Turn down? Hell nah. Just don't do any active pursuing till you're ready to. The only real time I've ever shut off completely is when I was heartbroken.
so it's cool to just take things slow on platonic level then gradually advance when ready?
Naw, that sounds like games. Don't expect **** just to be there when you're ready.
Yea I'm not talmbout placing myself in any friendzones
I just realized that I've spent way too much energy into chicks, and I don't even put alot of energy into chicks to begin with.
I wanna just not holla at that chick i see eyeing me, but also make minimal moves when it's just too obvious. I feel like i'm overthinking it, though.
Like, i'm at a point in my life where I'm tryna get some real life stuff accomplished, and I don't even wanna get at these chicks, but these chicks just be expecting you to get at them, and if you don't they act like you're lame for it.
Like, I can flirt all day, but i'm not tryna text nobody or have any "things" going where I have to put thought into anything at all.
The problem is that I'm in this space where I have alot of female friends, and they're not only bad but have friends that are bad and open (i ended up hitting one and that led me to my realization about wasting brainspace/time/energy). It's like I have to actively tell myself to not take it past flirting and jokes, but there's always that moment where you KNOW theyre wondering why you don't just ask for their number or pull her over to the side or whatever the situation would call for on some smooth ****.
I'm not some suave pimp dude, but I'm just a regular dude in the world and it seems like right when I'm trying to get my life to be a certain way and realizing that I could probably just do with a little celibacy, it's like I see the angles and openings EVERYWHERE.
I need some game on not going out of my way to get these broads but also not avoiding them.