so you wouldnt mind cooking and cleaning up the house for your man while he works? Sweet!!!
For my HUSBAND? No.For a boyfriend? Man, please. I wish I would.
I don't know if I'll actually be a housewife, I have plans for my life that don't involve...that. But I don't see anything wrong with being ahousewife or a stay at home mom, maintaining the house while my man provides for his family.
Originally Posted by Dylishis
Originally Posted by AirAnt23
YO! You wildin' with not paying for anything EVER.
I dig you on not approaching a guy with a date. But seems a bit backwards that women would expect to get equal salary for the same job... yet never have to pay for anything in a relationship.
That ain't the kind of change "The Black Guy" believes in.
DF!!!
LMAO NOOOOOOOOOO!I didn't mean like, 'ever'. But in that 'courting' stage. When I hang out with guys, me paying for stuff has never been an issue. They've never expected me to.
Obviously when things progress into a relationship, things change.
then when we get extra cautious about golddiggers, we're "paranoid" and "unreasonable"
Well, what if all women were paranoid about some potential douchedrip that might stick us with babies they don't take care of? Every man outthere isn't a shiftless piece of trash just like every woman isn't a gold digger. If you have your own business and you're making money,sorry...but that's a desirable trait and women want that.Like I said, nothing wrong with weeding out monkeys that only want your pockets but on somelevel, you can see who is real and who isn't. Unless you want to be alone forever, how would you know?
We all take gambles in our mates.
You're comparing a woman wanting a competitive salary for doing the EXACT job her counterpart can to me liking the fact that my man opens the car door for me?
No no no. Don't put words on my fingers. I brought that social issue into play as a means of making a point about women never paying foranything.
LMAO NOOOOOOOOOO!I didn't mean like, 'ever'. But in that 'courting' stage. When I hang out with guys, me paying for stuff has never been an issue. They've never expected me to.
Obviously when things progress into a relationship, things change.
I dig that. But let me use this example... even before I saw A Bronx Tale, Mom Dukes hipped me to watching to see if a young lady reaches over andunlocks the driver's side after I've open the door for her on the other side. SO... in 2009, even, is it a stretch for me to think a woman may beadvancing herself in the courtship by throwing a few dollars on the table after I've signed for the bill?
DF!!!
Originally Posted by Club29
Originally Posted by Dylishis
Originally Posted by AirAnt23
YO! You wildin' with not paying for anything EVER.
I dig you on not approaching a guy with a date. But seems a bit backwards that women would expect to get equal salary for the same job... yet never have to pay for anything in a relationship.
That ain't the kind of change "The Black Guy" believes in.
DF!!!
LMAO NOOOOOOOOOO!I didn't mean like, 'ever'. But in that 'courting' stage. When I hang out with guys, me paying for stuff has never been an issue. They've never expected me to.
Obviously when things progress into a relationship, things change.
Really? because this came out of your cerebral cortex not 15 minutes ago
A woman doesn't have to pay for anything EVER. If a woman is spending money on you, she's probably desperate and ... (someone go find that Michael Vick pic w/ the dog) it's probably not going to end well. Everyone on Earth knows this. Somebody should draw up a memo for ya. That's real talk, I'm sorry.
So...which is it?
But a broken man isn't all too attractive. So if I am to let me guard down. Do these things... and get taken. Am I the kind of guy a "good woman" would want and appreciate or have I now proven myself weak and unworthy of a "good woman?"
Edit -
I see the ladies of jjb have arrived.
This thread was carefully crafted to also serve that purpose.
DF!!!
I dig that. But let me use this example... even before I saw A Bronx Tale, Mom Dukes hipped me to watching to see if a young lady reaches over and unlocks the driver's side after I've open the door for her on the other side. SO... in 2009, even, is it a stretch for me to think a woman may be advancing herself in the courtship by throwing a few dollars on the table after I've signed for the bill?
I don't think it's a stretch at all but if she doesn't... oh well. I mean gas is high and all of that jazz. It's a tough time tobe dating, I know.
I don't think there's anything wrong with a woman showing a little kindness and being helpful but I don't think that men should go into itexpecting women to be splitting bills or buying them things. I mean, as things progress, sure...but when we got into this discussion I was justtalking about showing a woman that YOU care about her. Half-steppers. When you're expressing interest in a woman, why is her agreeing to spend time withyou not enough?
DF!!!
.I was more or less talking about women on the dating scene who are looking to enter relationships. blackmagnus (did I butcher that SN) was talking about some 'Oldest trick in the book.... Women that pay for you are making an investment they want to see a return on.'... In that scenario...NO. Women never have to pay to invest in a man. That's backwards (in my wholehearted opinion), I disagree.
her paying makes her either want
1. an emotional relationship with dude
2. a sexual relationship
3. a financial support (the best golddiggers know its takes $ to make $)
or if she's really liking dudes style she'll have all three only with the third aspect being equal for both of them or on a alternating scale (ex: he pays for a date, she does the next one)...
See, all of that right there? Doing too much.I'm not paying for an emotional relationship. CLEARLY, I'm not paying for penis. What kind ofbackwards Twilight Zone... and, that's the thing. I don't NEED a man to take care of me. His paying for me wouldn't mean anything to but showingthat he gives a $#%+. Not that I'm for sale and that money means everything, but look at the convo we're having...it means a lot. . I'm not agolddigger. I can't relate to this.
*EDIT* My quotes were 5088074 kinds of messed up.
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