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[sonoftony]

calibeebee damn man that's some rough ****. The fact that your situation was longer than mine sucks even more. *brohug*

But man I just want some closure. We ain't kids...we're both 29. As I'm analyzing this, I'm certain is another dude. No way u do a whole 360 on me and not give me an explanation other than "we're not a good fit." We was damn near joined at the hip for 2 months. I know her schedule. She stays down the street from me...I know where she works at...I know where works out at, right next to where I live...I know what time her spin classes are. I could easily show up and be like what's up but not gonna do that

Minus whale barge in one of her daily activities above as much as you don't wanna do it. If you invested your time with her you deserve some kind of explanation. If the shoe was on the other foot, bes blee she gonna find you. She's being a child b

 

[oidreez]

 

Nah   Its a new one. I shouldnt be weirded out by this but i am because its the most energy i put into any female in a while. Anyways its March 4th and last time i saw her was Feb 8th. She was like I really like u blah blah blah. After that day...things changed. Tried to set some things up with her and got either no response or "im busy." I managed to get her on the phone this past Sunday after a week and half of trying. Asked her whats up...whats going on...she copped an attitude   Told her from the beginning to keep it real with me. If she got new ****...she got new ****. Women are weird man.

She probably wanted you to cuff faster than you were planning to. Once they figure your not with that, they stop f'ing with you randomly.


Happened to me.

**** burns man on the real. Im the type of dude that keeps it moving but this is different. We talked about a relationship but agreed it wasnt anything to rush. I know she doesnt owe me an explanation but **** man I know wanna know. But ive come to the conclusion i probably wont ever know. Im about to play me some Brian McKnight.

I've vented to pretty much everyone i've talked to today 

Dude, I'm just going through this exact situation right now. I dated this girl all summer until early january. we spent all the time in the world together. dates, every other day, all day sex binges, cuddling every night, showering together, telling each other we love each other, sharing toothbrushes etc. Then one night she starts acting all weird and says she doesn't feel good and I need to leave and not stay at her place. I'm like yeah no prob. She didn't talk to me again for 4 days. Her roomate told me she took down all my pictures and put up pictures of her ex, and found a bunch of used condoms in her garbage (me and her never used condoms). So at this point I'm furious, but still havent heard from her.

On the 5th day of no response, she finally send me a text. All it says is I'm sorry but I can't date you, I don't want to hurt you. You're just not the one. I'm blocking your number, I don't want you in my life. Sorry. That was the last word I heard from her. Like....... WHAT?!

Oh but it gets worse. We work together. I see her everyday. If she makes eye contact, she immediately looks down at the ground, or turns the other way.

Oh but it gets even worse still. I found out that her EX proposed to her either that night, or a few nights after we were still together. Bought her a fatty ring and all. So basically I was a side dude this WHOOOOOLLLLLE time. She lied about everything and couldn't have the common decency to give me any reasons or anything. Just a lame text with no closure whatsoever.

I'm still shook and trying to recover the best I can. She was perfect in every way man. That's what hurts the most. I've been very good friends with her for the last 4 years, and to go from the woman of my dreams to *poof* gone, it's rough so believe me when I tell you, I KNOW THAT FEEL.


Edit* I do still have many private pics and vids though. I'm NEVER getting rid of those hahaha. I'm gonna make her a star!

It's the way that the text makes it seem like its something you did that gets me mad vs her saying I've been talking with my ex and I've decided to get back with him

 

[calibeebee]

 

Nah   Its a new one. I shouldnt be weirded out by this but i am because its the most energy i put into any female in a while. Anyways its March 4th and last time i saw her was Feb 8th. She was like I really like u blah blah blah. After that day...things changed. Tried to set some things up with her and got either no response or "im busy." I managed to get her on the phone this past Sunday after a week and half of trying. Asked her whats up...whats going on...she copped an attitude   Told her from the beginning to keep it real with me. If she got new ****...she got new ****. Women are weird man.

She probably wanted you to cuff faster than you were planning to. Once they figure your not with that, they stop f'ing with you randomly.


Happened to me.

**** burns man on the real. Im the type of dude that keeps it moving but this is different. We talked about a relationship but agreed it wasnt anything to rush. I know she doesnt owe me an explanation but **** man I know wanna know. But ive come to the conclusion i probably wont ever know. Im about to play me some Brian McKnight.

