Yo nt fam i need a pick me up so to speak. Here's my deal. Its def about the yambs but its deeper than rap. Word to rick ross. Didnt want to make a separate thread on this but i have yet to see anyone post a situation like this before. Maybe i missed it? I dunno.
16 months ago i decided to get my life in order & get sober. My life was a mess. I go to AA meetings to keep myself in check. Rededicated my life to work, family, gym & an overall healthy low key lifestyle. I can dig it.
Now the whole dating/relationship/yambs has been bit of a problem since getting clean. I don't go to bar & clubs anymore (sobriety reasons) therefore its hard to meet girls. In rehab they drill us with "don't date anyone in the rooms (aa/na)". Believe me i get it. Learned the hard way. I've been on dates with girls & a couple brief relationships & they just dont work. Some are just absolute wack jobs with bi-polar disorders, severe depression, stange 5 clingers or just not good looking. At all.
I casually dated this chick from aa for 3 weeks. She wanted to give me a deadline on when to make it official & if i don't make it official she's gonna hate me. Well she hates me now. Too f'n bad.
As far as meeting girls at the gym...there aren't alot of females in general that go to my gym. My gym is fairly on the hardcore side of things. Legit bodybuilders & powerlifters etc..The complete opposite of planet fitness. Theres a couple cuties in there but there young. I just turned 28 & there teenagers. Part of my goal as being sober was to find a gf not into the party scene, not in aa/na, healthy lifestyle. Not so easy.
There is this chick i go to meetings with. She's 34. Tall, blonde, slim & but has a banging ***. Not even my type, most likely its the opposites attract thing. 3 years sober. I think we dig eachother but the whole "dont date in the rooms" thing keeps us from maybe pulling the trigger. But im not so sure. She leads a meeting on fridays, which is a discussion meeting, we pick a topic & discuss it openly with everyone. She always picks on me to speak, regardless if i raise my hand or not. Things like that.
I feel like im in a tough spot. I need some good advice NT. Help yur fellow brethren out.
Cliff Notes:
- 16 months clean
- Dont go to bars/clubs anymore.
- AA/NA chicks are wack jobs.
- There the girls in my social circle now
- Feels like im in a tough spot.
- ive had friends/fam recommend a dating site before.
- A level headed, good looking wifey would be