1 more time for good measureOriginally Posted by Fade On You
Originally Posted by Yeah
8 year difference?
Pregnant after one year?
Good luck.
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1 more time for good measureOriginally Posted by Fade On You
Originally Posted by Yeah
8 year difference?
Pregnant after one year?
Good luck.
Originally Posted by Keif Sweat
Grow up manOriginally Posted by illadelALLDAY
Quit while you're ahead. Cut your losses and scoot....abortion and roll out!
srs doe
Originally Posted by 6 rings MJ
Pro: More sex
Originally Posted by SunDOOBIE
Originally Posted by 6 rings MJ
Pro: More sex
WRONG!
When you live with your significant other... guess what.. you get to see them ALL the time so that "missing you" element is gone which directly correlates to sex. OP will constantly be tired for whatever reason or you will have a headache which will make your BF constantly nag you for sex. You now feel as though you are forced to do it so you will not be into it. So in other words the romance part of your relationship will probably disappear. He will realize something is up so his performance will drastically be reduced because he just wants to get it over with and doesn't want to talk about 'feelings'. Your BF will now become a 2 minute man and your typical sex session will be.. get it in.. finish.. go to bed. I mean in my experience, if the girl is not into it, then there is no need to for those 1-2 hour sex sessions. It's more of a wham bamm thank you maam!
Then there is this element of his freedom. Since he can't go out anymore, the man will usually will become a homer. He will stop hitting the weights and rather just play Xbox every night. Plus he could care less what he wears so typically he will just put on some bball shorts to go out to dinner.
Another con, once you move in together... you guys will become overweight slobs... that is a guarantee.
Then there is the arguing. You guys will constantly disagree about stupid crap like what's for dinner or he didn't take out the garbage.
Oh the Pros.... you save money on living expenses. Hmmm what else... ???
This stuff.. and space at times, everyone needs space.. let him continue doing what he was doing before you guys moved in.Originally Posted by mdwst9
spoken perfectly. communication is key u rly have to talk EVERYTHING out and really taking a few L's is key too. But ALL relationships go thru shhh, REAL relationships get thru shhh so ull soon find out which one u have OPOriginally Posted by 8PM at MSG
It all depends on the people involved. There are going to be moments were you want to kill each other, but as long as your able to communicate with each other and also realize to give each other space. Sometimes you might have to concede an L in an argument just to get past the BS. All in all, if you guys want to make it work, it will.
Its more than a little too far, its pure disrespectful. Clearly you're not that grown if you don't see the problem in telling an expecting mother you don't even know personally to get an abortion.Originally Posted by illadelALLDAY
I'm grown enough to know that someone being pregnant and moving in with a man whose 8 years her senior hoping he'll change is a terrible, awful idea. They will inevitably break up and she'll end up being a baby mama. Maybe the abortion part was a little too far but in some cases it is absolutely the best decision.
Originally Posted by Keif Sweat
Its more than a little too far, its pure disrespectful. Clearly you're not that grown if you don't see the problem in telling an expecting mother you don't even know personally to get an abortion.Originally Posted by illadelALLDAY
I'm grown enough to know that someone being pregnant and moving in with a man whose 8 years her senior hoping he'll change is a terrible, awful idea. They will inevitably break up and she'll end up being a baby mama. Maybe the abortion part was a little too far but in some cases it is absolutely the best decision.Originally Posted by Keif Sweat
Originally Posted by Mr4thQuarter
no positives. just negatives.
get out while you can...
Originally Posted by illadelALLDAY
Originally Posted by Keif Sweat
Its more than a little too far, its pure disrespectful. Clearly you're not that grown if you don't see the problem in telling an expecting mother you don't even know personally to get an abortion.Originally Posted by illadelALLDAY
I'm grown enough to know that someone being pregnant and moving in with a man whose 8 years her senior hoping he'll change is a terrible, awful idea. They will inevitably break up and she'll end up being a baby mama. Maybe the abortion part was a little too far but in some cases it is absolutely the best decision.
Then apparently you're not grown if you can't see the sad truth that she's in a terrible situation. Statistics do not lie, champ
Also lol@disrespect over the interwebs
Originally Posted by TheGoldenChild
Come on, gORJESS.. you're asking a board full of guys that are scared of living with a woman, getting married and only date super models and adult stars...
just take care of your guy and dont get aggravated by little things that annoy you..
Fair enough. To answer your question, and I know it's going super stereotypical, but have some food ready at random times. Nothing made me happier than a plate or sandwich or something with a note when I came home and she was at class or work.Originally Posted by gORJESS
Originally Posted by illadelALLDAY
Originally Posted by Keif Sweat
Its more than a little too far, its pure disrespectful. Clearly you're not that grown if you don't see the problem in telling an expecting mother you don't even know personally to get an abortion.
