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I visited some friends on the trip I hadn't seen in forever, so that was good at least. But no, the yambs were not had since she's eased off her stance of down to smash to "let's play it safe this time." 
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That sounds like a perfect plan of action. Thank you, bro. Gonna hit up a few girls in the Bay this month. I know you warned me about it earlier, but sometimes you just gotta see what's up and take the shot, you know? Glad I got my answer.
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Don't you hate when potential yambs text you randomly "so what are you up to?" You respond and then they proceed not to hit you back 
***** WHY DID YOU TEXT ME IN THE FIRST PLACE!?
Needed to get that off my chest.
***** WHY DID YOU TEXT ME IN THE FIRST PLACE!?
Needed to get that off my chest.
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Don't you hate when potential yambs text you randomly "so what are you up to?" You respond and then they proceed not to hit you back
***** WHY DID YOU TEXT ME IN THE FIRST PLACE!?
Needed to get that off my chest.
What did you say you were up to?
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I would text them
"Bout to do u, heading over now."
Next response (depends doe)
"Pepper ur angus I'm going in dry (srs)"
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T Lo Sweater
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Dat dere strong misc swag/10
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im in the same boat at Trav T. me this girl been talkin since august shes from Calgary Canada and im from Seattle. She same down here for her cousins wedding and we hit it off then, i would fly up there once a month and she spend christmas and NYE down here with me and her cousins. i went up there for her birthday and met all her best guy/girlfriends and cousins but not her parents. it was a blast they liked me as well. but the distance is killin me a well its like playing with fantasy rather then reality cause at the end of the day someone has to make a move to be close to each other.
while she was down here for some reason shes been giving mixed signals, we would hold hands and then later keep her distance while were walking around. and when she was showering her phone was on my bed and she got a text from two different guys but then i just blinded out of my mind. her cousin told me she really likes me im cool and easy going but then she says she not ready for a relationship. mind you we've been talking since august. she just got out of a 5 year relationship and its been 6 months already so i dont know if she still stuck, trying to find herself again, or she just doesn't want this long distance relationship thing. she would tell me she doesnt believe in the long distance thing and the next she would tell me lets go about it day by day. So i been cutting down texting her and giving her the space she needs but i dont know if i should keep on pursuing or what not.
its crazy out yambs can make a man go crazy when you put your emotions to it i feel bad for myself for putting myself in this situation i like her a lot and it gonna be hard for me to shake her off. she said she'll come and visit me in march for my birthday and she doesnt know if she wants me to up for valentines. All in all shes amazing havent felt like this in a while.
jyabbs fill me in on this long distance thing so that ill know how to deal with it the next time around
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im in the same boat at Trav T. me this girl been talkin since august shes from Calgary Canada and im from Seattle. She same down here for her cousins wedding and we hit it off then, i would fly up there once a month and she spend christmas and NYE down here with me and her cousins. i went up there for her birthday and met all her best guy/girlfriends and cousins but not her parents. it was a blast they liked me as well. but the distance is killin me a well its like playing with fantasy rather then reality cause at the end of the day someone has to make a move to be close to each other.
while she was down here for some reason shes been giving mixed signals, we would hold hands and then later keep her distance while were walking around. and when she was showering her phone was on my bed and she got a text from two different guys but then i just blinded out of my mind. her cousin told me she really likes me im cool and easy going but then she says she not ready for a relationship. mind you we've been talking since august. she just got out of a 5 year relationship and its been 6 months already so i dont know if she still stuck, trying to find herself again, or she just doesn't want this long distance relationship thing. she would tell me she doesnt believe in the long distance thing and the next she would tell me lets go about it day by day. So i been cutting down texting her and giving her the space she needs but i dont know if i should keep on pursuing or what not.
its crazy out yambs can make a man go crazy when you put your emotions to it i feel bad for myself for putting myself in this situation i like her a lot and it gonna be hard for me to shake her off. she said she'll come and visit me in march for my birthday and she doesnt know if she wants me to up for valentines. All in all shes amazing havent felt like this in a while.
jyabbs fill me in on this long distance thing so that ill know how to deal with it the next time around
while she was down here for some reason shes been giving mixed signals, we would hold hands and then later keep her distance while were walking around. and when she was showering her phone was on my bed and she got a text from two different guys but then i just blinded out of my mind. her cousin told me she really likes me im cool and easy going but then she says she not ready for a relationship. mind you we've been talking since august. she just got out of a 5 year relationship and its been 6 months already so i dont know if she still stuck, trying to find herself again, or she just doesn't want this long distance relationship thing. she would tell me she doesnt believe in the long distance thing and the next she would tell me lets go about it day by day. So i been cutting down texting her and giving her the space she needs but i dont know if i should keep on pursuing or what not.
