TAY: thread about yambs...

[jjs]

Then find out what you want to do.

But she's messing with another dude, better act quick before it gets serious (she already gave up the yambs so )

 

[memphissfinest]

i texted yambs friday night on some random s*** and she lets me know she got her roku box fixed and i should come over and watch moves and tv shows with her. I didnt know she meant like right now. I was tired and declined smh.

MY FELLOW NIGERIAN CAT, I CAN'T HELP BUT NOTICE THAT YOU ARE TAKING MAJOR LOSSES AS OF LATE IN YOUR RECENT POSTS. YOU NEED TO TURN THIS AROUND ASAP.

DO I NEED TO TAKE ANOTHER TRIP UP TO CHI-TOWN AND HELP YOU FIND SOME GOOD STEADY YAMBS TO HELP END THIS "L" STREAK?

 

[storm2006]

NT Yambily,

I need some advice, guidance and/or reassurance. Saturday night I went out and met a chick at the bar towards the end of the night. We talked for a bit, did a little dancing and kissed some as well. She then said I was good looking and could have any girl at the bar and I told her that I chose her. She responded that she wasn't going to go home with me to which I replied "I wouldn't expect you to because I never asked". She gave me her number and told me that if I was legit, I would hit her up the next day to set up a coffee date. I end up texting her and she replied in the afternoon and asked for a rain check. We texted all day and eventually decided that we're going to get dinner on Friday night.

I know this all sounds good but we were both pretty drunk. Maybe even her more so than myself. Fortunately, she put her full name in my phone so I've been able to find photos of her online to verify she's hot. However, she just has my generic first name. I'm worried that she may not remember what I look like. Granted, I've talked to sober girls for hours and had them not respond. And I've talked to drunk girls and had them not respond. So the fact that she replied is obviously promising, but what are the chances that she actually doesn't remember me?

 

[championboyz7]

Was chopping it up with shorty after class and she kept saying that she was hungry. I asked her if she gtta go to work right away after class (she usually does) . She said nah why? So I asked her if she wanted to grab something to eat then she. said nah I can't I gtta go to work. I just shrugged it away and said cool and we parted ways to the car. Why she gtta keep saying she hungry this and that all that time to me in class yet when I ask her she turns it down? .Don't make no sense

 

[ballinsam23]

Need some advice as well my fellow yambily

Friday night I went out and met a chick at a college bar towards the end of the night. We did alot of dancing and hooked up here and there.

Her: Im visiting friends from another school but I'm transferring here (my school) next semester blah blah blah
Her: I dont want my friends to see me with you. (she kept saying throughout the night that I was "too cute" no idea if this is a good thing or bad thing)

She then took my phone and put her # in it and texted herself so she could have my number (I didnt ask for it). This is when things get interesting.....

Her friends (two white dudes) came up and kept asking her "what are you doing!?!?" and she responded to just leave her alone with me and they left. She then grabs my hand and walks me to the bar bathroom, and at this point i'm like . Then two girls walk in the bathroom, and I guess my girl gets embarrassed and we walk out. Then our convo goes like this:

Me: I live down the block if you wanna come cover.
Her: No you dont stop lying.
Me: Na, I have my own place you should check it out.
Her: I cant leave my friends, I dont know this area.
Me: I can always bring you back.
Her: If i leave with you i'm not coming back (no idea what this means) and I'm not like that

So now I kissed her again here and there to try to make her change her mind quick.

Me: I dont judge anyone. We both like each other so it doesn't matter. Plus, no one likes sleeping alone ( thats my closing pick up line )
Her: Trust me i'll call you, i'm transferring here next semester.

We kiss again and I dip with my friend.

So now I have this girls # and name. What are my options?

1. Do I hit her up at all anytime soon?
2. Do I save the # for future use (next semester)
3. I found her on Facebook, no idea if I should send her a friend request either ( I never take this route).
4. Take the L?

 

[royal assassin]

1. Do I hit her up at all anytime soon?
2. Do I save the # for future use (next semester)
3. I found her on Facebook, no idea if I should send her a friend request either ( I never take this route).
4. Take the L?

