what are the benefits for a man to get married?

[antbanks81]

this is a mess, I need to find some more benefits. Here are a few I have come up pertaining to my situation.

I'm 32, engaged with twin 3yo girls and have been dating her for close to seven years

my benefits-

-raising our kids together
-raw sex
-already know her crazy
-no need to meet more women
-feel as though I won't be living in sin according to my religion

and still not ready to make a move with all those. I'm not sure it would be any better with any woman. I may be wrong though.

 

[ksteezy]

this is a mess, I need to find some more benefits. Here are a few I have come up pertaining to my situation.

I'm 32, engaged with twin 3yo girls and have been dating her for close to seven years

my benefits-

-raising our kids together
-raw sex
-already know her crazy
-no need to meet more women
-feel as though I won't be living in sin according to my religion

and still not ready to make a move with all those. I'm not sure it would be any better with any woman. I may be wrong though.

Many will argue that you can do all those except for the religious part out of marriage and they are right...but fam regardless of popular opinion, take it from a married man who took the plunge after 10 years of dating...you choose the right woman, things do change for the positive in you specifically as a man...this sense of growth and stronger commitment, like we really did this, we are now husband and wife...legally and emotionally you have now set a much stronger foundation if you believe that marriage is for te long haul and that the option of walking out which is what I found to be the ultimate comfort zone for nonmarried dudes is no longer there....really does strengthen that bond more than some think....

I've come to the conclusion that men are becoming more like scorned women, bitter and afraid of the opposite sex, period...letting statistics of marriage be some guideline for them to make the right decision instead of focusing on their mate and knowing if she's the one or not.

Btw no shots fired at ninja, but ya can't follow ANY advice dude has on ANYTHING that means long term commitment....I don't even think Dude has a relationship with a bank.

 

[retro23j]

Love.

When you marry, you and your spouse become one in God's eyes and are to love that person with the same love that God has for you.

The true benefit is blurred nowadays and raises this question because people want and exalt what selfishly benefits their flesh first and disregard the spiritual benefits, leaving God out and not completely understanding what marriage is really about.

 

[fontaine]

Many will argue that you can do all those except for the religious part out of marriage and they are right...but fam regardless of popular opinion, take it from a married man who took the plunge after 10 years of dating...you choose the right woman, things do change for the positive in you specifically as a man...this sense of growth and stronger commitment, like we really did this, we are now husband and wife...legally and emotionally you have now set a much stronger foundation if you believe that marriage is for te long haul and that the option of walking out which is what I found to be the ultimate comfort zone for nonmarried dudes is no longer there....really does strengthen that bond more than some think....

I've come to the conclusion that men are becoming more like scorned women, bitter and afraid of the opposite sex, period...letting statistics of marriage be some guideline for them to make the right decision instead of focusing on their mate and knowing if she's the one or not.

Btw no shots fired at ninja, but ya can't follow ANY advice dude has on ANYTHING that means long term commitment....I don't even think Dude has a relationship with a bank.

See...

I can RESPECT this answer.

Thank you steezy... For being able to articulate your thoughts instead of regurgitating what people in church and on TV tell you.

That sense of growth is something that cannot be quantified like financials...

I disagree about becoming "scorned women"... "Scorned women" don't get shamed into commitments when they're not ready... This has been happening to the fellas for awhile.

I think its less about them being scorned... And more about them being more AWARE of the possible outcomes.

Besides... Women are taught a COMPLETELY different outlook when it comes to marriage. They receive gifts, and its totally about THEM...

Removing financials like wedding rings, men are completely disregarded when it comes to the actual ceremony. Its never "his day" or even "their day"...

Majority of the time its "her day"

And we can go deeper when it comes to domestic courts too.

Marriage concept should at least be refreshed to reflect the modern world. Other than that, I think a well off man has nothing TK gain that can be quantified.

That's not saying NOTHING AT ALL can be gained, however.

 

[fontaine]

Love.

When you marry, you and your spouse become one in God's eyes and are to love that person with the same love that God has for you.

The true benefit is blurred nowadays and raises this question because people want and exalt what selfishly benefits their flesh first and disregard the spiritual benefits, leaving God out and not completely understanding what marriage is really about.

If that's your beliefs, more power to you, famb. Hope it works out for you.

Going in with the starry eyed approach is noble.

