Confessions

[Ox.]

I honestly don't think I'm happy in the relationship I'm currently in, but I'm scared of starting over.

i was on the same boat few years ago. 

one of the best decisions of my life was to break up with the girl.

trust me, it'll feel like you got weight off your shoulders and that fear will be replaced by excitement and freshness 

 

[hennessy beach]

posted this in TAN but it's more fitting in here

Bday is on tuesday...nothing really planned besides a hotel with my girl.  May try shrooms

ready for the summer to end, transferred to Howard U..just hyped to start but gonna be tricky with my girl still at home...

A lot of pressure by my pops to get into finance/econ but not a fan of numbers more so theory/logic ....that company he owns is the only thing that keeps me going.  My school history has been up and down.  I took a year off and did a lil stint in the music industry and really continued my interest in marketing.  But I'll be an econ major at Howard so it's a big shift but that hedgefund money is calling...

 

[guzzy]

As far as women and love go, I feel like I can't win. The only girl I like has been with some dude for like a year and a half, and she's in love with him. All my friends have past me sexually, they've all had sex or had girl friends, and I haven't had either.

Dont stress it bruh, females should'nt be your priority. Try to get over her and keep it moving.

No point in waiting.

Dont compare yourself to your friends, worry bout yourself and how you can improve.

 

[whywesteppin]

I remembered something I have kept inside for many years. I need to confess.

Back in high school, I was teacher's favorite student in our history class. He would pretty much give me the answer key and trust me with everything.

We had a TV in class. One day, he left class for a few minutes, so I took the batteries out of the remote and hid them.

After he came back, he tried turning on the TV but nothing happened. It took him a while to realize that there was something wrong with the remote. When he finally found out the batteries were missing, he put in new ones. But he grew irate when the remote still didn't work. Turns out it was a programmable remote, and it had reset upon removal of the batteries.

He yelled at the entire class. Well everyone except me. There was no way I could have done it....

The next day I felt bad for him so I looked up the code to program the remote and told him how to do it. What a lazy guy. He could've done it himself in 2 minutes instead of throwing a tantrum.

To this day, he has never suspected me.

 

[whywesteppin]

I'm sure she's thinking of you, but a chick I plan a future with cheating is unforgiveable to me.

Exactly. Do you know how many yambs I turned down for that broad?! It took everything within me to remain monogamous and I was happy. That was the first girl I ever considered marrying and I was content. She was my best friend and now we don't even speak. I'm living the dog life for a while. One night stands and bangin chicks who dont even tell me their last names

It takes a lot for a man to put his full effort into something...so in reality we end up hurt more than the girl.  It's why we put up these walls and just get with mad different girls.

If it's meant to be yall will end up at friends at the least.  Just some bad blood right now, hold ya head, do you, and slowly work your way back into shortys life if she's the one.

I disagree. She can never be the one. She betrayed your trust and she has no loyalty.

I would say that you should get to the point where you can forgive her and be able to look at her face without getting upset. But the only way to do that is to move on, grow as a person, and find someone who deserves you. Any feelings you have for her need to be gone. Once you do that, maybe you can be friends with her again.

 

[bentrill]

am i da only one dat wants summer to end?

 

[lamekilla]

I disagree. She can never be the one. She betrayed your trust and she has no loyalty.

I would say that you should get to the point where you can forgive her and be able to look at her face without getting upset. But the only way to do that is to move on, grow as a person, and find someone who deserves you. Any feelings you have for her need to be gone. Once you do that, maybe you can be friends with her again.

At this point I think it's best we live our separate lives. We know to many things about each other, she knows things about me that no one knows. My father was absent in my life for about 10 years and when he came back around I even introduced him to her for the simple fact that I didn't know if I'd see him again and I wanted him to meet the girl I was planning on settling with.....I still can't finish this humble pie I'm eating right now smh

Thank you NT brethren. You guys are really awesome when it comes to advice.

 

[lamekilla]

posted this in TAN but it's more fitting in here


Bday is on tuesday...nothing really planned besides a hotel with my girl.  May try shrooms

ready for the summer to end, transferred to Howard U..just hyped to start but gonna be tricky with my girl still at home...

A lot of pressure by my pops to get into finance/econ but not a fan of numbers more so theory/logic ....that company he owns is the only thing that keeps me going.  My school history has been up and down.  I took a year off and did a lil stint in the music industry and really continued my interest in marketing.  But I'll be an econ major at Howard so it's a big shift but that hedgefund money is calling...

You're about to enter a new stage of life bro. Just focus on your goals and let your loved ones be support. They'll def hold you down. Lol don't get into too much trouble out there in Howard....and shrooms will def bring the birthday in right

 

[216301baller]

Ive been livin foul since April I'm ready to change...whatever bad karma that might come my way add it to my tab with the rest of my dirt..its time I truly manned up for my own sake...a clear conscious and being healthy is everything

 

[216301baller]

Ive been livin foul since April I'm ready to change...whatever bad karma that might come my way add it to my tab with the rest of my dirt..its time I truly manned up for my own sake...a clear conscious and being healthy is everything

 

[ninjallamafromhell]

am i da only one dat wants summer to end?

Fall and Winter > Spring and Summer

 

[Sir San Diego]

Fall and Winter > Spring and Summer

After the 4th of July summer is just a damn nuisance. I'm all about that winter life. New boots and jackets... beanies... keeping that woman warm at night. Yomp.

