TAR - Thread About Relationships vol. Calling TAY Graduates

The GOAT Patrice O’Neal said it best “it’s never their fault. They don’t even know cause they do illogical and emotional. You gotta train and raise them right”
 
had a chat with a female and she stated that men nowadays are Lil b’s and complain worse than woman. Lol’d at her comment cuz she still with ol boy but there is validity to it.

Eh, I guess but I see it mostly as men now are starting to voice they issues more than they did before. As much as it's a man's world most men in relationships just dealt with they woman's issues instead of speaking on em and now we are feeling the strength of speaking up for ourselves on certain situations.

Women are so damn stubborn even when they KNOW they're in the wrong :smh:

Very stubborn because they think from their own viewpoint and reacting selfishly often to save face
 
The problem with men complaining more is if we want equal rights, which I am all for, don’t expect men to keep having to pay for dates, be the main provider, be the one who’s an emotional rock etc. all the things society or biology has ingrained into us regarding gender roles. We complain more because we feel like we have to do all that while some females out here not holding down **** and feeling entitled.
 
Eh, I guess but I see it mostly as men now are starting to voice they issues more than they did before. As much as it's a man's world most men in relationships just dealt with they woman's issues instead of speaking on em and now we are feeling the strength of speaking up for ourselves on certain situations.
I’m all for positive communication but men
nowadays do be sounding like lil b’s. I see it all the time in these streets, work and especially on the interwebs. You’ll have a dude complaining about not having sex with their s/o but will refuse to hold their woman tight and make her feel safe.
You can voice your opinion with a plan of action. Most these dudes be sounding like scary lil bois holding on to they moms ****
 
I’m all for positive communication but men
nowadays do be sounding like lil b’s. I see it all the time in these streets, work and especially on the interwebs. You’ll have a dude complaining about not having sex with their s/o but will refuse to hold their woman tight and make her feel safe.
You can voice your opinion with a plan of action. Most these dudes be sounding like scary lil bois holding on to they moms ****

It's a part of the floodgates of emotion being opened. You can't expect guys who have all their emotion bottled up to know how to let a little out at a time AND know how to express it all.
 
It's a part of the floodgates of emotion being opened. You can't expect guys who have all their emotion bottled up to know how to let a little out at a time AND know how to express it all.
Seems like we use more transference rather than accepting negative feedback.
I’ve learned that I want/need that attention when I’m fn up. I can’t force her to give to me. Had to earn it. We’ve gotta start treating our women better
 
Seems like we use more transference rather than accepting negative feedback.
I’ve learned that I want/need that attention when I’m fn up. I can’t force her to give to me. Had to earn it. We’ve gotta start treating our women better

It all starts with conversation and the willingness to change your own behavior. Too many times we want the other person to change when we need to look at ourselves and see if what we are doing is even logical or appropriate.

Me and my wife practice this: whenever one of us comes to the other with an issue we don't try to defend ourselves or explain why we did something. We just listen to what the other person's feelings are and commit to understand how they feel and make adjustments from there. If I hurt her feelings it doesn't matter what my intentions were, her feelings were hurt. There's not justification for it, I have to accept that she was hurt and listen to her and acknowledge what I did and commit to consider how my actions will affect her in the future.

It's takes time and practice to do it well so both parties need to be patient AND willing
 
Yo reading TAY has me dying - is anyone juicing (purely for outperformance purposes) in their relationships e.g. bluechew, Roman, rhino, etc? These dudes have me feeling like I need to be popping Rhino's for my girl's birthday or something :rofl::rofl::rofl:
 
Yo reading TAY has me dying - is anyone juicing (purely for outperformance purposes) in their relationships e.g. bluechew, Roman, rhino, etc? These dudes have me feeling like I need to be popping Rhino's for my girl's birthday or something :rofl::rofl::rofl:
Man dont let that get to u
When u in a relationship
Married and all that
Be happy if u got a woman or dude
Or whatever
Who knows exactly what to do
To get u to that release
No playing around tryna figure out what works
When ur significant other knows what to do
And just gets to business
That’s the best thing in the world
I ain’t got time to be tryna stay hydrated
And getting charley horses
From all Nighter sessions
Give me 15-20 min and I’m straight
Hell If im being real
A SOLID 5-10 minute session will have me sleeping like a baby
 
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Yeah most people in general just complain with no plan or suggestion on how to fix an issue.
yeah i do not think this is exclusive to women.
Man dont let that get to u
When u in a relationship
Married and all that
Be happy if u got a woman or dude
Or whatever
Who knows exactly what to do
To get u to that release
No playing around tryna figure out what works
When ur significant other knows what to dabd just gets to business
That’s the best thing in the world
I ain’t got time to be tryna stay hydrated
And getting charley horses from all. Igor sessions
Give me 15-20 min and I’m straight
Hell If im being real
A SOLID 5-10 minute session will have me sleeping like a baby
efficiency :smokin :lol
 
I skimmed through this article and got super annoyed.
AJ McLean Reveals the Heartbreaking Text He Received From His 6-Year-Old Daughter
https://www.msn.com/en-us/music/cel...daughter-exclusive/ar-BBVK17m?ocid=spartanntp

The part that really pissed me off is this:
“My oldest, about five days ago, had Mommy send Daddy a text saying, ‘Can you stop being a Backstreet Boy and just be my dad?’” ...“Mommy gets to be home, which I try to explain to my girls -- ‘Be thankful Mommy and Daddy are both not working,’” he added. “Mommy gets to be there, but Daddy always, always comes home.”

