Black Culture Discussion Thread

[fluid hips]

According to Charleston White

Mainstream hip hop been hijacked by non black people to push a narrative or mislead the youth

Rappers rapping with substance don't get airplay. None of these "urban" radio stations are owned by black people. You don't get airplay if you don't rap about murder, gang activity, having multiple baby daddies/baby mammas or normalizing being a bop

How tf do we not have ownership over something we created

Time to take back what is ours and control the narrative

 

[finessence]

I may have have missed this, but did you grow up in the same house as your dad? Or was this just shared custody/occasional visits?

Nah. Grew up in my moms house (my dads parents and childhood home was right up the street).

He always lived within 10-15 minutes of me

 

[deuce king]

Where’s the school brotha??

 

[tr1ll]

How tf do we not have ownership over something we created

We sold it and signed the contract, “He getting money doe.”.

 

[HankHill]

Nah. Grew up in my moms house (my dads parents and childhood home was right up the street).

He always lived within 10-15 minutes of me

Did your mom let him come through whenever he wanted and could you go to his house whenever you wanted? 15 minutes isn't far, but its a world away from spending hours every day with each other. Do you think its possible he could've had more opportunities to influence you if he actually lived at home with you? From how you described him, he just sounds like a conservative old Black man.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

All rap?

Well we know it isn't ALL rap but we can understand where he is coming from. But yall can play dumb about it since it's the wrong messenger.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

We sold it and signed the contract, “He getting money doe.”.

What did we own and sell? And when did we own it? Honest question.

 

[finessence]

Did your mom let him come through whenever he wanted and could you go to his house whenever you wanted? 15 minutes isn't far, but its a world away from spending hours every day with each other. Do you think its possible he could've had more opportunities to influence you if he actually lived at home with you? From how you described him, he just sounds like a conservative old Black man.

I’m of course he had access. My mom use to try and force me to be around him. He chose to chase women.

He’s just a hater. Nothing more, nothing less. My mom thinks he didn’t expect her to succeed. But my mom came from a decent, productive family so, I don’t know what he was thinking.

He regrets marrying the woman he chose, instead of my mom. I was glad though. I just never wanted my mom to be with him. I wanted her to move on. My pops is just a complete weirdo

 

[maq25060]

I’m of course he had access. My mom use to try and force me to be around him. He chose to chase women.

He’s just a hater. Nothing more, nothing less. My mom thinks he didn’t expect her to succeed. But my mom came from a decent, productive family so, I don’t know what he was thinking.

He regrets marrying the woman he chose, instead of my mom. I was glad though. I just never wanted my mom to be with him. I wanted her to move on. My pops is just a complete weirdo

Would you say you can't find one redeeming quality about him, outside of providing financially, which you spoke on earlier.

Im the youngest of my family. Was a "happy family" (no, it was not...not in the least bit), complete with trips to Disneyland and all, until I got here. At that point, they had enough of each other (my father fell victim to common trappings of that time) and split.

So I experienced the single mom upbringing all my life. Pops bounced back from his demons, attempted to be apart of my (and my sister's) life...it was rocky at best. I was happy to try as a child, but grew to resent the situation, and him, with age.

I found out he died the same day i found out I was gonna start a new job. His funeral was my 2nd day of work at my new job. I had absolutely no intention of going to his funeral until my brother (the oldest) said "no, you're going. " Nothing else needed to be said.

I regret not being wise enough to attempt to, at the very minimum, hear out his pov on how things played out the way they did. And questions beyond that.

if I were to try to answer the question I asked you about my father, I would not be able to give you one. But I still regret not attempting to know him in a deeper way.

 

[HankHill]

I’m of course he had access. My mom use to try and force me to be around him. He chose to chase women.

He’s just a hater. Nothing more, nothing less. My mom thinks he didn’t expect her to succeed. But my mom came from a decent, productive family so, I don’t know what he was thinking.

He regrets marrying the woman he chose, instead of my mom. I was glad though. I just never wanted my mom to be with him. I wanted her to move on. My pops is just a complete weirdo

Makes sense. I'm just trying to gauge what the dynamic was between your parents with respect to you saying he was around , but had no influence on your upbringing.

 

[tr1ll]

What did we own and sell? And when did we own it? Honest question.

Hip hop. October 20th 1990 was the day. Thanks Unc.

 

[Raji Lowenthal]

By then, they're just "black" and start falling into all the trappings of the Black American life.

