the thread about nothing...

[SC kid]

A guy I used to work for who is also a good friend of mine cheated on his wife of almost 30 years

They got divorced and she took EVERYTHING.
It was a big deal because They are both professors in the same department and the girl he cheated with was a student and "friend" of theirs.

She will never forgive him as far as I can see.

They have kids too

 

[Coromanti]

Sarah for Pontifex.

 

[everysingletime]

I mean it's going to depend on the situation obviously...but the person who got cheated on should absolutely recieve the lesson of how important it is to take care of home before someone has an opportunity to.

Nah I disagree. If the relationship is not working out for you, then you either talk it out or agree to break up. You don't cheat

 

[promac]

She is wife material for somebody.. Anyone who can take a full load of _ and juggle two _ has my respect

 

[maq25060]

Nah I disagree. If the relationship is not working out for you, then you either talk it out or agree to break up. You don't cheat

If the person expressed they aren't getting enough A, B and/or C then they did try to talk it out.

Very rarely do those convos go:
Person A: I need this
Person B: I don't provide it.

Usually person b says they'll try to do better. If they aren't doing better though, they are absolutely to blame. Person A would be an ******* not to give B a shot but if B does nothing with it and A finds someone who stepped up (unintentionally) both A and B have to live with that failure.

 

[bendover]

Cheating is proof that we're all animals

 

[niceshoes247]

Cheating is proof that we're all animals

U still drunk?

 

[freakydestroyer]

I wish someone told me how lucrative it is to be a divorce attorney.

 

[benzilla427]

I wish someone told me how lucrative it is to be a divorce attorney.

It is lucrative to be a divorce attorney.

 

[everysingletime]

If the person expressed they aren't getting enough A, B and/or C then they did try to talk it out.

Very rarely do those convos go:
Person A: I need this
Person B: I don't provide it.

Usually person b says they'll try to do better. If they aren't doing better though, they are absolutely to blame. Person A would be an ******* not to give B a shot but if B does nothing with it and A finds someone who stepped up (unintentionally) both A and B have to live with that failure.

Lol if B didn't step up, then you just break up, you don't cheat

 

[promac]

This dude really out here giving relationship advice?

 

[Fozz]

I'm with you for the most part. Butnwhat about the person stuck in the marriage where they did explain these things and nothing changed? This is where my point comes in.

Communication works both ways. Is the other person expressing their thoughts on the topic or given the opportunity to speak their mind?

 

[maq25060]

Lol if B didn't step up, then you just break up, you don't cheat

You think relationships are that cut and dry? You think B ain't begging for a chance? Shedding tears? Reminding you of all the time invested...

 

[Fozz]

Lol if B didn't step up, then you just break up, you don't cheat

So, immediately break up a marriage because your expectations aren't being met? If a person is that quick to make a decision, they shouldn't have gotten married to begin with.

 

[alchemist iq]

This dude really out here giving relationship advice?

 

[freakydestroyer]

It is lucrative to be a divorce attorney.

Try 10-15 years ago.

 

[bendover]

U still drunk?

Poorly worded but you get the jist.
Pretty much evidence that we cant be monogamous
We have a physical craving that we need to fulfill and no remorse to another persons feelings, especially someone who were supposed to be "in love" with
*Disclaimer*
Not how i personally feel.
Just food for thought

 

[Fozz]

Poorly worded but you get the jist.
Pretty much evidence that we cant be monogamous
We have a physical craving that we need to fulfill and no remorse to another persons feelings, especially someone who were supposed to be "in love" with
*Disclaimer*
Not how i personally feel.
Just food for thought

We all lust. It's normal. But it's another level to decide on cheating on your partner to reach that satisfaction.

 

[everysingletime]

So, immediately break up a marriage because your expectations aren't being met. If a person is that quick to make a decision, they shouldn't have gotten married to begin with.

Lol so what are you saying? It's ok to cheat if you feel the other person is not putting in the work?

That sounds like what a few of you are arguing right now

 

[Fozz]

Lol so what are you saying? It's ok to cheat if you feel the other person is not putting in the work?

That's not what I'm saying at all. Read again.

What you implied is to break up a relationship, if person B isn't meeting person A's expectations. I stated that that you shouldn't do that. A marriage works both ways starting with communication on each persons needs and desires. You stated that they should simply break up to 'avoid' cheating. Marriage isn't cut dry like that.

If you're referring to two people dating, I guess you can go the route you suggested. But, I still think there should be investment in the relationship and not just be quick to give up. Person B has needs and expectations, too.

They both have to work together.

 

[everysingletime]

That's not what I'm saying at all. Read again.

What you implied is to break up a relationship, if person B isn't meeting person A's expectations. I stated that that you shouldn't do that. A marriage works both ways starting with communication on each persons needs and desires. You stated that they should simply break up to 'avoid' cheating. Marriage isn't cut dry like that.

If you're referring to two people dating, I guess you can go the route you suggested. But, I still think there should be investment in the relationship and not just be quick to give up. Person B has needs and expectations, too.

They both have to work together.

Lol I never said you shouldn't have discussions with person B first and try to make it work

I'm talking about if after everything is all talked out and it's still not working out, obviously the next step is to leave, rather than cheat

Bottom line, when you get down to it is there's no reason to ever cheat

 

[Fozz]

Lol I never said you shouldn't have discussions with person B first and try to make it work

I'm talking about if after everything is all talked out and it's still not working out, obviously the next step is to leave, rather than cheat

Bottom line, when you get down to it is there's no reason to ever cheat

Lol if B didn't step up, then you just break up, you don't cheat

This was your exact response. What you just mentioned isn't expressed in your response.

 

[alchemist iq]

Manu Ginobli is hanging up the jersey.

Hands down one of the greatest spurs player in thier franchise.

Jeesh dont break my leg

 

[maq25060]

Manu Ginobli is hanging up the jersey.

Hands down the greatest spurs player in thier franchise.

Stop it.

 

[benzilla427]

Manu Ginobli is hanging up the jersey.

Hands down the greatest spurs player in thier franchise.

Tim Duncan is rolling in his grave