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Hopefully that wasn't the case. As this is a pretty big decision for someone in a 5 year relationship to make.
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Hopefully that wasn't the case. As this is a pretty big decision for someone in a 5 year relationship to make.
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I really like the way you think.
A lot of dudes (including myself) have a problem with a long distance relationship solely off of trust reasons. But at the end of the day, If a girl gon cheat, she gon cheat. She'll do it right behind your back as you changing her sons diapers too
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- I'm really dissappoint with a lot of the replies here.
- beh235 was right. +1 for having common sense.
- OP, eff all these people sowing seeds of doubt. My cousin went to medical school in one of the islands. Being a doctor is not easy. Someone who is studying to be a doctor has to have a lot of discipline goals and focus. That's probably partly why you love your girl. I would stay with her. Would you rather be with a girl who goes to a DO school (and DO's can only get DO residencies AFAIK) just to stay with you, settling for less than her potential? Different strokes for different folks. Some people want their girl to brainlessly slave over them even if that same girl could go out and accomplish things and have more to bring back to their man. Immature.
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Truth
Girls are big on marriage
And if shorty is 30+ and not married yet, she will do her (as in career wise) to get where she wants to get in her career
"It's not like we getting married soon so why not advance my career. I'm staying here letting him hold me back and I dont see no ring on this finger"
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way to really go to the other end of the spectrum
OP and his girl have been together 5 years with no talk of marriage and if he wasn't involved in the decision making then it seems this relationship really isn't that strong anymore
ayzee
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Jesus
phen0m
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And this is my beef Stilln. Am I being selfish/petty if I'm like nah not going? As she claims if i don't go for at least a year.. she doesn't go.
Its a two year program, then back to the states for residency. She hasn't accepted yet and is looking for other options, including DO schools.
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He made the thread. The seed is there, he just wants it watered
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It's tough man; was there communication before she made the decision or was it like "this is what I am going to do"?
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He'd be a blind fool to not consider all the angles. Smart thread IMO.
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Don't marry her...not because she's leaving.
Also... Don't hit her, obligatory statement.
Also... Don't hit her, obligatory statement.
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. And this has come up too
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OP so your saying that in 5 years, marriage wasn't even mentioned at all?
You might wanna go through her phone tonight. Wait till she's asleep and go through EVERYTHING
Emails, text messages, Instagram DMs, text messages to FEMALE FRIENDS
You might wanna go through her phone tonight. Wait till she's asleep and go through EVERYTHING
Emails, text messages, Instagram DMs, text messages to FEMALE FRIENDS
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Honestly, if you wanted to be an md or an astronaut or whatever and you got your opportunity you would be thrilled and you'd want to be with someone who is thrilled for you as well despite the pain with the long distance. It's two years son. If you wanna be with a successful woman, you need to be man enough op. If you aren't making a big splash in your field or on your way, everyone else is right. It won't work. Because you won't understand her passion. Not Tyrone not bc she isn't willing to compromise. One shouldn't have to compromise their lifelong career for someone else's comfort. She doesn't have any other choice if she wants to be an MD. If you pressure her into staying she'll leave and resent you too. I would resent my girl if she tried to play me like that tombout why do you want to be a lawyer you can just be a paralegal
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OP, what you really have to ask yourself is, "If she's willing to move without me, why should I concern myself with following her?"
Just something to consider. Good luck moving forward in your decision making process.
Just something to consider. Good luck moving forward in your decision making process.
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so you can't be successful doing the same thing close by?[/quote
That's what I mean. She can't do the same thing nearby. She doesn't have the luxury
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Again though, something this huge, were you involved in the application process to diff schools? seems like something you would be right there like "yeah I like that one babe"... "naw that's a little far, but...". Just seems this conversation is coming up a little later than it should on both ends.
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She's choosing her career over you. There are schools here, but she obviously doesn't value what you two have enough to stay. Let her go and move on.
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You could attempt a long distance thing until she gets back... Although long distance seemingly never works for me or anyone else around me.
I'm going to say some real ish, cuz you need to hear it.
If she was ready to commit and not pursue her (what I'm assuming to be) her dream, don't you think she would have already? Or even better, not be considering this at all for your sake...
I'm not saying let go, but you need to ponder on that, do some soul searching.
Go smoke a blunt
I'm going to say some real ish, cuz you need to hear it.
If she was ready to commit and not pursue her (what I'm assuming to be) her dream, don't you think she would have already? Or even better, not be considering this at all for your sake...
I'm not saying let go, but you need to ponder on that, do some soul searching.
Go smoke a blunt
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if you have been together 5 years and marriage isn't in sight then I think that might tell you all you need to know
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Not necessarily true. My sister and her boyfriend started dating in 1997, when they were in 11th grade and just got married in August of 2013.
People treat marriage differently.
People treat marriage differently.
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but they thought one day they would get married correct?
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I honestly don't have that info. I know she never thought he'd pop the question.
My point is you can't put a timetable on marriage.
My point is you can't put a timetable on marriage.
