Gill Baka Esq. LLC.
formerly grimlock
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speakup my man, I did not know you were only 20. Being 25 and looking back I can say this to you with confidence:
In your mind isolate all the traits you feel you are i.e. being nice (in what situations), your looks, your style, how you talk, do you read books, what shows you watch and blah blah blah. Basically do a self-assessment of how you are now.
Now in your mind figure out what you wanna do...since your so young I would tell you to go out have fun with these girls...nothing serious just nail and bail if you want to...basically do what fits your personality. If your a relationship kinda guy which I was then figure that if your comfortable the way you are then stay that way. If you honestly feel like you need to change something about yourself to get a certain type of girl then you can do that to...there's no shame in something like that. But you have to realize that every guy has a center personality type that fits them and only them, sure they may make changes here and there in their life but if you remove all external things there is always the core that remains the same.
Some might say that i'm looking too in depth into things that all you really need to do is just approach a girl, ask her out, and that's it...and their absolutely right. BUT, you gotta decide what you want right now in this stage of the game. If you wanna *$+! around with some birds and you can't do it or rather you believe girls are looking for something else from what you are right now then by all means switch up your game, but at the end of the day when you fall asleep you gotta realize that some things men do to get girls they would feel uncomfortable doing that or being that way on a day where they weren't trying to get any girls.
So in short if you feel you need to accommodate some random girls to smash then thats exactly what you need to do, but if your looking for something more serious in my eyes there's nothing better than remaining true to your core maybe pickup some new tricks here and there and learn from your mistakes(or better yet mistakes girls make) and move on from there.
I have friends that keep up this facade with girls then they wife them up then they break up cuz no one was really keeping it real, and I got other buddies that are macho as *$+! they nail some birds and their back to themselves the next day.
In your mind isolate all the traits you feel you are i.e. being nice (in what situations), your looks, your style, how you talk, do you read books, what shows you watch and blah blah blah. Basically do a self-assessment of how you are now.
Now in your mind figure out what you wanna do...since your so young I would tell you to go out have fun with these girls...nothing serious just nail and bail if you want to...basically do what fits your personality. If your a relationship kinda guy which I was then figure that if your comfortable the way you are then stay that way. If you honestly feel like you need to change something about yourself to get a certain type of girl then you can do that to...there's no shame in something like that. But you have to realize that every guy has a center personality type that fits them and only them, sure they may make changes here and there in their life but if you remove all external things there is always the core that remains the same.
Some might say that i'm looking too in depth into things that all you really need to do is just approach a girl, ask her out, and that's it...and their absolutely right. BUT, you gotta decide what you want right now in this stage of the game. If you wanna *$+! around with some birds and you can't do it or rather you believe girls are looking for something else from what you are right now then by all means switch up your game, but at the end of the day when you fall asleep you gotta realize that some things men do to get girls they would feel uncomfortable doing that or being that way on a day where they weren't trying to get any girls.
So in short if you feel you need to accommodate some random girls to smash then thats exactly what you need to do, but if your looking for something more serious in my eyes there's nothing better than remaining true to your core maybe pickup some new tricks here and there and learn from your mistakes(or better yet mistakes girls make) and move on from there.
I have friends that keep up this facade with girls then they wife them up then they break up cuz no one was really keeping it real, and I got other buddies that are macho as *$+! they nail some birds and their back to themselves the next day.