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The article and those statistics that Dirty posted say everything I didn't want to bother to say earlier...and even still most of ya'll still will ignore
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So, we meet again my friendOriginally Posted by Deuce King
Her statement had nothing to do with her being racist, sorry you feel that way. I suggest you re-read one of her sentences again, here it is for you..........."One could easily dispel the wince as racist or separatist, but that’s not how I was brought up." Just because you want to keep something in the family or within "the circle" so to speak doesn't make you a racist. The situation right now is that a lot of black males tend to shun themselves from black women once that get to a certain point in life, I'm not just talking about famous athletes either, I'm talking about the every day common black man. "We" at times tend to think that maybe we're better than black women or that they are not worthy of our company. That may or may not have been the case with Jill Scott's male friend but her statement was a broad viewpoint of how many black women feel about "us" in this day and age. We exclude black women for whatever reason, thus leaving them behind.
Also, in regards to slavery, or racism from a historical point of view, does that tree still not bear fruit?? So yes, her reference to slavery is very much acceptable.
Originally Posted by JDocs
So, we meet again my friendOriginally Posted by Deuce King
Her statement had nothing to do with her being racist, sorry you feel that way. I suggest you re-read one of her sentences again, here it is for you..........."One could easily dispel the wince as racist or separatist, but that’s not how I was brought up." Just because you want to keep something in the family or within "the circle" so to speak doesn't make you a racist. The situation right now is that a lot of black males tend to shun themselves from black women once that get to a certain point in life, I'm not just talking about famous athletes either, I'm talking about the every day common black man. "We" at times tend to think that maybe we're better than black women or that they are not worthy of our company. That may or may not have been the case with Jill Scott's male friend but her statement was a broad viewpoint of how many black women feel about "us" in this day and age. We exclude black women for whatever reason, thus leaving them behind.
Also, in regards to slavery, or racism from a historical point of view, does that tree still not bear fruit?? So yes, her reference to slavery is very much acceptable.
The enlarged portion of your text is_ALMOST_the exact definition of racism. One definition of racism is to exclude or discriminate against others based on race. So if "keeping it in the family" or in "the circle" means keeping it within your racial group and excluding other races BECAUSE OF their race, than that is most definitely racist. Now you COULD argue that, maybe racism isn't always a bad thing, but I'd like to see you try.
WHY is everyone being so secretive in here... on some "some of y'all still ignoring IT" .. "y'all just don't understand" ..."you have to look at the whole picture" ..."look deeper"..etc etc ... How about you guys try and explain what your talking about.Originally Posted by Im Not You
The article and those statistics that Dirty posted say everything I didn't want to bother to say earlier...and even still most of ya'll still will ignore
Umm...how is it defined "today" then?Originally Posted by Diego
Oh so now you guys want to twist the way we define racism TODAY?
While that may be the textbook definition it is most definitely not the way it gets used these days.
Originally Posted by JDocs
So, we meet again my friendOriginally Posted by Deuce King
Her statement had nothing to do with her being racist, sorry you feel that way. I suggest you re-read one of her sentences again, here it is for you..........."One could easily dispel the wince as racist or separatist, but that’s not how I was brought up." Just because you want to keep something in the family or within "the circle" so to speak doesn't make you a racist. The situation right now is that a lot of black males tend to shun themselves from black women once that get to a certain point in life, I'm not just talking about famous athletes either, I'm talking about the every day common black man. "We" at times tend to think that maybe we're better than black women or that they are not worthy of our company. That may or may not have been the case with Jill Scott's male friend but her statement was a broad viewpoint of how many black women feel about "us" in this day and age. We exclude black women for whatever reason, thus leaving them behind.
Also, in regards to slavery, or racism from a historical point of view, does that tree still not bear fruit?? So yes, her reference to slavery is very much acceptable.
The enlarged portion of your text is_ALMOST_the exact definition of racism. One definition of racism is to exclude or discriminate against others based on race. So if "keeping it in the family" or in "the circle" means keeping it within your racial group and excluding other races BECAUSE OF their race, than that is most definitely racist. Now you COULD argue that, maybe racism isn't always a bad thing, but I'd like to see you try.
To add some background on where my views may have stemmed from, I am mixed raced (Black Jamaican/Cuban mother, White English father). Also, I've never dated a black girl, however I'm not opposed to it. My experience with black girls though is mostly from high school, which most likely isn't the best representation of this groupOn top of that I am very shy and lazy so I tend to let girls approach me more, which black girls do not (not sure why). Fin.
How about you guys try and explain what your talking about.
I'll give it a go.
she's not saying that people should NOT date outside of their race/ethnicity... RATHER she's explaining how seeing black men date white women make her feel.. and what that feeling is based upon -- years and years of ingrained societal pressures and norms of white = right, white = beauty, white = the ideal. Which, by itself is bad enough -- that one particular skin color is the most ideal, but also has a backhanded slap to it as well, which is that black women are the exact opposite of that.
Originally Posted by fac3 tak30v312
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You see the thing is that while society has dictated that these social contracts are a thing of the past the echoes remain and are not quite understood for what they are. It's like being thought something generation after generation but when it comes your turn the lesson plan has changed, and even though that change occurred, somewhere within you there is still an imprint of what has been passed down [sort of IDK implicitly], even though you can't necessarily understand what it is.
This is moreso seen in the black community in the US because of it low social standing for these past hundreds of years. Yet now in this modern time it has reached a point where social mobility is seen in a more prolific manner among black men. But the problem is whereas before that gain in wealth and power would be protected within the race through marriage by means of a social contract/convenience [meaning offspring/males heirs for monetary allowances] the definition of marriage has changed.
So is she, and those like her, saying that it is the job of black males to step up and love women that they don't want to, just to help the black community?
I don't see how you leap to this conclusion?.... I read nothing in her words that advocated such.
Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
btw. semi OT.
Originally Posted by JDocs
And to briefly touch on your comments on other races, that's racist as well. Excluding a group or groups of people because they aren't of the same race is racist to me. The feeling of elitism is another part of it, but not all of it. You can call it racial descrimination or racial seperatism if you like but it's all the same to me.
i mean mathematically it doesnt really matter. there's probably around 100-120 million white women in the US compared to anywhere form 8-18 million black men in the US. so even if you subtract the 54 percent of white woman you would still be left with around 50-60 million white women.That vastly out numbers the black male population. so i think that's explains how there is a majority of white women who want to date within there own race but at the same time you see black man and white woman relationships so frequently. theres just WAAAAAAAAAY more white women here than there are black men. So in fact white women opposing dating outside there race has no real bearing on the situation.Originally Posted by North Dade Represent
Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
btw. semi OT.
It's so many brothers out there smashing white girls, what difference that chart make? They can say the strongly prefer their own race, but deep down in their heart they still be feeling our swagger. It's denial if you ask me.
Exactly.Originally Posted by Nawth21
ahh yay it's the slippery slope!
Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
Yes, the days of slavery are long past, but this view of black womenas less desirable, less beautiful, less feminine and less valuable thanwhite women persists. It is illustrated by the women who are featuredon mainstream magazine covers…and those who are not (Vanity Fair anyone?).It is confirmed by the missing and exploited women that are covered24/7 on cable news…and those who are not. It is underscored bystatistics that reveal who is likely to marry…and who is not.
Black men are not immune to the message that black women are “lessthan.