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[air spider 777]

No way could I go through a break up with someone I actually loved and get back on the apps after a couple days.

Take a break from dating for a while man. You dont need to rush. You got alot more going on that needs your focus.

I'm going to delete the app in a bit. Will keep the date I have with the girl on Tuesday. Not going to ghost or cancel bc that is rude. If nothing happens, then I am done for a while.

 

[willypete]

Yea I laid it out somewhat but not to the extent I guess she wanted. Yes shes going to freeze her eggs and said she will bc of no planning between us. She then apologized and said it wasnt all my fault as we met when she was 33.

I feel sometimes she is just so bad (due to the subject of her life not being in the stage she wanted) with her mood swings and that played a part as well.

What got me is she dated a director at a hedge fund guy, not someone who is complacent to work at the DMV and my problem is stress management. She works at a the global headquarters of one of the major banks as a SVP in Data Governance. So she has a good job.


She does care that my parents were going through things. She always asked them how they were doing and the day of moms surgery, she was with me keeping me company.


I remember one comment she made a while ago and said "none of my (meaning her) relationships have lasted more than a year". I guess I should wake up and see why.

In 2 days it would have been our 18th month together.

Go for a walk or run and clear your head.

I’d even say rub one out to get that post clarity.

Just because it didn’t work out with her doesn’t mean you’re a trash partner (in reference to your relationships not lasting long), can’t proceed in life thinking like that

 

[air spider 777]

Go for a walk or run and clear your head.

I’d even say rub one out to get that post clarity.

Just because it didn’t work out with her doesn’t mean you’re a trash partner (in reference to your relationships not lasting long), can’t proceed in life thinking like that

She was saying that about her relationships, not mine.

 

[steebie j]

Break ups are tough man. Take time to yourself. Don’t go on any dates for now. It’s just a temporary solution.

When I broke up with a chick I cared for, me and the boys would go out almost every night to take my mind off the girl. But the moment I came home, that thought of the breakup was still there. Never felt ready to get back out there until I was healed completely.

Hope everything works out for u bro

 

[206to813]

I think thats what I am going to do after the weekend. Get a couple more hits in then dip. I wont be able to recover from this if I dont cut it off I dont think.

Dont do that bro. Cut ties, start healing. She’s doing you a favor.

 

[tay1]

What's the longest you guys went before reaching back to an ex?

I called things off about a year ago but I'm thinking about doubling back.

 

[steebie j]

What's the longest you guys went before reaching back to an ex?

I called things off about a year ago but I'm thinking about doubling back.

Doubling back as far as trying to hit or rekindling?

Rekindling I think it was 1.5-2 years. She actually circled the block. I broke things off with her initially. But I knew inside I didn’t want to rekindle but did it anyways. Needless to say I wasted both of our time. Sweet girl but she definitely deserved better than me at the time.

 

[tay1]

Doubling back as far as trying to hit or rekindling?

Rekindling I think it was 1.5-2 years. She actually circled the block. I broke things off with her initially. But I knew inside I didn’t want to rekindle but did it anyways. Needless to say I wasted both of our time. Sweet girl but she definitely deserved better than me at the time.

Legit rekindling. It's almost approaching 1.5 years from when we broke up.

I could've been better. And at the time in which we broke up, I was going through some things. She had her ways but she was the best girl I've had.

 

[steebie j]

Legit rekindling. It's almost approaching 1.5 years from when we broke up.

I could've been better. And at the time in which we broke up, I was going through some things. She had her ways but she was the best girl I've had.

Yea man I would say if yall broke up on good terms, you’ve shown her u worked on yourself and she’s open to see where things can go…then I say go for it.

Just don’t waste her time or yours.

 

[tay1]

Yea man I would say if yall broke up on good terms, you’ve shown her u worked on yourself and she’s open to see where things can go…then I say go for it.

Just don’t waste her time or yours.

It ended a little bad to be honest.

At least emotionally. Nothing crazy. But ima give it a shot regardless.

 

[willypete]

She was saying that about her relationships, not mine.

My fault man. Disregard that last statement then

 

[steebie j]

It ended a little bad to be honest.

At lease emotionally. Nothing crazy. But ima give it a shot regardless.

Well damn

Give it a shot. But that than nothing. We all at some point had one that got away.

 

[willypete]

What's the longest you guys went before reaching back to an ex?

I called things off about a year ago but I'm thinking about doubling back.

To answer your question, I usually try after a couple of months to a year.

