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Smh I don't know how to tell my bf this...I know it hurts his feelings when I say small things like hey why didn't you go workout etc...
Guys usually like the gym....is he really big?
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Smh I don't know how to tell my bf this...I know it hurts his feelings when I say small things like hey why didn't you go workout etc...
Similar situation with me. My girl was always thick, but she got comfortable being thick and thought she could put on a few pounds.. but now she has a gut. Doesnt like to work out and cant really control her eating habits. Normally im always in good shape, but i hit some depression around november and i put some weight on, so i cant really criticize her now. I plan on letting her know when ever I start hitting the gym so she can start as well on her own schedule. Or I hope that she notices how all the shorties love me when im in shape and gets on her game.. tough s*** but w.e
Guys usually like the gym....is he really big?
Smh I don't know how to tell my bf this...I know it hurts his feelings when I say small things like hey why didn't you go workout etc...
Nobody is gonna react positively to that I'm sure he's aware that he's fat. Maybe volunteer to go with him or find a coworker/acquaintance that is experienced and can show him the ropes because that's why most guys don't go, they don't REALLY know what they are doin
The thing is he has all that. He's just lazy smh. He knows how I feel but just dosent take it serious IMO. I've always been upfront about what I'm attracted to but I still feel bad that its kinda a deal breaker for me.
see sometimes, you really can't force some people to go out and exercise, ya know? Change has to happen from within in order to take full throttle. If she tries to do all this work for him and fam doesn't feel like actually repaying her in some way and repaying his own damn body with some respect, how is he gonna get out that couch?Sounds like homie is just lazy.
You tried cooking healthy meals for him, so he can at least get started on the right foot?
Man that doesn't work MOST of the time. I know so many dudes that work out and are in shape and have girls that won't follow.Led by example is great advice. I was in a similar situation with my ex and she started to take note of my habits with exercise and diet and soon was following along.
Man that doesn't work MOST of the time. I know so many dudes that work out and are in shape and have girls that won't follow.
And remember, if we are talking about black girls........
When they get in shape, you will see comments like this when they post new pics on FB. "Girl you better stop losing all that weight."
see sometimes, you really can't force some people to go out and exercise, ya know? Change has to happen from within in order to take full throttle. If she tries to do all this work for him and fam doesn't feel like actually repaying her in some way and repaying his own damn body with some respect, how is he gonna get out that couch?
Honestly, I feel that if you're involved with someone and you want them to start getting fit, you should also be getting fit to encourage that type of behavior. If they don't want to change, then leave em?
People talk about hating complacency yet accept it in many facets of their life. Love someone regardless- pffft. What happened to making your partner the best they can be.
^ I feel for you man. I hate situations like this because no matter what, the person that wants the other person to lose weight looks like a jerk.
I mean the whole KSteezy, "You are supposed to love someone regardless" BS is used so often it is like you are supposed to just accept BS from someone just because you are with them. That is BULL.
Hit her with the "How is my girl gonna love me if her heart's not healthy?"
If it were only that easy. As much as you drop hints, hit the gym or flat out tell your girl that's she's getting to fat, until she's ready she's never gonna want to lose weight. Being a black woman with weight issues I feel like Im pretty knowledgeable on this situation. The pic you posted, that's her right?? She's cute, and as long as she feels like she's cute, and other men make her feel cute (even when you dont) why would she have any motivation to lose weight?? It's sad but true that what you don't like about her someone else will. It's gotta be something in you that makes her choose to lose weight and stay with you.