what are the benefits for a man to get married?

[antbanks81]

well stated 3900

I really feel as though marriage shouldn't even come across as a thought til 35 at the earliest. Your 20s are your selfish years. Some get to 30 and keep going and some start to slow down.

Being in the situation where you have kids and unmarried is tough mentally. (Yes, I know its on me but that doesn't make **** any easier) For me, I don't want another family. I can't see myself doing that to my babies with my current gf. But you guys are only strengthening my stance against marriage. For those with considerable assets, it makes sense to protect yourself against someone's whims. For those with less, even tougher to give not knowing if it will last.

I am a realist, and the truth is that marriages fail. My folks have been together for close to 30 years. Got an uncle that just celebrated 42 years and another at 12 years. But I got another uncle that finally succeeded on his 3rd marriage and another that failed in his 20s. So it can go either way.

 

[hugheyfreeman]

3900stabler just put it in a nutshell for y'all.

 

[ksteezy]

This whole Tyrone thing is really corny...

 

[ksteezy]

My brother just got engaged at 36 and one of his close friends in his early 40's.

A man who has his stuff together will remain desirable. They are getting married because they are ready for it and it's what they want now.

How long did they know their fiancé/wives for tho?...

I'm more referring to bachelors, slaying dimes all their lives and living the pimp lifestyle into their late 30's and once that magic starts going downhill they automatically want to hit a switch and become a husband in a years time....simply because those things that made them happy, are no longer exciting and are starting to feel Father Time creeping on them...that's when dudes make irrational decisions and get got by a Gold digger if they have their money situation right...or simply end up alone paying for escorts to get their rocks off....you can't just change lifestyles from one day to the next....you been a player all your life only concern with yourself you can't just up and train your heart/mind/peen to accept the sacrafices of marriage and selflessness that comes along with it.

 

[timbo109]

And I don't know why ppl like to always say when u get older as a man you won't be able to pull women no more.  If u got it when ur younger u don't lose it when u get older 

fair enough but does the reward remain the same? I'd imagine that 10 years from nw the novelty/enjoyment of pulling a chick at a bar or supermarket or the gym or wherever will have worn off. I imagine that later on in life (I'm 23 now) forging a deeper relationship with a single woman will be more appealing than forming shallow connections with a lot of women but I could be wrong.

 

[mross16]

Marriage is whatever you chose to make it. This is what I chose to make it

http://s1213.photobucket.com/user/mross16/media/FamilyPic1_zpsec89faab.png.html

It's a great thing bro.

 

[hennessy]

This whole Tyrone thing is really corny...

As corny as it is (and I agree that it's corny), it's true.

I've been Tyrone before.

Seen a dude I know Tyrone his best friend (who he hung out with almost everyday) for a whole year and the dude didn't even know. No one was going to tell him he just had to find out for himself. It got a little out of hand when Tyrone started telling people that he would be a better father to the couples son than his best friend (the actual father).

THAT'S NOT YOUR KID MAN!!!

Situation ended badly needless to say.

Who knows why women do what they do? I don't even think they know themselves. Never think it can't happen to you because if you've been in Tyrone's shoes before you'll know that it's usually the women stepping out to start something with Tyrone rather than Tyrone coming for them.

Gotta learn from mistakes of other before you make them yourself. Don't be naive guys. It can happen to anyone for any reason. I don't think I've been Tyroned before but if I have been I doubt the girl would even tell me, so who knows?

 

[ksteezy]

Yeah you can pull women at an older age, if you took care of yourself and have good financials, so those dudes slayin them better stay in shape and make sure their money is right to pull a younger chick and keep her hooked....just like everything, you get what you put in....hard to reap the benefits of a long term relationship and a good woman, if all you've known your whole life is shallow relationships and short term commitments.

 

[ksteezy]

As corny as it is (and I agree that it's corny), it's true.

I've been Tyrone before.

Seen a dude I know Tyrone his best friend (who he hung out with almost everyday) for a whole year and the dude didn't even know. No one was going to tell him he just had to find out for himself. It got a little out of hand when Tyrone started telling people that he would be a better father to the couples son than his best friend (the actual father).

THAT'S NOT YOUR KID MAN!!!

Situation ended badly needless to say.

Who knows why women do what they do? I don't even think they know themselves. Never think it can't happen to you because if you've been in Tyrone's shoes before you'll know that it's usually the women stepping out to start something with Tyrone rather than Tyrone coming for them.