Don't play no games playa, hit ol' girl up before you fade into obscurity.  She wants to give up the yambs but felt awkward that night cuz she didn't want her fambs to get all judgemental on her for bouncing for some D.  Text her some **** in the mornin' like, 'ey gurl, word of advice never cook bacon naked,' or some **** to make her laugh and don't even mention the other night, just keep the convo movin' and she'll let you know when/where the yambs will be had.  don't fb stalk her tho man, it's not a good look 

 

[hoosierdaddy317]

You dudes are always overthinking easy yambz

 

[niquefreak94]

Just had a random thought and this is the best thread for it:
There's a quick, easy way to negate the "we all pay for pu$$y in some way" thing that people who buy escorts like to throw out (which i hate)
When you pay for something...you are exchanging currency for a specific thing.
When you pay for sex...they are having sex with you because, and only because, you are paying them.
If you take a girl out to eat blah blah blah...you are exchanging money for a specific service: movie, food, etc. for you and said girl.
If she has sex with you it is because she is sexually attracted to you. You didn't pay her to do so. Paying for a date is just a custom.
You can take a girl to dinner and a movie and she not be sexually attracted to you and then y'all don't have sex.
Escorts can't do that. You pay them...they have sex with you.
Y'all can twist it however you want...but you will just be bending the truth and trying to be a smart ***.

 

[maybachmargiela]

Some of the e-playas and e-pimps on here need to go into that backpage thread....and let those johns, suckers, tricks, simps...know what time it is...

they are trying to rationalize paying 150-200 an hour to sleep with a pro/escort/call girl

Dudes do not know how to talk to women...

 

[memphissfinest]

You dudes are always overthinking easy yambz

THIS.

THIS THREAD DELIVERS SO MUCH LULZ.

STAY THIRSTY MY FELLOW TAY'ERS.

 

[royal assassin]

Just had a random thought and this is the best thread for it:
There's a quick, easy way to negate the "we all pay for pu$$y in some way" thing that people who buy escorts like to throw out (which i hate)
When you pay for something...you are exchanging currency for a specific thing.
When you pay for sex...they are having sex with you because, and only because, you are paying them.
If you take a girl out to eat blah blah blah...you are exchanging money for a specific service: movie, food, etc. for you and said girl.
If she has sex with you it is because she is sexually attracted to you. You didn't pay her to do so. Paying for a date is just a custom.
You can take a girl to dinner and a movie and she not be sexually attracted to you and then y'all don't have sex.
Escorts can't do that. You pay them...they have sex with you.
Y'all can twist it however you want...but you will just be bending the truth and trying to be a smart ***.

no disrespect my dude, but how does this negate the argument?  you're saying if dude pays for a date but doesn't close he didn't pay for yambs and somehow that's A) a good thing and B) proves that you don't always pay for it?  to me that says that you couldn't close and just wasted $$$$ when you could have used it for guaranteed yambs.  dude who messed up on the date and didn't close still paid for it, but got robbed.

 

[niquefreak94]

no disrespect my dude, but how does this negate the argument?  you're saying if dude pays for a date but doesn't close he didn't pay for yambs and somehow that's A) a good thing and B) proves that you don't always pay for it?  to me that says that you couldn't close and just wasted $$$$ when you could have used it for guaranteed yambs.  dude who messed up on the date and didn't close still paid for it, but got robbed.

well then your reading comprehension skills are bad then.
People say that when you pay for a date...you're paying for sex.
I'm saying that's not true
1. because paying for something means you are getting something solely because you payed for it
2. you can pay for a date and still not smash meaning that a woman has to be sexually attracted to you to have sex with you unless she's an escort.
3. when you pay for an escort you are specifically paying for sex. idk about the rest of nt, or care, but dates or fun. i like movies...i like women's company...i like eating and talking to them. i'm getting something out of the date other than sex anyway. when we DO have sex after the date that's because we are sexually attracted to each other. not simply because i bought her food and payed for a movie.

what you're saying does not go at all with what i'm saying, but i like i said people can twist anything and make it work for them.