I had this convo with some Trinidadian dudes on my job

 

[finessence]

I had this convo with some Trinidadian dudes on my job

They don’t even understand that at the end of the day… they’re still considered “black”

 

[Raji Lowenthal]

They don’t even understand that at the end of the day… they’re still considered “black”

Bro, he ****s on American women daily then gets mad when I bring up Nikki Minaj and told him "that's what happens if you get too comfortable here"

 

[finessence]

Bro, he ****s on American women daily then gets mad when I bring up Nikki Minaj and told him "that's what happens if you get too comfortable here"

Them chics in their OWN country do wayyyyyy more “selling of goods” than here in America

Those street walkers be pounding the pavement for real

Not to mention that cake soap going platinum in certain countries. They don’t even like being black

 

[Present]

 

[DCAllAfrican]

I see her VISION but Is there another way to achieve this?

 

[tr1ll]

Once upon a time boys did play with dolls except we called them "Action Figures" and we used to make them fight each other. What the hell is she talking about?? The real problem is women don't try to understand men so they have a hard time picking the right one. A lot of the stuff they think is cute are really red flags.

 

[finessence]

I see her VISION but Is there another way to achieve this?

Out of her RABID a*** mind. Women play with dolls and still lash out or abuse their kids. But it’s supposed to be different for men? A woman should NEVER make an asinine suggestion like this towards men. Why didn’t she make her sons or nephews play with dolls?

She probably doesn’t have sons




You watch some weird content dawg

 

[finessence]

Folks just need to come to terms with the fact that some people are naturally screw ups and miserable. There’s no saving some people. Just tolerate and coexist.

If you’re a certain age and still don’t have discernment, know yourself, or know how to READ people, then you’re just a natural screw up.

Everyone isn’t fit to be parents. That’s why certain men should get vasectomies or certain women should get their tubes tied

 

[Present]

We need to start letting our little boys play with dolls, and this is the campaign I'm trying to get started.

They need to play with dolls because we got young men out here and older men that if the child interrupts their video game,

they knock them out with their fist,

they beat them,

they kill them,

they don't know how to discipline them physically,

they punch them with their fist,

they do a lot of things to these babies,

taking their frustration and anger out on them,

because they don't know how to relate to them,

they don't know how to deal with them.

- Shahrazad Ali

A CDC study found that Black fathers who live with their children were more likely than white or Hispanic fathers to bathe, change or dress their children every day, more likely to eat meals with their children every day and more likely to help their children with their homework every day.

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr071.pdf

 

[finessence]

We need to start letting our little boys play with dolls, and this is the campaign I'm trying to get started.

They need to play with dolls because we got young men out here and older men that if the child interrupts their video game,

they knock them out with their fist,

they beat them,

they kill them,

they don't know how to discipline them physically,

they punch them with their fist,

they do a lot of things to these babies,

taking their frustration and anger out on them,

because they don't know how to relate to them,

they don't know how to deal with them.

- Shahrazad Ali

A CDC study found that Black fathers who live with their children were more likely than white or Hispanic fathers to bathe, change or dress their children every day, more likely to eat meals with their children every day and more likely to help their children with their homework every day.

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr071.pdf

We know how to be gentle with our shoes, clothes, ‘vidga games, cars, etc…

… but we don’t know how to be gentle with our kids

Baby dolls will be the solution though. Like I said, PLENTYYYYY women grew up with baby dolls and still beat their kids

Excuses just continue to pile up about everything

Lil Janet aka Lil Penny on Good Times had her Teddy bear in a head lock, punching it profusely

Michael had to step in

 

[tr1ll]

I always say getting knowledge from my dad was like eating crawfish. You gotta peel away a lot of nonsense to a tiny morsel of knowledge. This is the same. There are SOME BOYS who do need to learn how to handle people with the gentle hand. Simulated baby care isn't a bad idea for a solution for that problem for that group of specific people.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

A CDC study found that Black fathers who live with their children were more likely than white or Hispanic fathers to bathe, change or dress their children every day, more likely to eat meals with their children every day and more likely to help their children with their homework every day.

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr071.pdf

gry60 Please make him stop with the propaganda!!!!!!

 

[tokes99]

I see her VISION but Is there another way to achieve this?

nevermind that she is inflating the problem, it is probably not a feasible/serious solution anyways…but i can see her broader point & about modeling fatherhood…interestingly she mentioned trends before stating something like ‘everything (black) women do is to attract the (black) man but i really do think that most women do not make that conscious connection, they are just following trends…

Once upon a time boys did play with dolls except we called them "Action Figures" and we used to make them fight each other. What the hell is she talking about?? The real problem is women don't try to understand men so they have a hard time picking the right one. A lot of the stuff they think is cute are really red flags.

i think the mate selection thing is the almost the whole gambit…neither gender is all that discerning really just happens to be the case that the male threshold tends to be lower & the negatives less immediately detrimental/obvious/physically harmful. there just used to be way more consideration & input about/from family being that people would be in closer, smaller communities where folk more intimately knew each other from familial & social relationships over longer periods of time; there were more ways to kinda control the ting…for better & worse this is largely no longer the case