I've vented to pretty much everyone i've talked to today 

Dude, I'm just going through this exact situation right now. I dated this girl all summer until early january. we spent all the time in the world together. dates, every other day, all day sex binges, cuddling every night, showering together, telling each other we love each other, sharing toothbrushes etc. Then one night she starts acting all weird and says she doesn't feel good and I need to leave and not stay at her place. I'm like yeah no prob. She didn't talk to me again for 4 days. Her roomate told me she took down all my pictures and put up pictures of her ex, and found a bunch of used condoms in her garbage (me and her never used condoms). So at this point I'm furious, but still havent heard from her.

On the 5th day of no response, she finally send me a text. All it says is I'm sorry but I can't date you, I don't want to hurt you. You're just not the one. I'm blocking your number, I don't want you in my life. Sorry. That was the last word I heard from her. Like....... WHAT?!

Oh but it gets worse. We work together. I see her everyday. If she makes eye contact, she immediately looks down at the ground, or turns the other way.

Oh but it gets even worse still. I found out that her EX proposed to her either that night, or a few nights after we were still together. Bought her a fatty ring and all. So basically I was a side dude this WHOOOOOLLLLLE time. She lied about everything and couldn't have the common decency to give me any reasons or anything. Just a lame text with no closure whatsoever.

I'm still shook and trying to recover the best I can. She was perfect in every way man. That's what hurts the most. I've been very good friends with her for the last 4 years, and to go from the woman of my dreams to *poof* gone, it's rough so believe me when I tell you, I KNOW THAT FEEL.


Edit* I do still have many private pics and vids though. I'm NEVER getting rid of those hahaha. I'm gonna make her a star!

It's the way that the text makes it seem like its something you did that gets me mad vs her saying I'veen talking with my ex and I've decided to get back with him

EXACTLY! I couldn't give 2 dambs about her leaving me for her ex. If she would have sat me down and said, "hey it's not you, I just miss my ex, lets not date" that would have been fine and I could have moved on. But the cold text, and not giving me any reasons has me up all night wondering what I did wrong. What did I say/do that she didn't like. I'm just obsessing over something that isn't about me, it's just stupid.

Last week I asked her roommate if she would ask her to call me and talk for 10 minutes and give me closure that was the only time I've tried to talk to her. She went off and said I need to leave her alone, and there is no closure blah blah blah. Prob just trying to save face with her fiance who didn't know me and her were together. Still got me feeling like I pissed her off somehow and that drives me up a wall

 

[steebie j]

It's funny she sent me what she said via text. We had conversations many times about if we had something important to say, a text message wasn't a good idea cause how folks misconstrue it. I'm like I'm one phone call away...lets talk. I've heard worst in my life so u telling me it's another dude ain't gonna hurt me. I would respect u even more for keeping it real. But the fact u just say "we aren't a good fit" without an explanation why has me a bit confused.

It's early in the morning and I need a drink.

sonoftony I might do that man. I just need some answers. I'm the type of cat that wants closure. Even if u don't wanna be with me, I wanna know what's up. I also forgot to mention she DJs on the side as well. So I know all the events she's DJ'ing at. **** around a pull the plug on her

 

[sonoftony]

sonoftony I might do that man. I just need some answers. I'm the type of cat that wants closure. Even if u don't wanna be with me, I wanna know what's up. I also forgot to mention she DJs on the side as well. So I know all the events she's DJ'ing at. **** around a pull the plug on her

Hope it goes well fambs, let us know what happens afterwords

 

[tomdiginson]

EXACTLY! I couldn't give 2 dambs about her leaving me for her ex. If she would have sat me down and said, "hey it's not you, I just miss my ex, lets not date" that would have been fine and I could have moved on. But the cold text, and not giving me any reasons has me up all night wondering what I did wrong. What did I say/do that she didn't like. I'm just obsessing over something that isn't about me, it's just stupid.

Last week I asked her roommate if she would ask her to call me and talk for 10 minutes and give me closure that was the only time I've tried to talk to her. She went off and said I need to leave her alone, and there is no closure blah blah blah. Prob just trying to save face with her fiance who didn't know me and her were together. Still got me feeling like I pissed her off somehow and that drives me up a wall

You cant expect the broad to provide you with closure after she did something so cold. It is clear that she only cares about her feelings. Keep it pushing and use this as a learning lesson.

 

[kevlar]

Steebie J.

