Is it harder to respect women in this day and age?

[sumrndmdude]

I think you all should seriously consider looking up the word misogyny. 

I would be comfortable with being labeled a misogynist if I was saying that it's cool for men to act like prostitutes and women can't. I think it's disturbing if both act like, dress like, emulate ******.

Feel free to look up misogyny.

 

[semf]

it's an unfair double standard and it's disrespectful to women.

men are allowed to be promiscuous and are even applauded for their sexual conquests.

if women do the same thing, they're looked down upon.

shame on you, society . . .

 

[sundoobie]

And? You're going out of the way to seek attention from males and women by posting sexually suggestive pictures online. Doesn't matter if she's educated. There are plenty of girls that go to college and before freshman year is up they'll have 20 bodies to their count.

And what is so terribly wrong in seeking attention from males/females by posting sexually suggestive pictures and having a body count of 20 before freshmen year? It's her life and if she's over 18.. she can do whatever she wants. A woman like this can't be respected now? She's a *****? What "label" are you placing women that does this? Oh and if a man wives a female that does this.. the guy is a simp correct? A Captain save a... ?

Here'a good article for you..

Coping with Our Judgmental Society by Aaron Anson

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/aaron-anson/coping-with-our-judgmenta_b_973760.html

Spoiler: Warning: Spoiler!

When others judge us for who we are, how do we react? At a party, for example, others may say we don't use proper etiquette, eat too much, exercise too little or are drinking too much. At times, this rhetoric can escalate to vicious name-calling: ***, un-American or unpatriotic, terrorist, racist or, most ridiculous of all, hated by God. What can we do when faced with unfair, hurtful judgments?

It's interesting how we cherry-pick labels for each other. We decide that others aren't quite the way they should be. The perpetrators run the gamut from politicians to religious leaders. Really, this compulsion to ostracize others has affected our entire society -- even children, as evidenced by the recent spate of bullying. Most of us accept these behaviors as the norm, and we cope with the rejection by launching a counter-attack of yet more rejection.

There's quite a bit of hypocrisy and narrow-mindedness here, in that we want to reject others as they are, but insist that others love and accept us the way we are. The notion that any human being is faultless and virtuous enough to pass judgment on others is laughable. To go even further and profess to be non-judgmental in the same breath is just outrageous. But deep down, even the most critical person is yearning for the acceptance they deny to others.

In our challenging environment, and despite these superiority/inferiority complexes, we need to remember that all human beings emanated from one source (regardless of what you call the source) and celebrate our similarities, not focus on perceived differences. It will take open-mindedness and a staunch resolve to achieve the highest aspiration of our human existence. We were all born into a world of invisible love and bliss. We did not originate from hate, prejudice or bigotry. These disparaging human habits were passed on to us -- they were taught to us -- after our appearance into the universe.

There are two ways we can cope with our hypercritical society; the one we choose is closely aligned with the way we inherently view ourselves. We can seek to love ourselves more, and therefore not align our self-worth with others' approval. Unfortunately, most of us make the alternate choice: making others feel inferior by labeling them with inflammatory, cruel words, thereby crating even more resistance. In an effort to be seen as superior, we drag others down, painting them as inferior.

Our taught beliefs about racism, homophobia and sexism are some of the worst. These beliefs were passed on to us by others, and we blindly hold on to them as our own truth. We don't question why we harbor disgust for those we know so little about. We must unlearn the "truths" of others if we are ever to experience the bliss of a harmonious society.

In a lot of marriages, you'll find great examples of our judgmental tendency. We marry, and then almost immediately, we stand in judgment of the person we profess to love, and we ask them to change to suit our liking. This must be why so many marriages fail today -- people go into marriage expecting that they can change their spouse, instead of accepting them the way they are. And if marriages struggle out the starting gate, it's no wonder we struggle to accept those outside our cliques, clubs and churches, those who don't seem to be like us.

