Confessions

[beacon ave south]

I'll be turning 28 in a few months, and i've noticed within past year or so, i've become very careless. More so towards the people around me. Like before, i would randomly hit up people just to see how theyre doing, but now its the other way around and i could care less about responding. Its not that im trying to be a **** or anything, i just genuinely dont care about their situation. I feel like me being this way, ill end up being alone in the long haul, friends and relationship wise. i do have trust issues, ive encountered too many phony "friends" and scandalous *** females who did me dirty. Im wondering could that be the reason why im just giving giving the middle finger to everyone and anyone around me. dont really know what im trying to get out of typing all this, just feels a little better to vent. thanks for reading bros

 

[whywesteppin]

A good friend of mine tells me she likes me, she's happy when she's with me (we work together) and wishes we could be more than friends.


But



She has a boyfriend. And hates going home to him.


What am I supposed to say...I hate that. Makes me feel awful man.

I'll never understand why people stick with someone they resent. Only reason that makes some sense to me is if their personalities did a 180 from what they once were and are already in too deep, but I digress.

You could tell her to obviously leave him if she isn't happy, but then that could potentially put you in the homewrecker position. Only thing you can really do is to hope she comes to her senses and leaves him without you flat-out convincing her to do so.

People are weak. I can think of many girls who acknowledge that their boyfriend isn't that great and isn't what they want, but it's the safest option or the easiest option or whatever. Guys aren't immune from this either. Some of this comes from being realistic. Some comes from over-rationalization. Most comes from fear.

Another factor -- who knows what your friend's relationship with her boyfriend was like when it started. She may have felt about him back then the way she feels about you know. It's important to keep in mind that people fall into patterns and repeat their history.

 

[whywesteppin]

I'll be turning 28 in a few months, and i've noticed within past year or so, i've become very careless. More so towards the people around me. Like before, i would randomly hit up people just to see how theyre doing, but now its the other way around and i could care less about responding. Its not that im trying to be a **** or anything, i just genuinely dont care about their situation. I feel like me being this way, ill end up being alone in the long haul, friends and relationship wise. i do have trust issues, ive encountered too many phony "friends" and scandalous *** females who did me dirty. Im wondering could that be the reason why im just giving giving the middle finger to everyone and anyone around me. dont really know what im trying to get out of typing all this, just feels a little better to vent. thanks for reading bros

I've been there. I go through periods where I just go around mugging everyone and thinking the worst.

Life is so much better though when you have a positive attitude. Sure, it takes more energy and selflessness. And it's hard to force yourself to ignore people's BS. But once you're doing it, things come so much easier. People are warmer to you, you feel better about yourself, and of course most importantly getting women becomes easy.

 

[301216baller]

I need to be more professional at work and get to know my coworkers

 

[matters7]

Saw a ex of mine from a 6 year relationship this weekend twice, and nothing sexual happened. But I wanted it to the entire time. And think I always will... jump at any opportunity for intimacy with her. And I know its dumb

 

[MetalMario]

You know that drinking game where you hold a glass up a say "Never have I ever..." And you say something that you've never done but take a drink if you have done that thing?

Well I just realised something. Never have I ever had sex with someone who loves me. My life is pathetic

 

[matters7]

You know that drinking game where you hold a glass up a say "Never have I ever..." And you say something that you've never done but take a drink if you have done that thing?

Well I just realised something. Never have I ever had sex with someone who loves me. My life is pathetic

Ouch

 

[andretti]

You know that drinking game where you hold a glass up a say "Never have I ever..." And you say something that you've never done but take a drink if you have done that thing?

Well I just realised something. Never have I ever had sex with someone who loves me. My life is pathetic

That's deep fam

 

[superantigen]

Idk if its the quality but smoking has got to the point where I might want to try something stronger for a bigger high. Hopefully this is just a phase.

You'll be doing heroin in no time...lol

Seriously though, try to use this time to quit.



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[matters7]

I'm an alcoholic.....

 

[SC kid]

How much a day?

 

[matters7]

Half a carton of pre mix whiskey seems to be easily done most days

 

[SC kid]

In the morning?

How did u do that wen u traveled.

My uncles a real bad alcoholic.

 

[matters7]

Usually from just after lunch until I pass out at night. I'm fine until I hit the 12th can or so. I live by myself so its easy to do, no one to account for it etc. I try go without but if there's nothing to do I usually cave in

 

[SC kid]

Well its good to let people know.