Gotta learn from mistakes of other before you make them yourself. Don't be naive guys. It can happen to anyone for any reason. I don't think I've been Tyroned before but if I have been I doubt the girl would even tell me, so who knows?

Fam there are no guarantees in life, you just take the plunge, if you fall flat on your face you just have to get back up...just because 99 out of 100 dudes got "Tyronned" it doesn't mean you will....you gotta create your own experiences...living off statistics and being afraid to advance because of others ****ups will only hinder your own growth....so much to learn ABOUT YOURSELF from a real commitment to a woman....not eem talking about marriage here, just long term commitment alone....

 

[hugheyfreeman]

Fam there are no guarantees in life, you just take the plunge, if you fall flat on your face you just have to get back up...just because 99 out of 100 dudes got "Tyronned" it doesn't mean you will....you gotta create your own experiences...living off statistics and being afraid to advance because of others ****ups will only hinder your own growth....so much to learn ABOUT YOURSELF from a real commitment to a woman....not eem talking about marriage here, just long term commitment alone....

True enuff, but don't be naive.

 

[nazdrowie]

off topic and please issue me a late pass but i just learned that tyrone power was a real person...

was like

 

[ksteezy]

True enuff, but don't be naive.

Ironically enough that's what you end up being when you are inexperienced in how to deal with long term commitment....just like everything it takes practice and FAILURE to learn and succeed

 

[Mark Antony]

A true connection and friendship > at the end of the day. Doesn't matter how well off I become or how many yambs I'm positive I can conquer. If I find that i'm locking it down.

 

[antbanks81]

Fam there are no guarantees in life, you just take the plunge, if you fall flat on your face you just have to get back up...just because 99 out of 100 dudes got "Tyronned" it doesn't mean you will....you gotta create your own experiences...living off statistics and being afraid to advance because of others ****ups will only hinder your own growth....so much to learn ABOUT YOURSELF from a real commitment to a woman....not eem talking about marriage here, just long term commitment alone....

well stated. we shouldn't have fear of thing outta our control, but I feel that's only natural to protect yourself when you can. For me, I'm a little cautious about marrying and missing out on the one that would really be THAT ONE for me. Or divorcing after some years and I'm out the game. I really see myself going sugar daddy route once I hit 50.

BUT if I do take the plunge, I hope that I can change. I'm not really into the working part of it. That's probably my biggest struggle.

 

[peteweezy]

As corny as it is (and I agree that it's corny), it's true.

I've been Tyrone before.

Seen a dude I know Tyrone his best friend (who he hung out with almost everyday) for a whole year and the dude didn't even know. No one was going to tell him he just had to find out for himself. It got a little out of hand when Tyrone started telling people that he would be a better father to the couples son than his best friend (the actual father).

THAT'S NOT YOUR KID MAN!!!

Situation ended badly needless to say.

Who knows why women do what they do? I don't even think they know themselves. Never think it can't happen to you because if you've been in Tyrone's shoes before you'll know that it's usually the women stepping out to start something with Tyrone rather than Tyrone coming for them.

Gotta learn from mistakes of other before you make them yourself. Don't be naive guys. It can happen to anyone for any reason. I don't think I've been Tyroned before but if I have been I doubt the girl would even tell me, so who knows?

Fam there are no guarantees in life, you just take the plunge, if you fall flat on your face you just have to get back up...just because 99 out of 100 dudes got "Tyronned" it doesn't mean you will....you gotta create your own experiences...living off statistics and being afraid to advance because of others ****ups will only hinder your own growth....so much to learn ABOUT YOURSELF from a real commitment to a woman....not eem talking about marriage here, just long term commitment alone....

Gotta agree with this dudes in here scarred to be great. I really hope dudes don't bring this mentality to other aspects of their life. Tyrone is real but I've saw Tyrone's get clapped over it too so is it worth it?

 

[Mark Antony]

Dudes in here are 18 worried about Tyrone. Bad outlook this early.

 

[dathbgboy]

marriage is dumb. Things change, it should be contracts.

And you're dumb for not thinking that it already isn't a contract.

 

[younghollywood]

fair enough but does the reward remain the same? I'd imagine that 10 years from nw the novelty/enjoyment of pulling a chick at a bar or supermarket or the gym or wherever will have worn off. I imagine that later on in life (I'm 23 now) forging a deeper relationship with a single woman will be more appealing than forming shallow connections with a lot of women but I could be wrong.

