Spend 95% of my time with a girl who seems to have me defined as one of (if not her biggest) pet peeve, but still feels the need to always have me around. I've told her she needs to get out and meet more ppl (girls and guys), and that she's just lonely. I do help her in some aspects with regards to personal growth, and feels as if she not only sees but values that. When she annoys me to a point (irrelevant arguments over nothing) where I tell her I don't really want to kick it no more, she apologizes and makes it known she wants me around.
All of this would be fine IF I saw myself with her long-term or even the possibility of it. But I'm not sure I do. Physically she's alright, but I've grown less attracted to her than I was initially. What started out as a lil thick (when you don't see someone everyday) grew to a lil sloppy/lazy. Then when you witness certain habits that contribute to that, it gets a lil bothersome/annoying when every 3 days you hear "I need to get in shape, I'm going to start eating well, going to run, etc." only for any plan to last 1 or 2 days tops. (As I've gotten older, those arms on women really turn me off when they're loose/flabby. If this is the starting point, what happens if we start having kids!!?)
Have made it clear we're not together. After some of the arguments, I've told her that we are indeed just friends and that she's not my girl. Yet when she went home this weekend, her father asked who I was (after asking if she had a BF) and she told him "my friend". But if I heard her correct, still gave off the "he's kind of my BF" thing to her dad. She may have even said "IDK" when initially asked if she had a BF. Which goes against what I've clearly articulated to her.
Yes we do have sex, but not very regularly at all. Could be even less frequent than occasional. My routine has been go to work, chill for a lil at home, and then she picks me up to go back to her place in which I won't return back home until the next morning before work. So I spend the night a lot at her crib, but we're not always kicking it together. I'll go chill in the car a lot to
and she'll just be in the room. I'll hit the surrounding "bars" like BWW and the like that are right around where she stays while she'll be doing something in the room. Many times just sleeping.
P.S.- For reference, she's a little smaller than the last girl posted in this page but it's the arms that really kill me. The girl I'm referring to arm's aren't as bad though.
good to know I'm not the only one. It sucks man. 
and she'll just be in the room. I'll hit the surrounding "bars" like BWW and the like that are right around where she stays while she'll be doing something in the room. Many times just sleeping.
