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wow. just gonna divorce her like that? no marriage counseling? no therapy?
where is the love? for real.
where is the love? for real.
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Originally Posted by NikeTalker23
At the end of the day, your spending the rest of your life with her and not your parents.
TruthOriginally Posted by xsalvioutlawx
Originally Posted by iLLbanianKid13
She feels that they dont respect her and she's not welcomed, we're usually close to family and come from different countries with different backrounds. I've been in the states for 11 years now..we've known each other for such a long time since we were kids. My parents are cool now they dont have a problem with her or me I just want to help them, be there for them like they've been for me and my brother helped me with everything.
You're a grown *!* man now. Your job is to take care of your wife first not your parents.
Originally Posted by xsalvioutlawx
Originally Posted by iLLbanianKid13
She feels that they dont respect her and she's not welcomed, we're usually close to family and come from different countries with different backrounds. I've been in the states for 11 years now..we've known each other for such a long time since we were kids. My parents are cool now they dont have a problem with her or me I just want to help them, be there for them like they've been for me and my brother helped me with everything.
You're a grown *!* man now. Your job is to take care of your wife first not your parents.
Originally Posted by Oakridegonee
Ur parents want to buy a house and put you in a hard situation where you have to choose between them and ur wife thats selfish of them.
live your life b.
Originally Posted by NikeTalker23
At the end of the day, your spending the rest of your life with her and not your parents.
Originally Posted by Brolic Scholar
Damn...
Before you throw in the towel though. Lemme share my experience in a similar situation.
I had beef with my in-laws for a minute. My step-mother had beef with my wife. It was all over dumb +**% that got blown out of proportion. In my wife's case it was my mother being possessive of her son and upset over the fact that I didn't marry a black woman. In my in-laws case, it was them being upset over the fact that I was out in the streets too much and being a dickhead. All that was over 2 years ago and today you couldn't tell there was ever a problem.
My wife and I both grew up. She stopped telling our business to her folks and I stopped acting like I was still single. Our folks saw the bs we had to endure when we separated... I moved halfway across the country and it was the worst. During those six months I missed my wife and kids to the point of depression. I lost a lot of weight and +**% just got bad all around...
Anyway, we got back together slowly. It didn't happen overnight, but we both grew from it and our folks respect that we are together now.
If I could have done anything differently (could've done a lot differently actually), looking back, I would've sat down with the respective parties one on one and addressed the issue like a man instead of letting +**% spin out of control with the he said, she said.
It's sad that most marriages end this way now.If you love her make it work. If you've known her that long, trust me when I say, you'll never find anyone who you feel as comfortable with and all the P in the world ain't gonna make you feel better if you know you could've done things differently.
Take you time and think it through.
edit: My step mom came to SD a month or so ago and gave a really nice toast to my wife at dinner. It was like we all closed the chapter officially and moved on. Felt good man.
First off I wouldn't marry a woman that didn't have a good relationship with my parents from jump. I feel OP in that aspect as far as wanting to keep everyone happy and somewhat content. But with that said, if an issue arose where my wife and my parents had a fallout, no, I wouldn't divorce my wife. When he married that woman he took on a new life, seperate from his moms and dad. His first priority is to take care of his wife, not his parents. I don't think its a girl/parents issue, I think it's an issue where OP needs to realize he's grown and has to live the life that he chose with that woman.Originally Posted by jordansairmaxes
so... u would leave your parents in the dirt for your wife?Originally Posted by ualreadyknow23
Originally Posted by jordansairmaxes
wife over parents? the fck?
I take it you aren't married...
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QFTOriginally Posted by Mr Jordan04
Originally Posted by NikeTalker23
At the end of the day, your spending the rest of your life with her and not your parents.
This comment is solely based on what youve said/presented yourself as so far;Originally Posted by iLLbanianKid13
After the stuff she said to me about my parents, she's not worth it anymore. I'm gonna buy her a one way ticket burn the green card and erase the memories for ever.
Time to move on with my life, this is not healthy for me..even though she's a dime and all that but I guess it's whats in your heart.
I just had a big argument over her...I feel like beating the **% out of her..
I'm already on probation for simple assault in d.c, and anger management classes aint helping....i need to move on.
Originally Posted by iLLbanianKid13
After the stuff she said to me about my parents, she's not worth it anymore. I'm gonna buy her a one way ticket burn the green card and erase the memories for ever.
Time to move on with my life, this is not healthy for me..even though she's a dime and all that but I guess it's whats in your heart.
I just had a big argument over her...I feel like beating the **% out of her..
I'm already on probation for simple assault in d.c, and anger management classes aint helping....i need to move on.