Originally Posted by
iBlink
SneakerHeathen wrote:
If you don't mind me asking, why are her grades slipping?
I'm glad to hear she is goal oriented. Grades can be improved.
Two hard workers,
So that brings up other questions.....
Can you two have a fulfilling relationship regardless of a demanding schedule?
Any trust issues that may arise from not seeing one another very often?
I'll probably catch flack for telling this portion of the story, but whatever.
Before I came to college, we spent the earlier months of this year planning out our lives together - what under grad school to go to, what grad schools we wanted to go to, etc - and it all revolved around us being together". Then things hit a snag, the relationship started going downhill, I got accepted to the college I'm at now and she didn't, she gets pissed and things go even further down hill, one thing leads to another, etc. We're practically at the point of calling it quits over the summer because I left her in Atlanta. So since I left, she's felt as though she doesn't have anyone to help her through the day. Before I left, we practically lived together, so she had my help all the time with whatever she needed. Now, she doesn't and I think it's my fault that her grades are slipping. Since this semester began, I've been extremely busy and it's hard to maintain a long distance relationship while juggling other aspects of life. So that's my idea as to why she's slipping. (sorry for the paragraph, but I'm known for being descriptive so you get the whole idea)
And if we make it to the point of marriage and both lead the careers we envisioned, I'm sure we can manage to make time for one another.
And unfortunately, yes. Even now there are trust issues with me being away for school.
Before I get into the career portion of that paragraph,
I'll talk about the latter half of what you wrote...
Trust issues...
See the thing about trust issues, they're an indication of care.
I'd be more concerned if there wasn't any trust issues as opposed to a big trust issue.
I love my girl to death, I'm her first and only. She's the epitome of faith, I'm her religion
...
But I'm human, damn it I'm a man...
And I've been played....(By other females)
And damn it I'm a man...
And men are petty, so I do be going hard with interrogations.
Thats all good though, if my girl stopped asking me,
What am I doing,
Where am I going
Who I'm with
Etc
Etc
EFTC....
I'd be more than a bit suspicious as to why. Trust issues on both sides of the relationship is a crazy way of saying "I care, and I'm greedy, Iwant YOU baby, all to my self"....
To an extent...
If something isn't sitting well with either party then trust issues can become ugly...
I don't know your history or hers, so for now I'll assume both parties have been completely honest and faithful throughout the relationship....
As for goals/careers....
You just told me an integral piece of info...
Long distance...
This is usually a problem, but honestly I don't see the problem in your case.
Yes her grades are slipping, I'll get to that in a bit.
But why? Because of you, she loves you, ya big heart breaker you.....
Thats beautiful man, she needs you. She is a better person because of you, without YOU she isn't complete....
However...
Her grades are slipping, and thats not good. So what I'd do in this situation is give the relationship a minor hiatus until both parties can concentrate onwhat they're doing RIGHT now...
But, you're talking marriage, so what I'd do is out the window....
Can a transfer be possible? Because you two need each other. From what it sounds like to me, both of you have a some ways to go before finishing each oneseducation....
A long distance relationship isn't always strained by distance....
But by time...