Still funny doe.

 

[retro23j]

You've gotta elaborate on that

and starry eyed talk for me Fontaine.

 

[wr]

The 50% divorce rate is a myth, is it not?

yeah because it's more like 60 now

 

[antbanks81]

Many will argue that you can do all those except for the religious part out of marriage and they are right...but fam regardless of popular opinion, take it from a married man who took the plunge after 10 years of dating...you choose the right woman, things do change for the positive in you specifically as a man...this sense of growth and stronger commitment, like we really did this, we are now husband and wife...legally and emotionally you have now set a much stronger foundation if you believe that marriage is for te long haul and that the option of walking out which is what I found to be the ultimate comfort zone for nonmarried dudes is no longer there....really does strengthen that bond more than some think....

I've come to the conclusion that men are becoming more like scorned women, bitter and afraid of the opposite sex, period...letting statistics of marriage be some guideline for them to make the right decision instead of focusing on their mate and knowing if she's the one or not.

Btw no shots fired at ninja, but ya can't follow ANY advice dude has on ANYTHING that means long term commitment....I don't even think Dude has a relationship with a bank.

Steezy, I might be alright if I can get 3 more years MINIMUM to feel her out. I have a hardtime believing she will change. I'm not too caught up in popular opinion and not even overwhelmed by my faith's take on it. Even my pastor told me she knows its different out here than when they were coming up. I just want to be happy. I'm not the type of dude that can transform to a yes dear dude. For me I just feel like I need to be free. Not so much to knock every yamb walking but to have control over my life and not have any concern over who someone else takes it.

 

[Rootin4EverybodyBlack]

this is a mess, I need to find some more benefits. Here are a few I have come up pertaining to my situation.

I'm 32, engaged with twin 3yo girls and have been dating her for close to seven years

my benefits-

-raising our kids together
-raw sex
-already know her crazy
-no need to meet more women
-feel as though I won't be living in sin according to my religion

and still not ready to make a move with all those. I'm not sure it would be any better with any woman. I may be wrong though.

What exactly does that mean? We live in "sin" on a daily basis married or not.

I'm not religious so I don't believe in the whole "sin" thing anyways, but I just don't understand how people who "sin" EVERY DAY, throw out the "living in sin" card when talking about pre-marital relationships.

 

[tr1ll]

this is a mess, I need to find some more benefits. Here are a few I have come up pertaining to my situation.

I'm 32, engaged with twin 3yo girls and have been dating her for close to seven years

my benefits-

-raising our kids together
-raw sex
-already know her crazy
-no need to meet more women
-feel as though I won't be living in sin according to my religion

and still not ready to make a move with all those. I'm not sure it would be any better with any woman. I may be wrong though.

What exactly does that mean? We live in "sin" on a daily basis married or not.

I'm not religious so I don't believe in the whole "sin" thing anyways, but I just don't understand how people who "sin" EVERY DAY, throw out the "living in sin" card when talking about pre-marital relationships.

So why are you questioning it?

Let him have his beliefs.

 

[nazdrowie]

 
Love.

When you marry, you and your spouse become one in God's eyes and are to love that person with the same love that God has for you.

The true benefit is blurred nowadays and raises this question because people want and exalt what selfishly benefits their flesh first and disregard the spiritual benefits, leaving God out and not completely understanding what marriage is really about.

...and what about unions performed by judges that are supposed to have no religious connotations?

...and the thing about steezys answers are that they are just the opposite side of the "never getting married" type coin...people can still have those types of relationships without being married... 

...the romanticization of the concept needs to stop...

...marriage can be a beautiful thing, but people need to stop acting like its the pinnacle, alpha-omega type of relationship, that is on the effort and love of the people involved, ive met just as many couples if not more couples who have stronger bonds and treat each other with more love a respect than people that are married

 

[hugheyfreeman]

They must not know about Tyrone yet.

 

[dathbgboy]

Wasn't this thread already made like a few years ago? or at least there was a thread that veered off topic to this for sure

This thread comes around every few months just like the religion/atheist threads and all it is is cats findin numbers on the web to support their argument. If u're goin into somethin w/ a certain mindstate then it's gon either turn out good or bad, period. People get married for money, kids, etc etc and it doesn't work out because they got married for the wrong reason. Dudes marryin shorties because they think she got got some bangin Ritz only to get mad when they wake up and realize that she just got regular crackers.