its crazy out yambs can make a man go crazy when you put your emotions to it i feel bad for myself for putting myself in this situation i like her a lot and it gonna be hard for me to shake her off. she said she'll come and visit me in march for my birthday and she doesnt know if she wants me to up for valentines. All in all shes amazing havent felt like this in a while.
jyabbs fill me in on this long distance thing so that ill know how to deal with it the next time around
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I think Jyabbz's answer to my story pretty much applies the same to yours. But yeah, this sounds all too familiar. Girl I was seeing was in an on again/off again relationship with some loser for 4 years. She had said it was over and done with and she had learned from it when we were talking before I came. That didn't seem to be the case at all. My plan is to just start talking to other women locally and see if I get my mind off it and get something else going. I think you and I should both do this. I'm gonna wait for this girl to contact me if she wants to talk/visit. If she doesn't, that's fine, too.
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Good looking man it just pains me how i put so much effort into something that i thought was gonna work out. we started off with a bang and i dont know where along the lines we fell off. yeah the dude cheated on her and seem like she "STILL" stuck on it, plus she likes white guys and were both asian so that play one of the factors as well.
yeah i need to go out more and put myself out there cause before her it was cold turkey for a good year, i gotta brush up on my mack game. Thanks for the support i needed it good luck to you bro!
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sounds like a plan, yeah she was in/out relationship of 5 years and dude ended up cheating on her. it just pains me how much effort and time i put into this thing and end up biting the dust hard. So we'll see how things go cause she still wants to see me on my birthday in March only because shes coming down here to see her cousin deliver her new born. Gotta go out and put myself out there and also brush up my mack game cause before her i was cold turkey for a good year, i must be doing something wrong.
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You most def need to move on to other options, you got blindsided by the friendzone while them two other ****** put in work. I believe she likes you though, she does too, women are weird. 2 months is a good enough time to get fresh yambs and shake that feeling you have for her. When ya'll see each other again in march and remembers why she dug you, go for the yambs asap. Where we **** up with girls we like is we get all romantic and **** instead of feeding her primal urges like other yambs you don't feel as much. Notice how they on your ****? treat her similarly, curb your enthusiasm.
You got that mean oneitis then. Guaranteed you're acting kinda clingy without noticing. Fresh off a bid like that, most def don't get wrapped up with one chick, especially if she isn't straight with you.
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Damn, yeah I think this is a common story line, unfortunately. Same story with the dude cheating on this girl and lying to her. Saying he's gonna get his act together and win her back. Just let it go, I guess. She has more baggage than a 747. Don't put any more effort in and let her seek you out if she wants to. Either that or end up like Drake lol:
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Damn, yeah I think this is a common story line, unfortunately. Same story with the dude cheating on this girl and lying to her. Saying he's gonna get his act together and win her back. Just let it go, I guess. She has more baggage than a 747. Don't put any more effort in and let her seek you out if she wants to. Either that or end up like Drake lol:
Yup, that's the sequence.
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I'm not trying to be Drake in this situation. 90% of the time they end up getting back with the dude. And then it doesn't work out again . How do you go back into a relationship based on deception and lies? Oh well, her loss. Onto the next one.
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Honestly, depends how well I know dude. If that's your boy, I wouldn't mess with that. If it's just a cat you "know" then go in.
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^He used to be my boy in HS but once I went away for college, not as much.
Anyways, I smashed that same night (last Thurs) felt guilty the next day, but got over it. Just curious to see if NT woulda done the same.
Anyways, I smashed that same night (last Thurs) felt guilty the next day, but got over it. Just curious to see if NT woulda done the same.
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I was in the exact same situation except me and this kid would just give each other dap whenever we see each other. Never actually chilled with him. His ex girl goes to my school and was ALL OVER me one night and told my boy to tell me that she wants to smash. I couldn't do it, because I knew i'd regret it.
Not saying its a bad thing, but thats just not who i am. if i say whats up to you in person, im not gonna go ahead and smash your ex girl down the line.
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You take dap that serious? Why you dapping up dude if you never chilled with him? Mutual friends? Hooped with him?
I think the ex of an acquaintance is fair game. I've had friends who have dated a friend's ex but the 1st relationship was never serious and they ended on good terms
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yea hooped. i think dating is fair game and is a lot less worse than a one night stand in that situation though
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