My uncle used to go to aa meetings but he said he didnt help.

Wat helped him was his pride.....like he told himself he was stronger than the addiction and was going to beat it.
If you stop you will really change and love it though.

Good luck man.

 

[matters7]

Well its good to let people know.

My uncle used to go to aa meetings but he said he didnt help.

Wat helped him was his pride.....like he told himself he was stronger than the addiction and was going to beat it.
If you stop you will really change and love it though.

Good luck man.

Appreciate that man. I agree it has to be done on your own will. I'm not far from hitting that point where I'll stop. I know I can but I know i m not there yet thsbsj again man

 

[AgentZero]

People are weak. I can think of many girls who acknowledge that their boyfriend isn't that great and isn't what they want, but it's the safest option or the easiest option or whatever. Guys aren't immune from this either. Some of this comes from being realistic. Some comes from over-rationalization. Most comes from fear.

Another factor -- who knows what your friend's relationship with her boyfriend was like when it started. She may have felt about him back then the way she feels about you know. It's important to keep in mind that people fall into patterns and repeat their history.

Quality post, I agree with a lot of those. Repped.

 

[heggsy]

She broke up with him today.

 

[bendover]

She broke up with him today.

You catching feelings fam. This is an easy way to get hurt. Especially if she's just getting out of a relationship

 

[heggsy]

I know man, I know

 

[whywesteppin]

She broke up with him today.

You catching feelings fam. This is an easy way to get hurt. Especially if she's just getting out of a relationship

been there. it was worth it but left me bitter for a year... and then they got back together.

if you wanna do anything, just smash and don't catch feelings, at all.

 

[Ube]

It's so lonely without my mom now. I have dinner with my sister and its just me and her. Life ain't the same y'all. I sometimes think how much I miss just hearing her voice and getting a hug from her. I remember her telling me how much she missed her mom (my grandma) and how she regretted certain things. I now know the pain she felt.

 

[matters7]

It's so lonely without my mom now. I have dinner with my sister and its just me and her. Life ain't the same y'all. I sometimes think how much I miss just hearing her voice and getting a hug from her. I remember her telling me how much she missed her mom (my grandma) and how she regretted certain things. I now know the pain she felt.

That's tough fam... Helpless feeling youre left with. But at least you have youre sister around, shes living on through her, and you. Dosent mean you wont miss her that's for sure.

 

[c money 88 05]

Didn't know what else to do with how I'm feeling regarding this really so...

I miss you, it's been almost a full month now minus those 4 random days & I thought things would get easier over time. No. Not even close.
I told you I was done dealing with the ******** you were causing, done with the games, done trying to get through to you because I did everything I could for over 15+ months, trying to help things work back to the way things use to be when we only cared about each other instead of everyone but us like now, & done stressing us both out with a situation that was getting nowhere quick...in a way it's silly & stupid that I even miss you, I should be happy to be done with your headaches, lack of trust, non-listening & just your situation...but I can't help but think about when I made you smile & you made me smile & I could tell it came from an area in the heart that was nothing but genuine, think about those moments we got along & there was nothing more we wanted in the world but to keep things going forever, & how we just loved the thoughts of each other to the point we put ourselves through the mess we did for as long as we did.

Will we speak again? I suppose we could, I'm not opposed to it, I don't think it's healthy at this point but you know as well as I do that I've been wrong many times in my life. I guess the question is what do I want to be wrong about? Part of me thinks it really should be me leaving you alone since you've made it clear you only want a relationship & right now I don't think we're ready for anything like that given how poorly we've adapted to each other over all this time & even now. But part of me will always want you, I guess the you I met though & not the you that became you once I was introduced to you...trying to get the best & everything went left, & for whatever reason I feel like it's on me for that because I maybe could've did some things different to avoid this position.

I'm sorry for how things ended, it isn't right but I guess right now it'll have to be life

 

[mr marcus]

It's so lonely without my mom now. I have dinner with my sister and its just me and her. Life ain't the same y'all. I sometimes think how much I miss just hearing her voice and getting a hug from her. I remember her telling me how much she missed her mom (my grandma) and how she regretted certain things. I now know the pain she felt.

I lost my grandma and I know that feel....I was real close to her growing up and everybody called me a grandmas boy 

Dementia crippled her health a lot but she still knew who everybody was so I was good.....she had a stroke and passed on Sept. 6th

miss her like crazy 

 

It literally has me scared on how bad I'll feel if I lose my mom cause losing my grandma be having me down like hell some days