I dont know, I can only speak for myself and my own situation.  I don't even do 1 night stands like that no more unless i'm overseas but I do have a friends with benefits I guess is the way to call them.  I just don't see any appeal in monogamy or marriage.  I already have a son and daughter from 2 different women that I like, but I know I don't trust them with all my assets I worked hard to get and they don't make me lose desire for other women.  I'm perfectly fine living free by my own rules and just making sure all the fruits of my labor will be enjoyed by my kids and myself and hopefully I'll have something good to leave them too when I'm gone.

Yeah you can pull women at an older age, if you took care of yourself and have good financials, so those dudes slayin them better stay in shape and make sure their money is right to pull a younger chick and keep her hooked....just like everything, you get what you put in....hard to reap the benefits of a long term relationship and a good woman, if all you've known your whole life is shallow relationships and short term commitments.

If u can read women and know how they think you can push the right buttons and you don't lose that with age.  If theres 1 thing I'm confident about is that I'll still be able to do that 20, 30, 40 even 50 years down the line.

 

[Top Boy]

Gotta agree with this dudes in here scarred to be great. I really hope dudes don't bring this mentality to other aspects of their life. Tyrone is real but I've saw Tyrone's get clapped over it too so is it worth it?

Messing w/ owned yambs is a ****** up move, but as a dude if you have any self-respect you're not about to cause trouble for Tyrone.. The blame is on the female. Unless dude is pulling a power move and blackmailing your chick or somethin, 9 times outta 10 she's the one that gave no dambz.

Dudes in here are 18 worried about Tyrone. Bad outlook this early.

It's the digital age fam.. If you aren't you're a fool.

 

[hennessy]

Gotta agree with this dudes in here scarred to be great. I really hope dudes don't bring this mentality to other aspects of their life. Tyrone is real but I've saw Tyrone's get clapped over it too so is it worth it?

I agree too. And hey, I have a two year anniversary with a girl in a month. Haven't been with anyone else once I told her I wanted to be with her. Can't lie I'd be crushed if I found out there was a Tyrone, I think it's very unlikely because I know her so well and she spends most of her time off of work with me, but, I'm just saying that you never know...

I hope to get married someday. My girl I'm with now keeps hinting at it. Telling me she doesn't care when we get married she just wants to be engaged. Talking about kids and stuff. I told her I'm not ready but she still brings it up a lot like letting me know she's expecting it.

I think a lot of girls want to get married once they see a few of their friends get married because they are missing out on something great. I don't think any girl wants to be the last to get married in their group of friends. The biological clock is ticking for them and they are going to apply pressure to get what they want (marriage, kids, house, etc...). The biggest mistake you can make as a young male is to give into marriage before you're ready. If you got a good girl worth marrying, she'll understand this and wait for you.

The simple reason I want to get married someday is that life is more fun/fulfilling when you share it with someone you care about.

 

[peteweezy]

Gotta agree with this dudes in here scarred to be great. I really hope dudes don't bring this mentality to other aspects of their life. Tyrone is real but I've saw Tyrone's get clapped over it too so is it worth it?

Messing w/ owned yambs is a ****** up move, but as a dude if you have any self-respect you're not about to cause trouble for Tyrone.. The blame is on the female. Unless dude is pulling a power move and blackmailing your chick or somethin, 9 times outta 10 she's the one that gave no dambz.

Dudes in here are 18 worried about Tyrone. Bad outlook this early.

It's the digital age fam.. If you aren't you're a fool.

Personally your a better man than me cause unless ole boy didn't know she was with me I'm clapping everybody if I went that route. Forget all that he was being a man stuff you know the risk of stealing and what could happen if you get caught same rules apply here lol. I wish I could honestly say I would would only react if it was my one of my "boys" but I can't and hope I'm never in that postion to find out.

 

[hugheyfreeman]

Messing w/ owned yambs is a ****** up move, but as a dude if you have any self-respect you're not about to cause trouble for Tyrone.. The blame is on the female. Unless dude is pulling a power move and blackmailing your chick or somethin, 9 times outta 10 she's the one that gave no dambz.


It's the digital age fam.. If you aren't you're a fool.

Why y'all gotta bash us youngins we learnin frum old heads well at least I am.

 

[Top Boy]

Why y'all gotta bash us youngins we learnin frum old heads well at least I am.

What?

Im 19. I still fall under the youngin category

 

[tr1ll]

I wish I could check back in on some of yall in about 10 -15 years.

 

[hugheyfreeman]

I wish I could check back in on some of yall in about 10 -15 years.

I might be dead. I'm in the lost generation.