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No doubt.
You just can't let one response stop you and make you generalize the rest.
Oh no. I am not just generalizing just that one Caucasian girl. Trust me, I've messaged plenty of them.
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No doubt.
You just can't let one response stop you and make you generalize the rest.
All of thisSon said positive test results = peace out...
What's messed up is that one could go thru life thinking this is true and wouldn't even be checked...
I've seen FAR more instances of the women keeping their kids away from the dude than the dude just dipping ....
But then again... stereotypes for black people tend to be based on the hood rats and thugs ...
hood blacks, albeit a small percentage, define all blacks from a macro social point of view
Totally Agree! She speaks of her desire for well kempt men but consider the fact that she gives no damns about her own surroundings. Why would a well kempt man find her attractive if cant even keep her home in order? Crap on the floor, nothing in place, total disarray...but in her mind its "Why do I have to settle?" Word??? This is the thinking of tons of people I've met. Its far easier to look outward than inward when it comes to responsibility. Bless is dead on - her perception is horribly skewed and dictating her reality. In my mind the only reason she put herself out there is because she's looking for a co-signer to validate her BS. The truth needs no co-signer.Wow, this chick is clueless. Her perception is horribly skewed.
That girl got a pretty smile though.
From what I've witnessed, a lot of women want these men to be a family with them and their child (aka get married and settle down) but some men aren't ready for that so these women go "if you don't want to be with me, you don't want to be with this child." That doesn't mean most black men aren't at fault tho, when this happens you have more black men going "**** it, I didn't want a kid anyway" than "I'm going to do anything to be in my child's life" (as always just speaking from observation)
A middle eastern lady (in her mid 20's, living at home with parents, single parent herself, middle eastern baby's father who apparently dissed her and bounced according to her) wanted to get at me and asked me to take her out. At the end of the "date" she wanted me to drop her off 3 houses away from her parents residence because her folks "wouldnt understand because I happen to be black. It was the last time I chose to take her out and she actually couldnt understand why. Same thing happened when I dated an ethiopian lady. She wanted me to sneak around her family. Had to cut her off too. This stuff goes deep! You can either put up with it or step off. For me = Snoop Voice: "Aint no &*^^% good enough to put up with all that."
IMO people should have low self esteem about the things they need to improve on but not themselves as a whole or as a person. Lower self esteem means that they are at least aware of their shortcomings, meaning they are willing to look inward, meaning they are capable of introspect, meaning not so sociopathic. Thats what keeping it real looks like. I have low self esteem when it comes to certain parts of my life - I mean who is totally satisfied with everything about themselves? That person has no reason to continue living as this world holds nothing for them to learn or grow from. People shouldnt have high self esteem about everything but many front and pretend its all good when it isnt. Personally speaking, I know I should work out more because the mirror impacts my self esteem...which it should...because I want to look and feel better than I was yesterday. I could choose to work out or buy a new pair of kicks to make me feel better. The first step is realizing that theres a problem but the second and equally important step is doing the right thing to address the problem - humans have trouble with change...and our ego is the gate-keeper to our emotions. It lies to us because the truth hurts. "I aint fat - Im buff"...Rick Ross qoute.Lots of good stuff in this post !
So many women are selfish and inconsiderate to the point that they don't even comprehend how disrespectful they are. Unfortunately, its all TOO common these days. So many wanna be treated like queens, yet they don't know how to treat a good manThis is why I tend to lean towards women with lower self esteem (for whatever reason), they usually are more considerate, respectful, and thoughtful- and actually appreciate being treated well
This!Well..... if they say theyre only interested in white men- then why waste your time anyways? I'm sure they don't all say that, you could message the ones youre actually compatible with instead of wasting your time and complaining about white women when they straight up stated they weren't interested in the first place. Not trying to be a jerk, but I wouldn't waste my time trying to talk to a Hispanic chick that says shes not interested in white guys
I take it you didn't read my whole post, you just saw that and got butthurt. You mean to tell me every black child out there who didn't grow up with father is the baby mother's fault? No, you sit. I"ll say it again and maybe you'll read it this time.