 

[primetime21]

well then your reading comprehension skills are bad then.
People say that when you pay for a date...you're paying for sex.
I'm saying that's not true
1. because paying for something means you are getting something solely because you payed for it
2. you can pay for a date and still not smash meaning that a woman has to be sexually attracted to you to have sex with you unless she's an escort.
3. when you pay for an escort you are specifically paying for sex. idk about the rest of nt, or care, but dates or fun. i like movies...i like women's company...i like eating and talking to them. i'm getting something out of the date other than sex anyway. when we DO have sex after the date that's because we are sexually attracted to each other. not simply because i bought her food and payed for a movie.
what you're saying does not go at all with what i'm saying, but i like i said people can twist anything and make it work for them.

TALK TO 'EM!

 

[maybachmargiela]

Co-sign niquefreak 100%.

That's my point in that escort thread.

So it's all about sex?

You don't value companionship, compatibility, friendship, chemistry, fun good time?

If that's the case go eff a hole in the wall or just jerk it in the shower.

Good luck getting married or being in a serious long term relationship.

Dudes was saying because I went to dinner movies with a chick it was a waste because I'm paying for sex and wasted gas money. Get real.

 

[アミーゴ]

NT Yambily,
I need some advice, guidance and/or reassurance. Saturday night I went out and met a chick at the bar towards the end of the night. We talked for a bit, did a little dancing and kissed some as well. She then said I was good looking and could have any girl at the bar and I told her that I chose her. She responded that she wasn't going to go home with me to which I replied "I wouldn't expect you to because I never asked". She gave me her number and told me that if I was legit, I would hit her up the next day to set up a coffee date. I end up texting her and she replied in the afternoon and asked for a rain check. We texted all day and eventually decided that we're going to get dinner on Friday night.
I know this all sounds good but we were both pretty drunk. Maybe even her more so than myself. Fortunately, she put her full name in my phone so I've been able to find photos of her online to verify she's hot. However, she just has my generic first name. I'm worried that she may not remember what I look like. Granted, I've talked to sober girls for hours and had them not respond. And I've talked to drunk girls and had them not respond. So the fact that she replied is obviously promising, but what are the chances that she actually doesn't remember me?

It sounds like u think u are not up to her standards. Honestly, who cares if she truly remembers EVERYTHING about that night. She has to be interested or she would be asking for pics or blown you off.

Need some advice as well my fellow yambily
Friday night I went out and met a chick at a college bar towards the end of the night. We did alot of dancing and hooked up here and there.
Her: Im visiting friends from another school but I'm transferring here (my school) next semester blah blah blah
Her: I dont want my friends to see me with you. (she kept saying throughout the night that I was "too cute" no idea if this is a good thing or bad thing)
She then took my phone and put her # in it and texted herself so she could have my number (I didnt ask for it). This is when things get interesting.....
Her friends (two white dudes) came up and kept asking her "what are you doing!?!?" and she responded to just leave her alone with me and they left. She then grabs my hand and walks me to the bar bathroom, and at this point i'm like . Then two girls walk in the bathroom, and I guess my girl gets embarrassed and we walk out. Then our convo goes like this:
Me: I live down the block if you wanna come cover.
Her: No you dont stop lying.
Me: Na, I have my own place you should check it out.
Her: I cant leave my friends, I dont know this area.
Me: I can always bring you back.
Her: If i leave with you i'm not coming back (no idea what this means) and I'm not like that
So now I kissed her again here and there to try to make her change her mind quick.
Me: I dont judge anyone. We both like each other so it doesn't matter. Plus, no one likes sleeping alone ( thats my closing pick up line )
Her: Trust me i'll call you, i'm transferring here next semester.
We kiss again and I dip with my friend.
So now I have this girls # and name. What are my options?
1. Do I hit her up at all anytime soon?
2. Do I save the # for future use (next semester)
3. I found her on Facebook, no idea if I should send her a friend request either ( I never take this route).
4. Take the L?

Sounds like she has a man back at her other campus. She will be at ur school in like a month, keep her in the rotation...Make ask who her friends were, play it off like they looked familiar or something. Sounds like an easy smash.

 

[ken piffy jr]

Y'all need to get this yambs thing correct. Sounds like a board filled with kids.

There's jump offs and wifey's. Taking a jump off to a date (dinner, movies, clubbing and buying drinks) and knowing yours boys have smashed easily makes you a sucker.