We must exemplify the change we seek. That is, we must show the very love that we desire from others. And a good step toward loving others is to develop an honest love of ourselves. We mustn't risk squandering our own purposeful existence; we mustn't continue to walk in lockstep with the crowd. Inheriting and owning bigotries, prejudices and hatred is a most irreverent betrayal of our right as free-thinkers. We've seen where this divisive judgement has taken us. When we lose our judgmental tendencies, we will enhance our human experience.

 

[tr1ll]

it's an unfair double standard and it's disrespectful to women.

men are allowed to be promiscuous and are even applauded for their sexual conquests.

if women do the same thing, they're looked down upon.

shame on you, society . . .

Its not a double standard, when women start going out and aggressively picking up men, then it will be a double standard. Men are the hunters they are the hunted.

I'm pretty sure this has been said, but I dont think its harder to respect women, its harder to find respectable women.

 

[SC kid]

Depends on the woman.

 

[jeenewed]

And what is so terribly wrong in seeking attention from males/females by posting sexually suggestive pictures and having a body count of 20 before freshmen year? It's her life and if she's over 18.. she can do whatever she wants. A woman like this can't be respected now? She's a *****? What "label" are you placing women that does this? Oh and if a man wives a female that does this.. the guy is a simp correct? A Captain save a... ?

Here'a good article for you..

Coping with Our Judgmental Society by Aaron Anson

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/aaron-anson/coping-with-our-judgmenta_b_973760.html

Spoiler: Warning: Spoiler!

When others judge us for who we are, how do we react? At a party, for example, others may say we don't use proper etiquette, eat too much, exercise too little or are drinking too much. At times, this rhetoric can escalate to vicious name-calling: ***, un-American or unpatriotic, terrorist, racist or, most ridiculous of all, hated by God. What can we do when faced with unfair, hurtful judgments?

It's interesting how we cherry-pick labels for each other. We decide that others aren't quite the way they should be. The perpetrators run the gamut from politicians to religious leaders. Really, this compulsion to ostracize others has affected our entire society -- even children, as evidenced by the recent spate of bullying. Most of us accept these behaviors as the norm, and we cope with the rejection by launching a counter-attack of yet more rejection.

There's quite a bit of hypocrisy and narrow-mindedness here, in that we want to reject others as they are, but insist that others love and accept us the way we are. The notion that any human being is faultless and virtuous enough to pass judgment on others is laughable. To go even further and profess to be non-judgmental in the same breath is just outrageous. But deep down, even the most critical person is yearning for the acceptance they deny to others.

In our challenging environment, and despite these superiority/inferiority complexes, we need to remember that all human beings emanated from one source (regardless of what you call the source) and celebrate our similarities, not focus on perceived differences. It will take open-mindedness and a staunch resolve to achieve the highest aspiration of our human existence. We were all born into a world of invisible love and bliss. We did not originate from hate, prejudice or bigotry. These disparaging human habits were passed on to us -- they were taught to us -- after our appearance into the universe.

There are two ways we can cope with our hypercritical society; the one we choose is closely aligned with the way we inherently view ourselves. We can seek to love ourselves more, and therefore not align our self-worth with others' approval. Unfortunately, most of us make the alternate choice: making others feel inferior by labeling them with inflammatory, cruel words, thereby crating even more resistance. In an effort to be seen as superior, we drag others down, painting them as inferior.

Our taught beliefs about racism, homophobia and sexism are some of the worst. These beliefs were passed on to us by others, and we blindly hold on to them as our own truth. We don't question why we harbor disgust for those we know so little about. We must unlearn the "truths" of others if we are ever to experience the bliss of a harmonious society.

In a lot of marriages, you'll find great examples of our judgmental tendency. We marry, and then almost immediately, we stand in judgment of the person we profess to love, and we ask them to change to suit our liking. This must be why so many marriages fail today -- people go into marriage expecting that they can change their spouse, instead of accepting them the way they are. And if marriages struggle out the starting gate, it's no wonder we struggle to accept those outside our cliques, clubs and churches, those who don't seem to be like us.