Like WTF someone in the household needs to step up. I work A LOT and don't always see my daughters in a few days. However I make time and call them or face time them to see them. I don't want to hear about how broken up you are, you aren't making an effort to see your daughters. We have to much technology that you could see your daughters if you wanted to. I have daughters just the same age 3 and 4 and they know daddy is working but he is working so much so we never want anything. Either he needs to do better or the mom needs to do better.
 
my girl is going to the festival with me.

none of her friends are going really.
all of my boys are going.

im torn.
i wanna have a good time and just chill with no responsibilities.

also dont mind having my shorty there for the experience.
i know shell enjoy the time.

is there a balance?
what yall think.
 
Like WTF someone in the household needs to step up. I work A LOT and don't always see my daughters in a few days. However I make time and call them or face time them to see them. I don't want to hear about how broken up you are, you aren't making an effort to see your daughters. We have to much technology that you could see your daughters if you wanted to. I have daughters just the same age 3 and 4 and they know daddy is working but he is working so much so we never want anything. Either he needs to do better or the mom needs to do better.

It's a tough spot. That text certainly sounds like the kid is fed up but we should know kids say some harsh stuff and don't really understand what's really being said so I wouldn't be surprised if it sounded worse than it really was. But there's def enough technology and options to stay in practically constant connection with people but that's the lifestyle of a celebrity

my girl is going to the festival with me.

none of her friends are going really.
all of my boys are going.

im torn.
i wanna have a good time and just chill with no responsibilities.

also dont mind having my shorty there for the experience.
i know shell enjoy the time.

is there a balance?
what yall think.

Honestly, that's a weird situation that ya girl knowing none of her girls are going and all ya boys are going and she STILL going? She might not trust you to behave yourself.

It can be fun but comes off as weird
 
It's a tough spot. That text certainly sounds like the kid is fed up but we should know kids say some harsh stuff and don't really understand what's really being said so I wouldn't be surprised if it sounded worse than it really was. But there's def enough technology and options to stay in practically constant connection with people but that's the lifestyle of a celebrity



Honestly, that's a weird situation that ya girl knowing none of her girls are going and all ya boys are going and she STILL going? She might not trust you to behave yourself.

It can be fun but comes off as weird

i feel you.
we got tickets as soon as they dropped.
she wasnt even sure she was gonna be able to go.
now she can and its like damn i aint wanna have no real responsibilities out there.

prolly gonna have to leave the fellas hangin for the weekend now.
 
i feel you.
we got tickets as soon as they dropped.
she wasnt even sure she was gonna be able to go.
now she can and its like damn i aint wanna have no real responsibilities out there.

prolly gonna have to leave the fellas hangin for the weekend now.

Pretty much went from a free weekend into a couple getaway
I understand ya situation completely. Wife loves to take days off randomly whenever I have vacation for a couple days and stays at the house with me so I spend the day basically entertaining her instead of relaxing
 
Pretty much went from a free weekend into a couple getaway
I understand ya situation completely. Wife loves to take days off randomly whenever I have vacation for a couple days and stays at the house with me so I spend the day basically entertaining her instead of relaxing

exactly.

glorified babysitting. lol.

prolly would be hard to behave tho. its gonna be a movie out there.
tryna figure out a way to make the most of it. enjoy my self and not have no **** to deal with.

hopefully some of her friends end up out there.
 
exactly.

glorified babysitting. lol.

prolly would be hard to behave tho. its gonna be a movie out there.
tryna figure out a way to make the most of it. enjoy my self and not have no **** to deal with.

hopefully some of her friends end up out there.

you CANNOT avoid the bulls*t, there's gonna be something

I'm glad I'm not in yo shoes cause I'd be trying to figure out how to get her to not want to go
But you gotta be ready for the fake "Maybe I'll just stay here and you go with ya friends" offer. it's a setup lol
 
you CANNOT avoid the bulls*t, there's gonna be something

I'm glad I'm not in yo shoes cause I'd be trying to figure out how to get her to not want to go
But you gotta be ready for the fake "Maybe I'll just stay here and you go with ya friends" offer. it's a setup lol

:lol:
she already dropped that.
"go ahead and sell my tickets"

ima just embrace it. is what it is.

funny tho cus my ex hit me talking about she finna be there and link and blah blah blah.
i aint even tryna entertain that.

but its gonna be packed with wimmens from all over so yeah.

we shall see how it goes.

:frown: just wanted to do hoodrat stuff with my friends.
 
If a man wants to act like a single man be single. Don't waste a woman's time in the process. They have needs. If we aren't up to meeting those needs then let them get a man who can.

It all boils down to respect. Respect the other person's time, energy and emotions. Fools always saying "why women always playing games?". It's because men are always playing games.

All a woman wants is security. It's not about finances, but secure that you are respecting her when you are with her and when you aren't with her.
 
:lol:
she already dropped that.
"go ahead and sell my tickets"

ima just embrace it. is what it is.

funny tho cus my ex hit me talking about she finna be there and link and blah blah blah.
i aint even tryna entertain that.

but its gonna be packed with wimmens from all over so yeah.

we shall see how it goes.

:frown: just wanted to do hoodrat stuff with my friends.

Damn, I'm legit sick for you man. Your fun spoiled AF

RIP fam, yo ex gon be tryna find you smh

You gon have to break ya girl leg or something yo
 
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