationships - open relationships work for some couples, but if you have to LIE about it then you need to think about more than just yourself and how your actions impact other people. Stop being selfish and just be honest about yourself and the type of person you are. WHY you can't be committed is neither here nor there.
Originally Posted by starzinoureyes
Knowledge has been dropped.Originally Posted by Nawth21
No. It's not complicated. If you can't be monogamous you should be upfront about this. If she is looking for a committed, monogamous relationship it will be unfair to her. It's not that you shouldn't be in relationships - open relationships work for some couples, but if you have to LIE about it then you need to think about more than just yourself and how your actions impact other people. Stop being selfish and just be honest about yourself and the type of person you are. WHY you can't be committed is neither here nor there.
Preach man.Originally Posted by AntonLaVey
99.9 of my friends with gfs cheat on them, im starting to think this is the norm
Preach man.Originally Posted by AntonLaVey
99.9 of my friends with gfs cheat on them, im starting to think this is the norm
No. It's not complicated.
Yes, it is, you are trying to paint every person that has cheated with a broad brush. Not every person is the same, not every situation is the same, not every relationship is the same.
If you can't be monogamous you should be upfront about this. If she is looking for a committed, monogamous relationship it will be unfair to her. It's not that you shouldn't be in relationships - open relationships work for some couples, but if you have to LIE about it then you need to think about more than just yourself and how your actions impact other people.
I don't have any kids at the moment, but when I do and if I have a daughter can you please point me to the Unicorn stable?
What if the cheating party has every intention of being monogamous at the inception of the relationship but later down the line, hey %!+% happens.
I get all that, but it's unfair to the other person in the relationship to lie about your intentions.
Unfortunately, life isn't about fairness. Yes, it is selfish for someone to withhold the truth, however their intentions is to save the relationship.
One thing I do believe is that once the other person finds out about the cheating, it's over. Done deal.
There comes a time to be an adult and be honest about who you are. If you can't find another woman who is willing to put up with that? Tough !#$%.
Monogamy has nothing to do with being an Adult. I actually give credit to the friends I know, and the posters that have said that they know they are getting into a relationship but cheating is inevitable. They don't have the intention to cheat, but they know down the line it's going to happen. Isn't that "being honest with who you are?". It doesn't mean be honest to the other person, life isn't fair "Tough %!+%".
Learn to be monogamous or put up with irregular sex.
This statement can easily be flipped for a person cheating and confessing, telling his significant other: You need to learn how to be open because you don't give me regular sex.
Eventually the girl will realize the type of person that guy is and hopefully move on and not be too negatively impacted by the infidelity.
Unfortunately the girl or guy will realize that "the type of person" is fairly common and doesn't have a distinguished personality, career, religion, sex, race, creed, etc.
I'm glad I'm not a guy where I'm so easily swayed and influenced by sex.
Most of my friends who stray, this is what their girlfriends say.
If you cheat ... It means you're not in love
Thank you Mr. Authority on Love.
No. It's not complicated.
Yes, it is, you are trying to paint every person that has cheated with a broad brush. Not every person is the same, not every situation is the same, not every relationship is the same.
If you can't be monogamous you should be upfront about this. If she is looking for a committed, monogamous relationship it will be unfair to her. It's not that you shouldn't be in relationships - open relationships work for some couples, but if you have to LIE about it then you need to think about more than just yourself and how your actions impact other people.
I don't have any kids at the moment, but when I do and if I have a daughter can you please point me to the Unicorn stable?
What if the cheating party has every intention of being monogamous at the inception of the relationship but later down the line, hey %!+% happens.
I get all that, but it's unfair to the other person in the relationship to lie about your intentions.
Unfortunately, life isn't about fairness. Yes, it is selfish for someone to withhold the truth, however their intentions is to save the relationship.
One thing I do believe is that once the other person finds out about the cheating, it's over. Done deal.
There comes a time to be an adult and be honest about who you are. If you can't find another woman who is willing to put up with that? Tough !#$%.
Monogamy has nothing to do with being an Adult. I actually give credit to the friends I know, and the posters that have said that they know they are getting into a relationship but cheating is inevitable. They don't have the intention to cheat, but they know down the line it's going to happen. Isn't that "being honest with who you are?". It doesn't mean be honest to the other person, life isn't fair "Tough %!+%".
Learn to be monogamous or put up with irregular sex.
This statement can easily be flipped for a person cheating and confessing, telling his significant other: You need to learn how to be open because you don't give me regular sex.
Eventually the girl will realize the type of person that guy is and hopefully move on and not be too negatively impacted by the infidelity.
Unfortunately the girl or guy will realize that "the type of person" is fairly common and doesn't have a distinguished personality, career, religion, sex, race, creed, etc.
I'm glad I'm not a guy where I'm so easily swayed and influenced by sex.
Most of my friends who stray, this is what their girlfriends say.
If you cheat ... It means you're not in love
Thank you Mr. Authority on Love.
The old "o you have a new girl 3 weeks after we broke up you prob cheated on me with her". Girls need some sort of reason for the break up and apparently "I think i can do better" doesn't suffice.
why are you still communicating with exes?
The old "o you have a new girl 3 weeks after we broke up you prob cheated on me with her". Girls need some sort of reason for the break up and apparently "I think i can do better" doesn't suffice.
why are you still communicating with exes?
why are you still communicating with exes?Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
The old "o you have a new girl 3 weeks after we broke up you prob cheated on me with her". Girls need some sort of reason for the break up and apparently "I think i can do better" doesn't suffice.
why are you still communicating with exes?Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
The old "o you have a new girl 3 weeks after we broke up you prob cheated on me with her". Girls need some sort of reason for the break up and apparently "I think i can do better" doesn't suffice.