I love women and I like p. I like to entertain my animalistic side and give in to the urges. My girl is my best friend though, a goddess and I would go through anything to keep her. Except giving up the plethora of p. There is a distinct difference between the feeling I get from making love to my woman and the feeling I get releasing my seed after giving back shots to one of the sides.
I believe the world isn't black and white. There is no right or wrong only sides that have been placed to dictate how to act at this very moment in time in this specific society. I'm happier with my woman when I can release a nut if I want with another woman and she can't understand that. So it's unspoken of. There are things she does I don't agree with and so I accept them. Without these things we wouldn't be ourselves so the man she loves is as I am now. If I changed I would no longer be that man. I give her everything she needs and she comes first always. I want this woman to be the mother of my children and be able to look into her eyes 50 years from now reminiscing about the life we made together. There's no right or wrong way to live life. Just live it and stop overthinking the situation.
It's my body. You people have a weird sense of ownership. My mind body and soul are intertwined with hers but she does not own my penis. The bond we share is ours I'm not giving that up when I insert into a woman I barely know.
This is probably the clearest I've ever heard this explained and the closest I'll ever come to understanding it. Monogamy doesn't make sense from a biological stand point and it's clear in the natural bodily/hormonal impulses both sexes have around people they find attractive. Instinctively, when I see a fine woman out in public my first reaction is to look. To visualize and fantasize. But after like 5 seconds I snap out of it and let it go. The human element of myself WANTS to sleep with all these slamming women around the way, but my actual person knows better.
The values of MY relationship is one of more traditional values. Obviously don't sleep, hook up, or flirt with other women/men. Being friends is no big deal if you knew them prior to the relationship, but meeting new friends of the opposite gender is tricky. Because really, what can female friends give me that my male friends can't? A female perspective, maybe. But I alright have other avenues for that. When I think about, the only reason would be because I was physically attracted to them and once that starts then the flirting starts and then there's the aspect of "emotionally cheating" and all that. And I've never though that would be a big deal until I found a woman I actually REALLY LOVED and wasn't just caught up in the moment with and I flipped the roles and realized that her doing that to me would bother the hell out of me.
My woman fulfills my every needs. Mentally, emotionally, sexually, etc. I don't NEED any other female in my life and I wouldn't be okay with her banging some dude on the side either as long as it's "just physical". I don't buy that. I get what
@Yamcha is saying and if you and your lady can separate the physical from the mental/emotional and that works for you, cool. My biggest thing is don't do anything you wouldn't be okay with your partner doing. If you're gonna cheat, make sure you're 100% fine with your lady cheating. Don't feel some type of way when your girl is getting with someone else. Nothing worse than a hypocrite.
But bottom line is it's just never made sense to me how you can love somebody and be okay with them and/or yourself lending your/their body to someone else. To me, it's all a package deal.