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most black men AREN'T at fault
straight up...well i was asking the question, not affirming it to be 100% true. if anything your response is more helpful than dude calling me an uncle tom. it was an honest question, am i to understand that it isn't a problem in the black community then? and why are women keeping kids away from men then?
also am i an uncle tom for saying the rate of hypertension is higher in the black community than whites?
this is how threads like this take a turn for the worse, some of yall mad butt hurt over this...
you call it low self esteem...Lots of good stuff in this post !
So many women are selfish and inconsiderate to the point that they don't even comprehend how disrespectful they are. Unfortunately, its all TOO common these days. So many wanna be treated like queens, yet they don't know how to treat a good man This is why I tend to lean towards women with lower self esteem (for whatever reason), they usually are more considerate, respectful, and thoughtful- and actually appreciate being treated well
I don't know why but it almost feels like they are doing it so they can get props from said group they want to talk to. I see no other reason to put it honestly cause I know that many people of said race(s) aren't hitting you up and even if they are you can just ignore them like you would do anyway.I never understand why these girls explicitly state they don't like so and so race in their profiles. seems so tacky to me or the black girls who prefer white guys like the white guys actually like them back
Yessir! Good post man. The part that I bolded was heartfelt. A lot of people claim that they're "their own individual" and think freely, yet they constantly make their decisions based on what those around them deem acceptable. This doesn't just apply to dating, but life in general.Totally Agree! She speaks of her desire for well kempt men but consider the fact that she gives no damns about her own surroundings. Why would a well kempt man find her attractive if cant even keep her home in order? Crap on the floor, nothing in place, total disarray...but in her mind its "Why do I have to settle?" Word??? This is the thinking of tons of people I've met. Its far easier to look outward than inward when it comes to responsibility. Bless is dead on - her perception is horribly skewed and dictating her reality. In my mind the only reason she put herself out there is because she's looking for a co-signer to validate her BS. The truth needs no co-signer.
Also - stereotypes are tools of the simple minded, mentally confined, and lazy. Which is easier - seeing the world as it is or seeing the world as you are? Much harder to do the former as it requires you to change...one of the things we as humans have a lot of trouble with.
DICTIONARY
stereotype
Definition
ster·e·o·type
[ stérree ə tp ]
NOUN
[table][tr][td]ster·e·o·types[/td][td] [/td][td]plural[/td][/tr][/table]
1.
oversimplified conception: an oversimplified standardized image of a person or group
2.
reduce somebody to oversimplified category: to categorize individuals or groups according to an oversimplified standardized image or idea
There are none so blind as those who will not see and to none so deaf as those who will not hear...why waste time on those who choose to live blind and deaf? Convincing them of the truth is like argiung with a fool...
When you argue with a fool, chances are he is doing just the same.
With that said - we all have the right to date who we want. A middle eastern lady (in her mid 20's, living at home with parents, single parent herself, middle eastern baby's father who apparently dissed her and bounced according to her) wanted to get at me and asked me to take her out. At the end of the "date" she wanted me to drop her off 3 houses away from her parents residence because her folks "wouldnt understand because I happen to be black. It was the last time I chose to take her out and she actually couldnt understand why. Same thing happened when I dated an ethiopian lady. She wanted me to sneak around her family. Had to cut her off too. This stuff goes deep! You can either put up with it or step off. For me = Snoop Voice: "Aint no &*^^% good enough to put up with all that."
Man that ish got me heated like a mugLook what I found
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Now this can be seen as a big spectrum of what other races think about african americans.
Or the people who are telling us it's all in our head can keep calling it a conspiracy theory and tell us why we are all wrong and how this doesn't prove a thing
either way you will be hard pressed to prove your point.
I never understand why these girls explicitly state they don't like so and so race in their profiles. seems so tacky to me or the black girls who prefer white guys like the white guys actually like them back