Taking out a wifey type (you'll know if you know what's up. Maybe it's instinct and that's why y'all are failing) and not smashing on the first time is a good thing. She's making it worthwhile. Something your chasing.

I hate the words "yambs, jumpoff's,wifey" but aperantly it's the only thing this generation understands.

Chivalry is the key. Being grown and respectful but still fun is respected by both these types of women

 

[jjs]

I tried to take my time and not get the yambs on first time with a girl that could be wifey material.

Now that the relation has slowed down, I kind of regret it

 

[youngdoc]

NT Yambily,

I need some advice, guidance and/or reassurance. Saturday night I went out and met a chick at the bar towards the end of the night. We talked for a bit, did a little dancing and kissed some as well. She then said I was good looking and could have any girl at the bar and I told her that I chose her. She responded that she wasn't going to go home with me to which I replied "I wouldn't expect you to because I never asked". She gave me her number and told me that if I was legit, I would hit her up the next day to set up a coffee date. I end up texting her and she replied in the afternoon and asked for a rain check. We texted all day and eventually decided that we're going to get dinner on Friday night.

I know this all sounds good but we were both pretty drunk. Maybe even her more so than myself. Fortunately, she put her full name in my phone so I've been able to find photos of her online to verify she's hot. However, she just has my generic first name. I'm worried that she may not remember what I look like. Granted, I've talked to sober girls for hours and had them not respond. And I've talked to drunk girls and had them not respond. So the fact that she replied is obviously promising, but what are the chances that she actually doesn't remember me?

She didn't want to feel like a sloot so that's why she said that about not going home with you.

She wants the D. Take her to dinner then profit

 

[youngdoc]

Co-sign niquefreak 100%.

That's my point in that escort thread.

So it's all about sex?

You don't value companionship, compatibility, friendship, chemistry, fun good time?

If that's the case go eff a hole in the wall or just jerk it in the shower.

Good luck getting married or being in a serious long term relationship.

Dudes was saying because I went to dinner movies with a chick it was a waste because I'm paying for sex and wasted gas money. Get real./

If you enjoyed the dinner and the movies and had a good time with her then you're not paying for sex.

But I have friends who just do that just so they can add the chick to their roster and after they smash for the first time, they only hang out to smash and don't do anything else. Because a lot of women won't just agree to come over to sleep together right off the bat, they put the time and money into taking them out ONLY so that they can smash.

Outside of one night stands, I don't sleep with women with whom I don't enjoy the company.

 

[coolgraymemo]

Story time brahs,

Spoiler

Last week I met this Mexican chick at school. Got her number and started talking to her. On Saturday, we went out. I did not mean it to be a date, but she took it that way. My intentions were to get to know her so that she could help me study for our final. She came all done-up and looking .

So we're at the mall. We start talking and getting to know each other. She starts telling me that she's only had one boyfriend because her parents were really strict (she's 19). We start getting deep in our conversations about family life and other private subjects. We kind of "connected." This wasn't supposed to happen.

We go to grab some lunch. We're laughing and having fun. She asks to take a picture with me.

I take her home. She gives me a kiss on the cheek and I kiss her's back. She starts walking toward her front door, then hesitates and kind of turns around and then continues forward. I didn't ask her if I could come in because yambs were not in my goals.

The night ends.
----

Fast forward to today,

I'm getting into my car and notice there are dirt marks on the passenger window. I go to look at them and she wrote her name on it along with a bunch of hearts. I assume she did this when we got out of the mall because she was waiting for me to open the door.

I get curious and search her name online. I find her Facebook profile, with the picture we took as her profile picture (I don't have her as a friend). I get kind of confused because that was the first time we actually hung out. I check the comments on the picture and someone by the same last name commented "is that him? " or something like that.

She's been texting me and talking to me, but nothing out of the ordinary. She keeps telling me that we should hang out soon.
----

I'm not sure whether I should pursue these yambs or run.

She's like a bring-to-your-mom type of girl studying to be something about plants.

 

[youngdoc]

Story time brahs,

Spoiler

Last week I met this Mexican chick at school. Got her number and started talking to her. On Saturday, we went out. I did not mean it to be a date, but she took it that way. My intentions were to get to know her so that she could help me study for our final. She came all done-up and looking .