It's best to let go my man. If she didn't have the decency to give the closure, I don't believe she''ll be honest if you do approach her. She cut off contact for a reason, respect it and keep it pushing. You're letting this eat you up and she's not worth that.

 

[mbeezy]

Steebie j,
You got the game backwards bruh. Don't ever let these females know you care about them more then they care about you. If you asking for closure your way too invested. The problem is you put too much time into her. Realize that YOU are the prize not her, you gotta make these woman earn your attention/affection. Change your perspective b, she missed out on a good dude and it's her fault not yours. You need to stop contacting her and stop showing your feelings, you may appear weak because females are usually the ones asking for closure. There are a million other girls out there so don't trip off of one.

 

[steebie j]

mbeezy I hear u man and you're right. My problem was I invested so much time to have this be the end result...with no explanation. But imma keep on trucking. Meet some new breezeys on these sites and get back on my A game

 

[bleed05]

This thread still going strong and I see steebie j is still at it loll

 

[Mark Antony]

Yeah believe it or not, spending all that time with her (even though it appeared all good) did not help. She felt like she figured you out, lost all the mystery. Reaching out for closure won't do ****. Sounds like ya'll did some bf/gf type ****, she'll be back. Best to be indifferent and back on your pimp **** when she does pop up.

She's probably getting an ego boost on social media calling you a "stalker" as we speak. Let it go and walk away, that **** is more powerful and rewarding than any amount of closure. I went for closure once and all it did was put me in a worse place. All she said was "it was getting too obnoxious" not explaining anything. Left me confused, because when we were together she'd exclaim how crazy she was about me.

 

[steebie j]

Thanks fellas

Looking back after the text she sent me and the texts I sent after that, it really made me look weak. I'll admit that. I just wanted answers. But now reading what what yall had to say and the people I know, it's best for me just drop her. I just found out she got back to talking to her ex. I pretty much thought that.

 

[Mark Antony]

And that's why dudes shouldn't waste time chasing. She spent all that time with you but still chose a dude that she's barely talked to in 2 months.

 

[moonman818]

Thanks fellas

Looking back after the text she sent me and the texts I sent after that, it really made me look weak. I'll admit that. I just wanted answers. But now reading what what yall had to say and the people I know, it's best for me just drop her. I just found out she got back to talking to her ex. I pretty much thought that.

You didn't look weak IMO.

If you're dating someone for that long and she just flips outta nowhere I would react the same way.

This is the reason why I no longer take women seriously from dating apps. They lie and play even more games IMO


For all you know you coulda just been her D while her man was deployed overseas.

 

[jrod54life]

Or was talking to the whole time.

mind ****** 

 

[flyerthandelta]

Srs question though can you hide your profile and just look for girls on Tinder? i know pof you can

 

[smedroc]

If you remove yourself from the situation and look at things objectively rather than emotionally you will often find the answers..

I came real close to asking for an explanation from a pof chick who went ghost on me...

But then i stepped back and realised the entire time i was seeing her i was still on dating apps and i had met 2 other girls in the meanwhwile In reality i didn't even need to know why she split cause clearly i wasn't invested in the situation at all. Ultimately it was just a slightly bruised ego.

Obviously if you were all in it's going to be harder to take the objective stance but **** tends to make sense once you break it down.

 

[smedroc]

Srs question though can you hide your profile and just look for girls on Tinder? i know pof you can

You can run tinder off a anon pic and fake facebook profile... 100% you're not getting laid though

 

[flyerthandelta]

Srs question though can you hide your profile and just look for girls on Tinder? i know pof you can

You can run tinder off a anon pic and fake facebook profile... 100% you're not getting laid though

No im going to use my pic with a different name just dont wanna be found by exs or current gfs

 

[smedroc]

No im going to use my pic with a different name just dont wanna be found by exs or current gfs

My man you're 100% going to get caught

If you have a different name i guess you could say someone stole you pics. But still... long shot.