Then apparently you're not grown if you can't see the sad truth that she's in a terrible situation. Statistics do not lie, champ
Also lol@disrespect over the interwebs
Okay, just want to clear it up that I do not want to change him. I do not expect things to get "better" they are fine already.
I just was looking to hear the simple ways that some of your significant other's make you smile when you come home to them.
The idea of making this thread came to me when I was in the shower, I thought to myself "I need to find out what kind of body wash he uses so I can make sure when I pick mine up, I can get his and make sure he always has a fresh bottle." Stuff like that, not looking to change the man, just some tips on what makes living together more enjoyable.
Originally Posted by SunDOOBIE
Originally Posted by 6 rings MJ
Pro: More sex
WRONG!
When you live with your significant other... guess what.. you get to see them ALL the time so that "missing you" element is gone which directly correlates to sex. OP will constantly be tired for whatever reason or you will have a headache which will make your BF constantly nag you for sex. You now feel as though you are forced to do it so you will not be into it. So in other words the romance part of your relationship will probably disappear. He will realize something is up so his performance will drastically be reduced because he just wants to get it over with and doesn't want to talk about 'feelings'. Your BF will now become a 2 minute man and your typical sex session will be.. get it in.. finish.. go to bed. I mean in my experience, if the girl is not into it, then there is no need to for those 1-2 hour sex sessions. It's more of a wham bamm thank you maam!
Then there is this element of his freedom. Since he can't go out anymore, the man will usually will become a homer. He will stop hitting the weights and rather just play Xbox every night. Plus he could care less what he wears so typically he will just put on some bball shorts to go out to dinner.
Another con, once you move in together... you guys will become overweight slobs... that is a guarantee.
Then there is the arguing. You guys will constantly disagree about stupid crap like what's for dinner or he didn't take out the garbage.
Oh the Pros.... you save money on living expenses. Hmmm what else... ???
Just reading through some of these replies, I've never seen so many out of touch awful recommendations in one post (well, maybe).Originally Posted by gORJESS
Originally Posted by TheGoldenChild
Come on, gORJESS.. you're asking a board full of guys that are scared of living with a woman, getting married and only date super models and adult stars...
just take care of your guy and dont get aggravated by little things that annoy you..
Just thought I would try and get some of the mature opinions off of here lol
Originally Posted by gORJESS
Originally Posted by TheGoldenChild
Come on, gORJESS.. you're asking a board full of guys that are scared of living with a woman, getting married and only date super models and adult stars...
just take care of your guy and dont get aggravated by little things that annoy you..
Just thought I would try and get some of the mature opinions off of here lol
this isn't true at all...it just takes more substantive reasoning/convincing to change.Originally Posted by CrunchyBlack9
The truth is being spoken here. Take head. A dude at 30 aint gonna change. If he aint changing now, he aint never gonna change. He only gets more set in his ways.Originally Posted by OGMIKEY
Originally Posted by gORJESS
Were actually having a baby, im due in October - wanted to get some unbiased opinions though lol.
I feel like we can wait a little longer for marriage. Im 22, he is 30 and the pregnancy was unplanned but we are trying our best and we want to do this as a family. I honestly wanted some tips on making the experience better for him and I. I want to do the little things that make him happy with hopes of him doing them for me lol.
If he doesn't already there's a high probability you'll end up just a baby mama. Just sayin'
Also, how long were you both together before your pregnancy?
You seem like a nice person. Don't know your situation or anything, but I legitimately wish you two the best of luck. I'll give some advice this time around. Granted, I can't really speak for your man, but I'll list some things that are somewhat of a frequently reoccurring issue whenever I spend a lot of time with a woman in a relationship:Originally Posted by gORJESS
The idea of making this thread came to me when I was in the shower, I thought to myself "I need to find out what kind of body wash he uses so I can make sure when I pick mine up, I can get his and make sure he always has a fresh bottle." Stuff like that, not looking to change the man, just some tips on what makes living together more enjoyable.
Ah, sorry babe, but your situtional looks like future baby momma status. Hes too old for you and your too young for him. His older man side is gonna show when yall move in, and your young girl phase will show too. I wish you luck cheeks, but I pray mostly for that unborn baby. Its gonna be a lot of arguing. Girlll!!!!!Originally Posted by gORJESS
Originally Posted by cap1229
Is marriage in the future for you guys?
Were actually having a baby, im due in October - wanted to get some unbiased opinions though lol.
I feel like we can wait a little longer for marriage. Im 22, he is 30 and the pregnancy was unplanned but we are trying our best and we want to do this as a family. I honestly wanted some tips on making the experience better for him and I. I want to do the little things that make him happy with hopes of him doing them for me lol.
I really appreciate your insight, tips and advice!Originally Posted by Yeah
You seem like a nice person. Don't know your situation or anything, but I legitimately wish you two the best of luck. I'll give some advice this time around. Granted, I can't really speak for your man, but I'll list some things that are somewhat of a frequently reoccurring issue whenever I spend a lot of time with a woman in a relationship:Originally Posted by gORJESS
The idea of making this thread came to me when I was in the shower, I thought to myself "I need to find out what kind of body wash he uses so I can make sure when I pick mine up, I can get his and make sure he always has a fresh bottle." Stuff like that, not looking to change the man, just some tips on what makes living together more enjoyable.