So we're at the mall. We start talking and getting to know each other. She starts telling me that she's only had one boyfriend because her parents were really strict (she's 19). We start getting deep in our conversations about family life and other private subjects. We kind of "connected." This wasn't supposed to happen.

We go to grab some lunch. We're laughing and having fun. She asks to take a picture with me.

I take her home. She gives me a kiss on the cheek and I kiss her's back. She starts walking toward her front door, then hesitates and kind of turns around and then continues forward. I didn't ask her if I could come in because yambs were not in my goals.

The night ends.
----

Fast forward to today,

I'm getting into my car and notice there are dirt marks on the passenger window. I go to look at them and she wrote her name on it along with a bunch of hearts. I assume she did this when we got out of the mall because she was waiting for me to open the door.

I get curious and search her name online. I find her Facebook profile, with the picture we took as her profile picture (I don't have her as a friend). I get kind of confused because that was the first time we actually hung out. I check the comments on the picture and someone by the same last name commented "is that him? " or something like that.

She's been texting me and talking to me, but nothing out of the ordinary. She keeps telling me that we should hang out soon.
----

I'm not sure whether I should pursue these yambs or run.

She's like a bring-to-your-mom type of girl studying to be something about plants.

Trolling us?

Of course you should run. No matter if you're trying to smash or dash or settle down chick sounds certifiably bat-sh.it insane

 

[royal assassin]

well then your reading comprehension skills are bad then.
People say that when you pay for a date...you're paying for sex.
I'm saying that's not true
1. because paying for something means you are getting something solely because you payed for it
2. you can pay for a date and still not smash meaning that a woman has to be sexually attracted to you to have sex with you unless she's an escort.
3. when you pay for an escort you are specifically paying for sex. idk about the rest of nt, or care, but dates or fun. i like movies...i like women's company...i like eating and talking to them. i'm getting something out of the date other than sex anyway. when we DO have sex after the date that's because we are sexually attracted to each other. not simply because i bought her food and payed for a movie.
what you're saying does not go at all with what i'm saying, but i like i said people can twist anything and make it work for them.

Eh, your intentions are totally different from a dude that's gonna pay for an escort, so I see where you're coming from but think its two different things famb.

 

[ricky409]

Y'all need to get this yambs thing correct. Sounds like a board filled with kids.
There's jump offs and wifey's. Taking a jump off to a date (dinner, movies, clubbing and buying drinks) and knowing yours boys have smashed easily makes you a sucker.
Taking out a wifey type (you'll know if you know what's up. Maybe it's instinct and that's why y'all are failing) and not smashing on the first time is a good thing. She's making it worthwhile. Something your chasing.
I hate the words "yambs, jumpoff's,wifey" but aperantly it's the only thing this generation understands.
Chivalry is the key. Being grown and respectful but still fun is respected by both these types of women

so there's no in between?

Only jump offs and wifeys? So if you're boy smashed in 10th grade, and now y'all are 22, y'all can't kick it?

And chivalry? You opening car doors?

There's are very few wrong answers in this game cuz it changes so much... but come on brah.

And calling everyone kids? We have grown men with families giving advice... cats that are prime time single giving advice... a qualified chick giving advice... and a few young guns that want to learn... how are we all kids?

 

[coolgraymemo]

Trolling us?
Of course you should run. No matter if you're trying to smash or dash or settle down chick sounds certifiably bat-sh.it insane

When I was with her she didn't give off the feeling of being a little weird.
Things she did afterward? Yes.

 

[stork]

When I was with her she didn't give off the feeling of being a little weird.
Things she did afterward? Yes.

you gotta just man up though, i mean for real kissing on the cheek? and you're 19?

she sounds a little clingy, but she's probably just really into you. if you want a relationship than it might be a decent option, especially if she's cute. the whole facebook pic thing sounds weird, but then again this is 2012 guys. right now we have to contemplate things like what exactly does our existence mean when it's so centered around our online social media presence? it's interesting.

you should actually be talking about these types of things with her though and not us , like what do you want from her a relationship, casual dating, friends, fwb? etc etc. she might want a long term type contract, or maybe something else, either way u should discuss this. you said she got dolled up? probably wants you to take her to a club and twerk on you