On the flip, the ex’s would reach out AFTER having a child and trying to rekindle (I don’t date women with kids especially not an ex with a child). I feel a lil selfish when I would reach out but after now having 3 ex’s attempt to rekindle after kids, I don’t feel as bad because why tf would I want to raise another ***** child when things didn’t workout between us

 

[air spider 777]

Slept together last night again, now she says she needs to think about this.This meaning I think shes having second thoughts about breaking up

Going to meet up with my bros and go out to LI for lunch and take a drive to clear my mind.

 

[tokes99]

Slept together last night again, now she says she needs to think about this.This meaning I think shes having second thoughts about breaking up

Going to meet up with my bros and go out to LI for lunch and take a drive to clear my mind.

you think?!? my g, yeen ask for clarity!?! ‘this’ could very well be this quasi arrangement y’all got going on now for all you know…you should ask yourself what you want & what she wants out of this, whatever ‘this’ is…and is that aligned

…unless a separation is truly mutual & amicable being cut buddies is likely to induce backsliding into a worse off relationship than it was to start…

Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?

“Being partnered doesn’t affirm your womanhood anymore,” writes Chanté Joseph. “It is no longer considered an achievement and, if anything, it’s become more of a flex to pronounce yourself single.”

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[Mark Antony]

I got over "doubling back" at some point.

 

[dakingii]

Ive never doubled back. Once the relationship is done we have no reason to speak again. If we aint work out before we not gonna work out now.

 

[tay1]

To answer your question, I usually try after a couple of months to a year.

On the flip, the ex’s would reach out AFTER having a child and trying to rekindle (I don’t date women with kids especially not an ex with a child). I feel a lil selfish when I would reach out but after now having 3 ex’s attempt to rekindle after kids, I don’t feel as bad because why tf would I want to raise another ***** child when things didn’t workout between us

Got it. It’s gonna be close to a year and a half for us but ima just shoot my shot. Don’t have any expectations.

The only thing I can appreciate about a chick with kids is that at some point they gotta go lol

 

[willypete]

I got over "doubling back" at some point.

I’m starting to be on this type of times as well and would only entertain doubling back with 1 person.

I’ll shoot my shot next month and if nothing comes from it then I’m good.

 

[rare]

Dealing with similar situation air spider 777 . Gym to clear your mind and really focus on yourself. Things will get better day by day.

 

[air spider 777]

you think?!? my g, yeen ask for clarity!?! ‘this’ could very well be this quasi arrangement y’all got going on now for all you know…you should ask yourself what you want & what she wants out of this, whatever ‘this’ is…and is that aligned

…unless a separation is truly mutual & amicable being cut buddies is likely to induce backsliding into a worse off relationship than it was to start…

Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?

“Being partnered doesn’t affirm your womanhood anymore,” writes Chanté Joseph. “It is no longer considered an achievement and, if anything, it’s become more of a flex to pronounce yourself single.”

www.vogue.com

I get what you’re saying. I gotta cut it off but my mind is having such a hard time accepting. Again last night she said “I need time to make a decision on what to do here”. I left this morning, gave her a kiss and bc its a natural habit, I said I love you, she replied I love you too without hesitation or afterwards trying to take it back

Dealing with similar situation air spider 777 . Gym to clear your mind and really focus on yourself. Things will get better day by day.

When this is done, I gotta sign up for the gym. I need to get into better shape and clear my mind

 

[fluid hips]

I remember when I used to let women toy with my emotions. Then I got into Thanos mode and put those days behind me

 

[air spider 777]

We are meeting tnite to talk. Lets see where this goes.

 

[kingsin]

We are meeting tnite to talk. Lets see where this goes.

I genuinely wish you luck bro, but don't let the fantasy of potential and possibilities overtake the flags that have been presented.

Shorty was willing to cut out on you during your darkest hour. This might not be the worse situation you ever face in life, but she's shown that she is not a ride or die and her self-interests trumps the relationship. No consideration given and it didn't matter how good you were to her, or how good the relationship is.

Don't jump back in head first, take it slow. That moodiness you spoke of doesn't disappear over night. And if she knows she can get you to "act right" with threats of a breakup, don't be surprised if she doesn't weaponize that for future manipulation.

I love "love" bro, like that fairytale fantasy ish, but it's cold out here. Just be careful.

 

[air spider 777]

We worked everything out. Discussed everything in detail, discussed our future, let it out how I wasnt happy how I felt she stranded me in my time of need. She apologized for her behavior and how she was just acting like this b/c of her friends around her having kids and all that and its not fair the position she put me in and she realizes what she has in me and how shes lucky because her friends dont have that.


Thank you for your advice bros. Hopefully this is all behind us and we can move on with our lives together.