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I was a stand up dad took care of my BM and my son. My BM got thrown out her house by her parents and i moved her into my parents crib and went and joined the military. Sending this girl check every month made sure i documented the money i gave her. Next thing you know im coming home for leave to take a break from deployment over seas she moved out of my parents house to hide she was preg by someone else. I see this broad after 1 years and she 7 months preg ready to bust and asked me to take her back and she sorry. I told her str8 up go find that other dude who got you preg and walked off on her never talked to her again.
Next thing you know im getting served child support papers while still serving in the military as a PFC for $900 a month. If anyone knows about the military PFC dont make squat. So I had to lawyer up and fight her in court and pull out all those checks she cashed and i was only able to get it lowered by $200. And my lawyer cost me $3k. The judge didnt even care i was serving over seas and i was a PFC i had to phone in to the court because i was deployed had proof of every payment and they still stuck it to me like i wasn't handling my business. They counted every penny i was making while deployed and thats why it was so high.
She ended up getting preg a third time from another guy and she ended up losing the baby for not watching the baby while he was drinking a bottle now she is in some kind of psychiatric stuff
know my BM wont let me see my son unless i take his brother too who is the kid she got preg with while i was holding her down while on tour in the military i have nothing against the kid its just the principle and the lil dude be giving me hugs and called me dad one time in front of my wife and you should of saw the look on my wife face
Im married now with a new son and every time my BM sees my wife she be disrespecting my wife I still think my BM is jealous and turned spiteful when I left her.
Im out the military and making more money and will not go back to court because i know they will raise it. All you guys saying $400 a month or less is hurting you, I would kill to get mines lowered.
I was the good guy who got burned.
I made some edits
Didn't you post about this a while back, think I remember some of this story. But why won't you try and get custody, if she got pregnant while you were deployed AND lost a child AND doesn't have adequate, stable income, I'm sure you could get custody.
But as @AntBanks81 said, I support all the good dudes out there trying to do right by their children but get screwed by the BM and the system. There's no reason for the system to still be set this way as if everything is black and white. And even worse, some women who leave the kids never have to pay CS to the father. There's no justification for keeping a parent away from their child if they want to be in their lives, none. But the courts give all these bitter/spiteful women all this power.