Besides those that are religious and do it for that reason (but of course people love to bash religion so why not bash something done in the namesake?) other do it to show devotion to a single person. If u feel that u can't make the commitment, don't do it and u won't have to worry about a divorce later on down the line.

I used to be wild and reckless while my wife and I were datin (bf/gf, etc etc) but told myself that once I said "I do" that all that was a wrap. We as men allow society to dictate how we think. If u find a great woman (which is becoming harder and harder these days) why risk losin her just because u see another piece of tail? Grass aint always greener.

So OP, if u lookin at marriage for it's benefits in an economic sense, don't worry about marriage because ur mind aint in the right place for it

 

[Rootin4EverybodyBlack]

So why are you questioning it?

Let him have his beliefs.

I am. I just want him or anybody to explain the logic/reasoning when ppl say that, because I hear people preach it to me on a weekly basis.

I'm not trying to down his beliefes, i'm trying to be open minded and understand, how it's different from any other type of "sinning".

 

[ksteezy]

I am. I just want him or anybody to explain the logic/reasoning when ppl say that, because I hear people preach it to me on a weekly basis.

I'm not trying to down his beliefes, i'm trying to be open minded and understand, how it's different from any other type of "sinning".

You won't understand because you simply don't believe in it...at this point is about acceptance, you don't need to understand to have an open mind about it.

 

[rustlenomics]

Wouldn't they give your apartment to her?

not if its under mamas name pleighboi.

 

[ksteezy]

not if its under mamas name pleighboi.

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[acemaster193]

For the exception of a few people, I don't know anyone in my family that has had a successful marriage. And my family is huge. Most of my married friends participate in unjustly acts. I see married women throwing the P like Peyton manning as if they didn't have a husband back home.

I'm good.

 

[retro23j]

 
...and what about unions performed by judges that are supposed to have no religious connotations?

What about them?

...the romanticization of the concept needs to stop...

Why?

...marriage can be a beautiful thing, but people need to stop acting like its the pinnacle, alpha-omega type of relationship, that is on the effort and love of the people involved,

The pinnacle...I dunno but marriage does take effort and the love of the people involved.

ive met just as many couples if not more couples who have stronger bonds and treat each other with more love a respect than people that are married

I have too and it works for many.

 

[hennessy beach]

a lot of hurt ****** in here...what girl broke your hearts?

marriages fail because both men and women go into it expecting either too much or too little.  Relationships are not hard to maintain if you are willing to sacrifice.  Everyone is only about themselves these days though..

 

[az102]

The worst part is 66% of divorces are initiated by women. They convince us to marry them and when they marriage doesn't live up to their Disney fantasy they divorce and skate with half.

 

[am1x90xnike]

The advantages of marriage are no where the disadvantages of divorce. If you're smart with a good accountant than all financial advantages will be the same. The only advantage is that you show someone that your willing to bet the rest of your life on that person, willing to throw your future on the table with theirs, that faith in another shows that you love them and that goes a long way to the relationship.


I haven't met a single girl I'm willing to gamble with, not anti - marriage, just anti rushing into marriage.

 

[Top Boy]

They must not know about Tyrone yet.

Underrated post.

Guaranteed one or more NT'ers got their wives getting banged out by Tyrone(s) and dont eem know it.

All the advocates of marriage in this thread are older NT'ers and dudes that think they're going to Heaven by committing to one chick.

 

[tr1ll]

They must not know about Tyrone yet.

Underrated post.

Guaranteed one or more NT'ers got their wives getting banged out by Tyrone(s) and dont eem know it.

All the advocates of marriage in this thread are older NT'ers and dudes that think they're going to Heaven by committing to one chick.

You dont eem know how much you just said about yourself in this post....

Yall must think everybody got week pipe game except, like 6 ******, flying across the world, pipin wives. Most of yall minds arent even right enough to even be talking about marriage.

Like I said earlier, "Men" dont want to be husbands and "women" dont want to be wives.

 

[younghollywood]

Marriage is an outdated concept.  Society has changed in so many ways now it's unrealistic for majority of ppl.  Thats why the marriage rate gets decrease every year.  It'll be hard to completely die off bc of the organized religion groups and the less progressive ppl that live in the country