- Sep 19, 2013
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First of all, thank you for reading/considering my view and replying accordingly. I understand its a slippery slope and alot of times suggestions are unconscious recommendations of what a person would wear themselves. As per your comment about suit size, that's why I stated that sizing concerns find a rational basis for criticism and suggestion albeit rational in the context of how we think it should fit - but more rational than suggesting to buy an alternative just because they think the status quo is ugly. But I see where you're coming from - the more I think about it the more all of this is subjective at the root.I get what you're saying to an extent but what are recommendations other than suggestions for what they perceive to be better options based on their preferences? Dude posted suits he tried on and got better ideas and was told to return certain ones, some based on size because he can do "better" based on fit. Could he wear a 38S when he "should" be wearing a 36S? Sure. Is it the better option of the two? Nope. Were people trying to dress him or help him out to look the best he could? Their suggestions may have opened his eyes to something different, he might even view it as better or he could've stuck with what most perceived as ill fitting because it suited him.All I'm saying is that how do you define "much better"? Maybe those are the best to him. Much better for you because you wouldn't wear them.Someone else posted that, so I'm not sure why you keep directing those forced smileys at me. I tried helping him out by telling him that he can buy much better shoes at that price pointImproving his wardrobe by suggesting what you would buy.
I just asked a question, no need to get up in arms
The critique in this thread is cool and I have no problem with it, in the context of say, if something is ill-fitting. Then you have a basis to correct that because there is a wrong fit and a right fit. But when something as subjective as a pair of shoes gets a comment that they should return them simply because someone thinks they are ugly, that rubs me the wrong way and makes me feel as though people are trying to "dress" others the way they would dress. (insert sarcastic/forced smiley)
Same goes with the shoes. It's not like those are the only option. If someone feels like he can find a similar pair of shoes that might help his overall look, so be it. You can argue about how someone says it or whatever but I don't understand the point of posting in here if you're not open to critique.
All of it is subjective. He's not obligated to return them and find something different. He might've went right to those or they were the first ones he saw and picked them out or they were the best deal...or he might've tried on a bunch and liked them best. Like I said, if he's open to it maybe like the suit, he sees what people are saying and agrees he should consider it. Of course he can "keep wearing what he likes" but if that were the case why ask?
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