Finally told my parents I dont believe in god and that im agnostic.

[thorrocksjs]

For the most part im a black male living in houston texas and my parents are from a small town my mom was annoying me today about religion and I up and said im agnostic .My mom now thinks I have a mental problem and thinks i need to go to church.Now out of all my brothers Im the black sheep.Im the more radical thinker,unconventional one.All my brothers want to be regular desk job guys.I want to be a writer for my own site and practice bjj and wear cool clothes .Im into history and comic books my brothers are into madden and video games.I like sneakers and Im extremely passionate abot them my brothers could care less.Honestly we coexist decently with my older brother starting to get more into documentaries and what not yet he refuses to read books of any sort for no reason.Im mostly an outsider on most issues besides mma,sneakers,grappling and basketball. Today I kinda cemented my status as the black sheep of the family im pretty much deemed unlikable by younger brother.That whole family dynamic thing isnt cool at all to me anymore.Its kinda awkward but its really lame how my family thinks I truly went crazy ,hell my mom thinks im gay now etc.Its all just really too damn much at this point.
Like what do I do Im good person who maybe a bit brash but overrall im good guy just different from the norm and whats acceptable in black culture.

 

[young handsome]

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[getdrizzy]

That's tough man. I've been struggling to tell my parents whether or not I'm atheist for a minute now. Whenever we go to church I don't take communion or anything. I feel like they must think something's up but I don't know. Hope your situation works out.

 

[generaldiscussion]

Like what do I do Im good person who maybe a bit brash but overrall im good guy just different from the norm and whats acceptable in black culture.

 

[Spectacular23]

You'll be fine, and have nothing to worry about.

 

[thorrocksjs]

Its really just sad and annoying man how they act around me.To be black and non religious almost removes you from the community or atleast your family.God knows how many times Ive lost interest in a chick the minute she says I need to go to church . I feel like it puts me at odds with the rest of my community.My love of knowledge including knowledge of self has made me an outcast.One thing my mom said something about me needing to have a conversation with god and I said oh you mean self reflection.She looked at me like she wanted to vomit.My younger brother said I needed to be baptizied and I told him why its not gonna change my opinions and its not gonna make me a christian as me pouring motor oil on myself and standing in the garage makes me a car.

 

[yeold360s]

For the most part im a black male

So 9 times out of 10 you're a black male? What about the other time?

Nah but last time an NTer's mom thought he was gay, the consensus was to smash a wench on the kitchen table 

 

[tupac jordan]

Damn man if your momma thinks you're... You're...

 

[bombbiggidyphil]

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got me with the old spoiler alert

Did you talk to your mom and explain to her why you don't believe in god?
We can't choose our family, but at the end of the day it's all we have. All you can do is try.

 

[Spectacular23]

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[warrior on it]

what youre to do is...



keep being you. if your fam can't accept you and respect your beliefs...then that's a toughie, but don't, i mean NEVER, lie to yourself to be accepted, whether it's your mother or the chic at the local donut spot. it'll eat u alive until you face a situation that makes you speak out. embrace being that black sheep, try to be the best person you can be regardless.

 

[iblink]

You're a good dude for sticking to you beliefs despite what the black community will have you believe is right or wrong. Hell, I commend you for being able to tell them. It's something I haven't done, nor plan on doing any time soon. Partly because my grandmother would never speak to me again, and partly because I don't consider it to be something I need to discuss with anyone, especially when they don't ask/provoke me about it. I'm definitely the black sheep in my family now adays. They look at me as if I think I'm better than everyone because I'm about to graduate college, have never been arrested, don't have kids or a wife. In all honesty, I've just learned from them and their lives/mistakes, and I'm trying to set a good example for my little cousins and ****. It's a burden to be an outcast in your own family, but it's necessary I suppose.

But none the less.

 

[shoefreakbaby]

You come off very high and mighty, you speak as if you are better than your fam.
Maybe thats why they alienate you, just be subtle and maybe they wont move over night and not tell you.

Just an observation.

 

[thorrocksjs]

Lets make this clear im not gay she just thinks im weird for being a nerd i watch jada fire porn and right click save as black women appreciation thread pics just like everybody else.

 

[Comparison Ford]

The best thing you can do is simply show them through your actions that you're still the same decent person that you were before they knew that you don't believe in God.

 

[the hater boxden]

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man what?

 

[thorrocksjs]

You come off very high and mighty, you speak as if you are better than your fam.
Maybe thats why they alienate you, just be subtle and maybe they wont move over night and not tell you.
Just an observation.

First thing first How you been Shoefreakbaby I havent seen you since we moved over from yuku.

Second
Im not a douche at all .Im stating the facts hell my parents complain that I wear glasses all day because they think im trying to put on a front of being educated when in reality these are prescription glasses that I need to wear at all times because my eyesight is poor.

 

[Comparison Ford]

First thing first How you been Shoefreakbaby I havent seen you since we moved over from yuku.
Second
Im not a douche at all .Im stating the facts hell my parents complain that I wear glasses all day because they think im trying to put on a front of being educated when in reality these are prescription glasses that I need to wear at all times because my eyesight is poor.

If your parents are giving you a hard time because you want to see clearly you don't have the problem, they do.

 

[the hater boxden]

your family sounds ignorant as hell man. you need to ditch them. seriously. they will do nothing but try to bring you down is what it sounds like

 

[iblink]

Its really just sad and annoying man how they act around me.To be black and non religious almost removes you from the community or atleast your family.God knows how many times Ive lost interest in a chick the minute she says I need to go to church . I feel like it puts me at odds with the rest of my community.My love of knowledge including knowledge of self has made me an outcast.One thing my mom said something about me needing to have a conversation with god and I said oh you mean self reflection.She looked at me like she wanted to vomit.My younger brother said I needed to be baptizied and I told him why its not gonna change my opinions and its not gonna make me a christian as me pouring motor oil on myself and standing in the garage makes me a car.

Or DOES he????

Sorry, couldn't resist.

 

[shoefreakbaby]

First thing first How you been Shoefreakbaby I havent seen you since we moved over from yuku.
Second
Im not a douche at all .Im stating the facts hell my parents complain that I wear glasses all day because they think im trying to put on a front of being educated when in reality these are prescription glasses that I need to wear at all times because my eyesight is poor.

Still alive so it cant be that bad.


Listen I know your type rocks, the smart know it all type, its all good, I know you arent a douche.
In that paragraph you were talking down on your fam (intellectually not religiously)
You are a tad arrogant and Im not basing this off this thread alone.
And If I think you are arrogant chances are your fam does.


So what if your bro doesnt want to read books, just like so what you dont believe in God.

 

[thorrocksjs]

Word thats good

I guess i was talking down but its the truth though about this.

 

[drewj84]

I'm married to a black woman, and i told her parents I don't believe in Jesus anymore................ you would of thought I was a dead beat dad who beats their daughter or something, because the mood in that room changed mad quick

 

[shoefreakbaby]

yes it may be true that they acting stupid but if you are talking down on them then that could be the reason for the dislike towards you

No one is asking you to live a lie, but just remember where you are. Im assuming you are living at home and you are over the age of 18

Give them times to adjust.

 

[truthgetsbusy]

Should've kept your mouth shut