Pardon the delayed response.
I was in a play with a girl who was very fond of herself. Blonde hair, blue eye and petite. She was practically Hitler's mission. I played her husband in this play and I kissed her in a scene. Last time I checked, that's what husbands do. Mind you, this was a theatre kiss. Meaning, kiss deeply with your lips without your tongue. She never said anything and neither did the director. A few weeks later they let me go from the play because I didn't want to quit my voice and speech class to focus on the play. This was a non-union, non paying play with an amateur director. I felt my training was more important. ****I wasn't let go because of her******
That night, I texted her telling her what happened and it was great meeting her. She told me she heard and proceeded to tell me how I did to myself because I was in class, working and working on play. She proceeded to get on her high horse and praised herself on how she focuses on one thing (the privilege of an aspiring White actor). However, she ended by saying how she hopes to work with me again. Turns out that play didn't make it pass rehearsals. Why? because they never got the rights to do the play.
Two weeks later: I book a film, the lead role in a paying play recognized by the union (which got me my membership), an off-broadway play and two short films. She booked a "how to twerk video" on YouTube. Mind you, this girl has no buns (no disrespect). A year later, I'm hanging with a mutual friend. She tells me how they were all hanging out and how she was throwing dirt on my name. She said I was "sexually aggressive," she was glad I got fired and no girl wants to work me. I told my friend exactly what happened and she responded by telling me how the girl left out the facts. Months later, said victim is all over my Instagram liking my pictures.....What? I thought I was a villain? Why are you on my social media? I have yet to run into her after hearing about what she said. However, a part of me can't wait.
Ever since then, anytime I play opposite a White actress I put the ball in her court. I ask her how she wants to handle intimacy and I make sure I do it in front of the director. I've never had this issue when working with Black actresses. We now have people in the industry called Intimacy Coaches. They work with the director during rehearsals if there is a scene with intimacy to make sure no feels violated. At first I thought it was corny, but I now appreciate it because it covers both the actor and the actress. So if an actress wants to make false claims, "Hey, talk to the intimacy coach."