Originally Posted by 23ska909red02
I got abused as a child.
Does that count?
Like I said, putting your hands on someone else is disrespectful. I'm not against hitting my son, but wife and I are on the same page with this: it will be the LAST option we take, not the first (as is so often the case).
Hitting someone to discipline them should be the worst thing you can do to them, not the first thing. Corporal punishment should be the last option.
In an environment where the kid gets hit right off the bat, the reason nothing else works is because everything else is better than getting hit, and he already gets hit right off the bat, whether it's with a belt or a hand or whatever. It doesn't make sense to belt a kid one day for something, then the next day when he does something worse and you're thinking 'O.K., I'm going to not hit him, like everyone else is suggesting,' then try to give him a timeout. A timeout for something worst than what he did yesterday, and he got belted yesterday?
The structure of discipline is completely gone.
And this is coming from someone who was definitely hit as a child, studied Marriage and Family Therapy, and is currently raising a son. Granted, my son is only 14 months old, but still, those 3 things should count more than if I were just speaking from a vantage point that had never studied families and had zero experience raising a kid.