We must exemplify the change we seek. That is, we must show the very love that we desire from others. And a good step toward loving others is to develop an honest love of ourselves. We mustn't risk squandering our own purposeful existence; we mustn't continue to walk in lockstep with the crowd. Inheriting and owning bigotries, prejudices and hatred is a most irreverent betrayal of our right as free-thinkers. We've seen where this divisive judgement has taken us. When we lose our judgmental tendencies, we will enhance our human experience.

So you would be cool wifing a chick who has had 40 different penises inside of her? You'd be cool showing off a girl with the body count similar to a pornstar's to your parents?

 

[Maximus Meridius]

I treat these girls how they present themselves. If she carries herself with respect that's how I'll treat her. But I've noticed the last few years it seems more girls are cool with being called B's and O's and A LOT more girls are Bi. They don't know what the hell they like.

 

[semf]

Growing up, girls where always supposed to bring out the best in us man! Call it chivalry, call it being a gentleman, call it being a man.  We might be trifling as men but a girl was supposed to save us from our trifling ways. 

ha, i never knew women were raised and bred in order to bring out the best in men . . .

 

[semf]

Men are the hunters they are the hunted

that's how you were socialized . . . men and women can assume any role they choose and shouldn't be put in their place by society . . .

 

[shoefreakbaby]

5 men in one year is a lot?


And why do women need a reason like getting abused to be promiscuous? How about this for a theory, maybe they just enjoy sex. Some men sleep with 40 women a year, and no one says they got raped to become that way. Double standards FTL.

This snow bunny lover is very right.

 

[jordan23dotcom]

Did some of y'all wake up today and thought it was 1700's again? Lol. Y'all's views on what a women should be are way out dated

 

[tr1ll]

Men are the hunters they are the hunted

that's how you were socialized . . . men and women can assume any role they choose and shouldn't be put in their place by society . . .

Exactly, women assume the hunted role. I'm sure 90% of men would not be put off by a woman approaching them, infact I'm pretty sure we'd prefer it(in a perfect world). Nobody's stopping women from doing it. Heck, there are some that do. The only ones that regard those women as sluts are other women who, lets face it, are jealous.

Women can get rid of the so called double standard whenever they want to.

 

[sundoobie]

So you would be cool wifing a chick who has had 40 different penises inside of her? You'd be cool showing off a girl with the body count similar to a pornstar's to your parents?

So a girl whom had 40 different penises can't be a loving woman and doesn't deserve respect? Everyone makes tons of mistakes and make bad choices in their lives. Bottom line, if she is a good person to me or someone whom I can fully trust then yeah why not? If my parents aren't cool with her.. then I can't help that and truthfully it's on them for not respecting my decision. If society or my friends can't respect my decision either, then it's on them also. I follow my heart and not what society, friends/family deem to be morally correct or not. Plus who am I to judge when I myself have had over 40+ vaginas in my lifetime.

Here let's put your words in a different scenario...

So you would be cool wifing a gay man? You'd be cool showing off a your boyfriend to your parents?

So you would be cool wifing a colored girl or a Muslim or a high school drop out or a girl that smokes, etc.. etc.. girl? You'd be cool showing off a colored girl or a Muslim or a high school drop out or a girl that smokes, etc.. etc.. girlfriend to your parents?

 

[djexpanium]

looks at avy, looks at sig, looks at post...

You can say what you want about signature and my avatar.....

 

[sumrndmdude]

So you would be cool wifing a chick who has had 40 different penises inside of her? You'd be cool showing off a girl with the body count similar to a pornstar's to your parents?

So a girl whom had 40 different penises can't be a loving woman and doesn't deserve respect? Everyone makes tons of mistakes and make bad choices in their lives. Bottom line, if she is a good person to me or someone whom I can fully trust then yeah why not? If my parents aren't cool with her.. then I can't help that and truthfully it's on them for not respecting my decision. If society or my friends can't respect my decision either, then it's on them also. I follow my heart and not what society, friends/family deem to be morally correct or not. Plus who am I to judge when I myself have had over 40+ vaginas in my lifetime.

Here let's put your words in a different scenario...

So you would be cool wifing a gay man? You'd be cool showing off a your boyfriend to your parents?

