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She don’t love you mayne..She recently got engaged and has already told me, that she has no plans to stop seeing because she loves me..
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She don’t love you mayne..She recently got engaged and has already told me, that she has no plans to stop seeing because she loves me..
Confidence, as it pertains to relationships with women, is overrated. Some women don't mind a guy who is flawed, a guy they can nurture. And some like a guy with the gusto to take control. Obviously you need to start loving yourself more, but don't think you're gonna blow it with a woman just because you have some deeply rooted insecurity. Be open about how you feelI have been holding on to my past and letting it control way too much of my current life and it’s been keeping me out of relationships. I got bullied a lot in school, I was called fat, goofy, ugly and poor. I was a military brat, so this went on state to state, school to school. Probably, around the 9th grade, with that happening everywhere I went, I bought in and truly believed I was ugly and no woman was ever going to be interested. I don't think really realized how far away I am from that kid, until recently. If I was to tell people close to me now, they wouldn't even believe it. ****, my mom didn't while it was happening. I know now, but that kid still pops up when I meet a woman I'm REALLY into. I'll go in so cool and confident, then realize that this could be something major and they just start pushing away. After that my confidence will be shook. Deep down, I don't ever think I'm good enough. I did it recently, I really really wanted this one. She would give me chances but I would always **** it up thinking I already ****** it up.
My parents had me when they were young. So it was a lot of thing they didn't understand. Especially my pops. He didn't understand that being there physically didn't mean anything if you don't know WHY your supposed to be there. I don't think as a man or a father, he understood all he had to do was instill confidence in me and everything was going to fall into place. He would always put me down and tell me I wasn't good enough. I mean, he was trying to motivate me, but when you're getting negativity from both sides, it doesn't work. Theres wayyy more issues with him, but I don't have the time. I really don't want to be like him. I guess what I'm going through is necessary. I hope getting this off my chest helps make things better.
real ****. shes using old buddy like a hooker then going back to her man. having her cake and eating it too. my bro was in a situation like this for a couple years and i was steady telling him not to let shorty use him like that or at least get something more than sex out of it. and he actually wanted to be a in relationship with this chick at one pointShe don’t love you mayne..
2018 has been rough.
My dad had a stroke this past summer, which re-ignited the pursuit of my goals.
I'm 89 days sober today.
I've become a board member at various non-profits and gotten more involved with mentoring kids.
But through all of this, I'm the rock that my family depends/leans on.
So I have to be stoic, in control, and resilient.
This past week, I had an interview with a psychologist who simply asked me "Are you okay"?
I realized I'm not okay (haven't been for a while), so it pained me to say yes.
I'll eventually hit a breaking point, but until then, I'll just keep it moving like I always do.
No one in my life knows any of this^, so NT is really my therapist.
For that, I'll always be grateful. In a way, NT is the only true constant in my life.
All the best man, happy to hear your dad's getting better.Update
Dad is improving daily, a small pacemaker is basically keeping him alive
Mom has lost a lot of weight, stressing over this + taking care of him 24/7
I look back at 2018 and split myself in two: the person I was before my dad's stroke + the person I am now
I've jumped deeper into my volunteering work
Mentoring HS kids + creating art with kids with autism/disabilities + teaching 8-year-olds at church + tutoring 5th graders at a Harlem school
And I enjoy the experiences; the kids have really changed my life
But I've essentially cut out dating
Dad always told me that I should be careful messing with the wrong, low quality females
I feel like I've set higher expectations for myself in all areas now and won't accept anything less
And I'm 27, getting pressured fam to get married, but your boy doesn't wanna just settle
Mans just want a wife and a few pickney. Had nothing to do all day so I ended up sitting and reflecting. Y'all ever bust a nut and just look at her and think....I don't like you like that. Been feeling like that for a minute. The most recent girl I'm talking to is nice. Perfectly nice. But she's just not it. And obviously smashing my ex same time not helpful either though I'm stopping that. Just want to find a satisfying relationship.
Just invest in yourself bro. I find that the best things come when you least expect it. As far as women go if nothing else take the time to not necessarily find wifey, but to find qualities you like and qualities you don’t like in women as well as with yourself when handling women. When you least expect it, wifey will enter
Mental health is too overlooked, thankfully it is coming to the public light more. Good luck with your therapy sessions.I don't remember if this was the original thread, but I was talking about not seeking out therapy because I figured it'd just be too expensive...
Well, it's part of my insurance plan. Found an office im comfortable with and going to start this Thursday.
Looking forward to it.
I don't remember if this was the original thread, but I was talking about not seeking out therapy because I figured it'd just be too expensive...
Well, it's part of my insurance plan. Found an office im comfortable with and going to start this Thursday.
Looking forward to it.