Official NT dad thread: can the dads get love

We came to an understanding:
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Only gets better. Throwback to about 10 years ago when I had to bring out the small laptop and set it next to the big screen so I could peep at the game and sharkboy and lava girl 3d at the same time. Funny seems like it was last night 😪
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For those that have kids in sports, please understand the message. If the coach thinks your kid is good enough, he will play, it's that simple. If not, your child needs to get better. It's OK to tell them that. I've dealt with parents irrationally approaching me about their child's playing time and I put it to them the same way Doc expressed it.

Also fellas, make sure your wives/mothers of your children are on board with that as well.

 
I suggest signing up for these if they are in your area.

There is one in Columbia, MD.



Had my son’s birthday party there and their program really is great. They really strive at empowering the kids by words of affirmation followed by physicality to back it up. We just never went back because during my sons party they found a live snake on the mat.
 
my daughter goes to a fancy school but we are not fancy people. her kindergarten classroom is doing this thing where the family shoots and uploads a video of their kid talking about their neighborhood. the two videos uploaded so far are super nice videos and their houses are like wow! we didn’t even start ours yet. our **** gonna look so poor 😂

anyway, the thing that got me was today, we had to do a family activity at her class where we all write a poems. my wife tells me to look at the soap in the bathroom and i had to pee so i pop in and wash my hands after. the soap smells super nice. i look it up and while its not out of reach, its still crazy to me that it’s in a kindergarten bathroom.

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Productive struggle


My daughter was using a crappy eraser she got from a loot bag or from halloween. She was frustrated that it wasn't working well (erases a bit and then smudges) as she did her art.

I asked her where the good eraser I got her was and to try that. "Then I have to go all the way upstairs" (it's like a 5 second walk)

In my head, "well F it then, deal with what you have."
Actual: "well then you can figure it out."
Eventually she stormed upstairs upset, but stayed in her room to work on another drawing.
Her attitude pisses me off sometimes. Probably her frustration talking though.

edit: any way to fix attitude problems with your kids?
 
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dude, i flipped out one day and bought like 20 good erasers from the office supply store and put some all over the house just so that my son could stop using the eraser on the pencil that rips the homework papers.
 
my daughter goes to a fancy school but we are not fancy people. her kindergarten classroom is doing this thing where the family shoots and uploads a video of their kid talking about their neighborhood. the two videos uploaded so far are super nice videos and their houses are like wow! we didn’t even start ours yet. our **** gonna look so poor 😂

anyway, the thing that got me was today, we had to do a family activity at her class where we all write a poems. my wife tells me to look at the soap in the bathroom and i had to pee so i pop in and wash my hands after. the soap smells super nice. i look it up and while its not out of reach, its still crazy to me that it’s in a kindergarten bathroom.

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Bet fam in the cheap thread would of snatched it up
 
Alright NT Dads,

I need some advice on how to navigate this. Our son is about to have his 3rd christmas(he’s 2). I’ve never really gotten along with my wife’s dad, but we’ve managed to be cordial for the most part. Once my son got here, I did have a discussion with him and basically told him to back the hell off. Long story short he got in his feelings and didn’t speak to my wife for about three months. Fast forward and we’re cordial again, but with Christmas approaching, I feel like he’s slowly crossing the line with some of the gifts he’s gotten for our child. While I’m grateful that he’s an active grandad, especially since I refuse to acknowledge my dad, his gift selections are questionable to say the least. He ended up grabbing our two year old a cap gun, despite the fact that we have real guns in our home, and he does too. A two year old cannot understand gun safety and under no circumstances do I want my child playing with guns in any form. He also grabbed our son a bike, even though my wife told him we were going to do that next year. My question is, how do I navigate things to somewhat keep the peace between my wife and her dad? Those gifts are obviously getting returned. My wife said she’d handle it, but if that falls on deaf ears, I have no choice but to react.
 
Alright NT Dads,

I need some advice on how to navigate this. Our son is about to have his 3rd christmas(he’s 2). I’ve never really gotten along with my wife’s dad, but we’ve managed to be cordial for the most part. Once my son got here, I did have a discussion with him and basically told him to back the hell off. Long story short he got in his feelings and didn’t speak to my wife for about three months. Fast forward and we’re cordial again, but with Christmas approaching, I feel like he’s slowly crossing the line with some of the gifts he’s gotten for our child. While I’m grateful that he’s an active grandad, especially since I refuse to acknowledge my dad, his gift selections are questionable to say the least. He ended up grabbing our two year old a cap gun, despite the fact that we have real guns in our home, and he does too. A two year old cannot understand gun safety and under no circumstances do I want my child playing with guns in any form. He also grabbed our son a bike, even though my wife told him we were going to do that next year. My question is, how do I navigate things to somewhat keep the peace between my wife and her dad? Those gifts are obviously getting returned. My wife said she’d handle it, but if that falls on deaf ears, I have no choice but to react.
He's young enough to where you do have a simple solution at your disposal: let him tear open whatever presents he's given and then hide away whatever you don't want him to have.
A month from now, he's not going to be like, "Hey, wait a second, I remember opening a cap gun and then it disappeared. I want to play with that. Where did it go?"

That's short-term.
Long term, I don't know your personality, but I know exactly what I would do, and it doesn't involve considering Pops' feelings.
But if you did want to consider his feelings and also draw a hard line: "Moving forward, let's establish a pattern of you checking with us on anything you want buy him. The thought, money, & energy is definitely appreciated, but we want to make sure that it's something we're okay with him having."
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