So you would be cool wifing a colored girl or a Muslim or a high school drop out or a girl that smokes, etc.. etc.. girl? You'd be cool showing off a colored girl or a Muslim or a high school drop out or a girl that smokes, etc.. etc.. girlfriend to your parents?

 

[unknwn]

In general, it's harder to respect people. 

 

[alkatrez]

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Nobody wants to see a NT thick girl.




I'm joking.

 

[djexpanium]

You're NT thick. Nobody want to see picks of you





I'm messing with you.

That's not me, bro.  I'm just a male that adores women

 

[alkatrez]

You're NT thick. Nobody want to see picks of you






I'm messing with you.

That's not be, bro.  I'm just a male that adores women

Correction........

 

[-Red-]

But past generations had consequences for trashy behavior, for better or for worse. Women had to keep it in check because society wasn't tolerating that nonsense. 

Past generations also had consequences for women talking out of line, voicing their opinions, trying to vote, not getting married, being gay, getting a job, etc. What's your point? The consequence for trashy behavior is that people who aren't trashy won't respect you. Male or female or anything in between - that's the way it should be. What more do you want?



Guys are just as loose and just as willing to show off as women - so this is just coming off bitter tbh

But you're clearly arguing that it's "for worse"...

I ain't arguing ****, there is nothing to argue. It's an observation...either you acknowledge the observation.

Some of you idiots need to turn that 'argue' switch off...life isn't one big argument. Grow up!

So... you don't know what the word "argue" means.

OK.

 

[mgrand15]

I ain't arguing ****, there is nothing to argue. It's an observation...either you acknowledge the observation.

Some of you idiots need to turn that 'argue' switch off...life isn't one big argument. Grow up!

Your tone and language makes it sound like you were arguing that it was for the better but I could see how you might've just been making an observation. Either way, obviously there are people that agree that the way society used to "punish" this was for the better, so my point was addressed to those people - not you specifically.

 

[peteweezy]

Respect is earned, be it male or female. I'm quick to judge someone as soon as I meet them , but if they show me a side that is worth my respect , then I'm extra nice to that person.

Otherwise,  .

I meant to quote this earlier but true story unless you holding the key to a job or you some type of influential person nobody really gives a expletive about yours, mine, or the next avg person respect. I know I can't be the only one.


Oh yeah all these dudes defending chicks saying its wrong to use double standards usually be the Nas type cat that in the next breath will say a guy is supposed to take care of a woman or some other "manly" things which I've saw on here and IRL too many times. Either you are or aren't into gender roles/standards not this buffet style alot like to use. Which ever way is cool by me as long as you stay commited to it.

 

[sir charles]

A respectable person is a respectable person.

/thread

 

[sumrndmdude]

But past generations had consequences for trashy behavior, for better or for worse. Women had to keep it in check because society wasn't tolerating that nonsense. 

Past generations also had consequences for women talking out of line, voicing their opinions, trying to vote, not getting married, being gay, getting a job, etc. What's your point? The consequence for trashy behavior is that people who aren't trashy won't respect you. Male or female or anything in between - that's the way it should be. What more do you want?



Guys are just as loose and just as willing to show off as women - so this is just coming off bitter tbh

But you're clearly arguing that it's "for worse"...

I ain't arguing ****, there is nothing to argue. It's an observation...either you acknowledge the observation.

Some of you idiots need to turn that 'argue' switch off...life isn't one big argument. Grow up!

So... you don't know what the word "argue" means.

OK.

I was referencing the definition of argue as implied in your statement. I think the person above me got the point though...

 

[semf]

So a girl whom had 40 different penises can't be a loving woman and doesn't deserve respect? Everyone makes tons of mistakes and make bad choices in their lives. Bottom line, if she is a good person to me or someone whom I can fully trust then yeah why not? If my parents aren't cool with her.. then I can't help that and truthfully it's on them for not respecting my decision. If society or my friends can't respect my decision either, then it's on them also. I follow my heart and not what society, friends/family deem to be morally correct or not. Plus who am I to judge when I myself have had over 40+ vaginas in my lifetime.

ooh rah . . . repped . . .