1. Mixing Friends - You want your best friends to get along with your man and vice versa. Nothing wrong with doing a double date every now and then, going to a party or two, awesome. I think the problems arise when you try to get your SO and their friends (either intentionally or unintentionally) to assimilate into your group of friends. I was talking it over with a platonic friend and she said she felt the same way. And because you guys are going to be living together, it might be something you pay attention to. You both are independent people with a set group of friends, so enjoy your friends' company, and allow him to do the same. (And don't take offense to it when he says he's not up for chilling with your friends! He probably just wants to lounge around the house, or kick it with his friends.)
2. Getting Too Comfortable - This is something that EVERY relationship has a problem with. Especially if you're living together (I've never moved in with a woman, but there have been times where it sure seemed like it.) I can't speak for your relationship, but you've probably come to expect certain things from your SO. It's natural. Just be sure not to falter with those things. I dated a girl for a while, she would frequently come over, and then one day she goes to the bathroom and starts blowing it up... and doesn't close the door.I don't care about you using the bathroom, I don't even care if it smells like death, but you've been closing the door for all of this time and all the sudden you feel like "we reached the next level" and that excuses you from closing the door? MAN. *Track 13, Dedication 3.* This is just one example though. If you're fit and go to the gym, try to keep that habit up. You keep your place clean for when your SO comes over? Do the same when you live with them.
3. Saving Time For Yourself(ves) - This is a multifaceted point. Solitude might be one of the most under appreciated ways we spend our time, and we often don't miss it until it's gone. This is especially the case for you if you have a child coming (and I'm guessing it's your first.) You guys are going to get on each others nerves. It's natural. That's not the problem, what you do afterwards is. If you get into an argument, its okay to go over a friend's house to just chill and not talk $#@% about the fight. It's cool to go for a walk. It's also cool to ask your SO for some personal time at the house (get him and his homie tickets to the game or something.) Keep some time for yourself so you don't crazy. You should also spend time together working on your relationship. I'm sure you're going to feel inclined to invite people over all the time once you get the new place, but I'd suggest spending a month or at least a couple weeks just getting to know each other's living habits. How you live at your SO's place is a LOT different from how you live at your own place, and the little things (like the toilet seat, putting dirty dishes in the sink vs. on the counter, etc) can drive you crazy.
4. Money - With a shared living space comes shared finances. If you guys are cool with getting a combined account, cool, but keep your separate account. No ifs, ands, or buts. Personally... I don't care if a ninja gave it to you with navigation, don't go there...
5. Baby - This is a special instance, and I don't have any kids, but I would encourage you two to talk about everything when it comes to your upcoming child. Every thing. EVERY THING. E-V-E-R-Y space T-H-I-N-G. Schools in the area of the new place, day care centers that are close by (if one of you isn't going to stay home,) parks, clothes you want to buy for him/her, who is going to stay in on weekends, who is going to pick-up drop off, etc.
Hope this helps. And some tips to just keep your man happy in general:
a. You two are just chilling, watching TV by yourselves. Whip a titty out and start rubbing it and see how long it takes for him to realize it.
b. Your man just got back from work/gym/etc. You have several options that will make him happy:
i. Have the game playing on the TV when he walks in the door with a cold beer waiting.
ii. Grab him by the belt loop, direct him to the room, and slide him that awesome jawsome.
iii. Be finishing up dinner, his favorite.
c. You wake up before your man usually? Pick a random day and wake him up to you wearing lingerie.
d. You can visibly see him engaged with something on TV? Don't start talking to him. And ESPECIALLY don't start talking to him about a problem. Is it really so urgent that it can't wait for an hour?
e. Have a date night planned out before you nag him about taking you out.
f. What are his hobbies? Offer to take him and his friends to something that they all like, and don't assume that you will be included in the equation.
Lol, I know that there is a chance things wont work out in the end...but I hope for the best.Originally Posted by Lubu1
Ah, sorry babe, but your situtional looks like future baby momma status. Hes too old for you and your too young for him. His older man side is gonna show when yall move in, and your young girl phase will show too. I wish you luck cheeks, but I pray mostly for that unborn baby. Its gonna be a lot of arguing. Girlll!!!!!Originally Posted by gORJESS
Originally Posted by cap1229
Is marriage in the future for you guys?
Were actually having a baby, im due in October - wanted to get some unbiased opinions though lol.
I feel like we can wait a little longer for marriage. Im 22, he is 30 and the pregnancy was unplanned but we are trying our best and we want to do this as a family. I honestly wanted some tips on making the experience better for him and I. I want to do the little things that make him happy with hopes of him doing them for me lol.