 

[Belgium]

How do you brahs get a girl out of your head? I just can't do it. Never felt this way.

She's in my class (and will remain there for the next 2,5 years) and we get along well so I can't really ignore her or anything.

 

[girlslovewaffles]

am i da only one dat wants summer to end?

Fall and Winter > Spring and Summer

This.

Fall and Winter > Spring and Summer

After the 4th of July summer is just a damn nuisance. I'm all about that winter life. New boots and jackets... beanies... keeping that woman warm at night. Yomp.

This even more.

 

[girlslovewaffles]

How do you brahs get a girl out of your head? I just can't do it. Never felt this way.
She's in my class (and will remain there for the next 2,5 years) and we get along well so I can't really ignore her or anything.

Think of all the annoying things about her and just focus on that.

Helps to date other women as well.

 

[Belgium]

Think of all the annoying things about her and just focus on that.

Helps to date other women as well.

I don't even know why I'm feeling like such a simp. I met another girl recently, got the digits etc. and yet I still can't really get it out of my head.

She even told my friend in our class she doesn't trust men etc. (daddy issues) so it shouldn't even be hard to get over this and move on for the next but for whatever reason it's not working.

 

[sir charles]

How do you brahs get a girl out of your head? I just can't do it. Never felt this way.

She's in my class (and will remain there for the next 2,5 years) and we get along well so I can't really ignore her or anything.

I spar at the gym

 

[mugen81]

Have a friend I just can't stand being around... Been seeing a therapist, trying to deal with my anger and pain of the past and really trying to be about that positive life but being around him is a drain and sometimes I want to just beat his *** because he is such a liar, Debbie downer... Consider him my best friend but my girl notices the change when we hang out with him... I become irritated because its always woe is me and my life sucks but doesn't take responsibility for his actions and blames the world... Don't want to cut him loose because I would feel bad but he is really taking a toll on me and I just can't do it anymore, I want to be healthy in mind and spirit and keep this path of positivity, my mom and my girl say slowly back away, I hate he can't take constructive criticism....I guess I see myself in him(you are who you are friends with), just tired of the negativity, just want a better life not only for me but wifey and my mom and if I keep entertaining him, I will always be miserable..... I know I just got to cut him loose but it's like cutting my brother out of my life( and it sucks my real brother and I are not even close)... My problem is I hold on to people to long, once I care about you, I bend over backwards and I know this will be my downfall... Just needed to vent...

 

[carver]

If it's at the point where you need to see a therapist... You need to cut him off famb

 

[Sir San Diego]

So you're going to let someone else drain you of your happiness and you're telling us he doesn't take responsibility for his own life?

It's all on you my man. Don't let someone else co-pilot your life. Do what YOU want to do and cut that dude off and be happy. He'll get over it or find someone else to be an emotional vampire to.

 

[whywesteppin]

One of people's biggest regrets is doing things for other people instead of for themselves.

Don't worry. It's not selfish. A grown man should not depend on another grown man like that. It's better for him and everyone he knows if he learns to handle things on his own.

 

[mugen81]

No seeing the therapist to deal with my anger towards my dad, in which this subject came up and in essence I hold on to people because I have abandonment issues...
Yeah I get this all the time from my mom and my girl and after yesterday I just can't do it anymore and i am going to start distancing myself from him...
It's not that I depend on a grown man but I just never really had that homeboy I could kick it with ( and my brother and i are distant as well which hurts more)but at this point I want to deal with my daddy issues, lol and really be about that life of positivity and finally letting go the dumb ish and appreciating the blessings I do have.
I get what you guys are saying and trust I have been putting alot in perspective as of yesterday and just see its time to let him fly and find himself and I should worry about me and start meeting new people and just starting a better direction with wifey and moms...
Just had to vent until the old lady comes home tonight
But thanks for keeping it a 100 with me
Wish more forums on nt were like this

 

[airjordan jb23]

am i da only one dat wants summer to end?

Fall and Winter > Spring and Summer

This.

Fall and Winter > Spring and Summer

After the 4th of July summer is just a damn nuisance. I'm all about that winter life. New boots and jackets... beanies... keeping that woman warm at night. Yomp.

This even more.

all of this...

 

[lauk4kicks]

Just picked up my dad at the subway stop. The whole city got flooded and shut down the subway lines so he had to take a bus back uptown.
On my way home, after making a left turn the guy behind me decides to cut me off because I waited to make a left turn. 1) there was someone crossing the street 2) I waited to make sure the car in oncoming traffic stopped and wasnt going to run a red light. So guy behind me cuts me off after we both complete the left turn, I flash my high beams a couple of times and he purposely drives slowly in front of me. I tail him for a bit and wait until its safe to switch to the left so I can pass him (there was another car in the left lane). I wait for that car to pass me in the left and then follow it so I can pass the guy in front of me. Dude slowly drifts really close to the right side of my car. What a %^*in ****. I honk and then my dad tells me to let him go. I was really annoyed, I've only been back in the country for a week and stuff like this alrdy angers me. The guy then turns into a gas station then I thought my car is too easy to recognize in the area so I just kept it moving. I honestly wish I was strapped or had a baseball bat... well, karma is a %^&*# so this guy will eventually get what is coming to him.

 

[216301baller]

There's gotta be more to life than yambs, money and everything else I put on a pedestal ..I want my life to have a deeper meaning so that when I'm gone my family will remember me for.generations to come...my elders are basically gods in my dads eye I want the next generation of.my fam to.look at me the same way