 

[johnny cakes]

I got one new story for you guys, I'm actually still going through the situation right now so I will write it once I see how it ends lol...It's a good one too lol

Anyway, in regards to girls going ghost, I've experienced that last year september. Met a Brazilian and Jewish chick  (and yes, she looked as AMAZING as her mix sounds) on tinder. She lived an hour away from me, and when I matched with her I was going to Cali the next day for 2 weeks..So we talked everyday I was in Cali, morning afternoon, and night, all day..It got to the point if she missed my call if we fell asleep, she would text me how sorry she didn't get to talk to me and how she misses me, etc..We were on the "babe, baby, bae" level..She told me she is falling for me..We had an amazing connection and chemistry..But sometimes she would mention her ex, here and there which was a red flag, but I didn't dwell on it. Long story short as soon as I came back we arranged to hang out for a day, we met up, had a great time, almost had sex, but she stopped it...After that she started acting weird before she left my house, she was distant. Now her ex lives about 10 minutes from me and she said she is going to go home. I see her upload on FB about an hour after she left my house a status that said "That undeniable love"..I said oh boy, she must have gone to her ex's house..I noticed she changed days after, the "baby's" stopped on her end, she became more distant and then one day she deleted me off of IG, and ignored all my texts and calls..What she forgot is that my bro was falling her so I looked her up on his IG and BAM she has mad pics of her and her ex hugged up, kissing, etc..I was really feeling this girl and that really hit me hard..I haven't been hurt in a minute so I didn't know how to deal with it..I'm over her now, but basically when you talk to someone, no matter how much you guys connect, be aware..

 

[johnny cakes]

No im going to use my pic with a different name just dont wanna be found by exs or current gfs

Lol dude even if you're gonna use a different name your face looks the same, unless you tell them you have a twin lol

I got caught bro, it's not gonna work...She has about 40 friends who are on Tinder and will find out, trust me

 

[sohoguy]

I swear there's a science to that ****...

I see a lot of women say in their profiles state they aint trying to see selfies or topless pics etc... However! I made a fake profile with a topless pic and got mad views

But from my experience i'd advise that you make your profile pic look like a post in the dressing better thread. I had one pic where i was wearing corduroys and a waistcoat that would kill for some reason

Basically you want your pics to indicate that you have a life and a sense of style

I been using a full body pic with nice background as my main, and not cropping it. Help my views up, , basically forcing them to view me because It shows my height well. I try to realy straight off my pics because my okc profile have notning in it beside what music I like lol.

 

[flyerthandelta]

No im going to use my pic with a different name just dont wanna be found by exs or current gfs

Lol dude even if you're gonna use a different name your face looks the same, unless you tell them you have a twin lol
I got caught bro, it's not gonna work...She has about 40 friends who are on Tinder and will find out, trust me

No im going to use my pic with a different name just dont wanna be found by exs or current gfs

My man you're 100% going to get caught

If you have a different name i guess you could say someone stole you pics. But still... long shot.

Yall are right Ima chill n just mess with pof since I can hide my profile there it's not worth the risk on tinder plus I heard they charging now for swipes the hell with that I'm good.

 

[smedroc]

I got one new story for you guys, I'm actually still going through the situation right now so I will write it once I see how it ends lol...It's a good one too lol

Anyway, in regards to girls going ghost, I've experienced that last year september. Met a Brazilian and Jewish chick  (and yes, she looked as AMAZING as her mix sounds) on tinder. She lived an hour away from me, and when I matched with her I was going to Cali the next day for 2 weeks..So we talked everyday I was in Cali, morning afternoon, and night, all day..It got to the point if she missed my call if we fell asleep, she would text me how sorry she didn't get to talk to me and how she misses me, etc..We were on the "babe, baby, bae" level..She told me she is falling for me..We had an amazing connection and chemistry..But sometimes she would mention her ex, here and there which was a red flag, but I didn't dwell on it. Long story short as soon as I came back we arranged to hang out for a day, we met up, had a great time, almost had sex, but she stopped it...After that she started acting weird before she left my house, she was distant. Now her ex lives about 10 minutes from me and she said she is going to go home. I see her upload on FB about an hour after she left my house a status that said "That undeniable love"..I said oh boy, she must have gone to her ex's house..I noticed she changed days after, the "baby's" stopped on her end, she became more distant and then one day she deleted me off of IG, and ignored all my texts and calls..What she forgot is that my bro was falling her so I looked her up on his IG and BAM she has mad pics of her and her ex hugged up, kissing, etc..I was really feeling this girl and that really hit me hard..I haven't been hurt in a minute so I didn't know how to deal with it..I'm over her now, but basically when you talk to someone, no matter how much you guys connect, be aware..

Son :\

There's definitely something with people who are fresh out of relationships. Especially if they have been wronged.... Highly unpredictable.