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If you feel she is worth it talk to her and feel her out. The eyes never lie Chico
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Originally Posted by blazinRook
U ever run your concerns by her?
I too think ur fighting an uphill battle..but u can help her realize what she's doing..hopefully she can work out her stuff..and maybe later y'all can see wsup, but as for now..it's not a good look
Originally Posted by chokeonsmoke
Do what you want bro its your life
Originally Posted by GrimlocK
I remember when people used to post cliffs.
Originally Posted by nYcHipHopHippo
She rolled through with Valentines Day gifts for my mom and sis and I said !$*! it theres a reason why shes trying so hard to win them and me
over so I wifed it. And I kinda regret it already. She keeps saying I love u and when I say it back I know I barely mean it. Whatever though. I didn't
want to let another man control how I live my life. And if he wins in the end then I think what she could have been was worth fighting for. I also wanna use this as a learning experience on how to treat women, love, romance, etc.
I def do think there's a high possibility that even months removed from her relationship that I'm a rebound cuz I just found out AFTER telling her I want something more serious too ab some other #%%@ she's been through. This probably won't end well for me but eff it. And even though I didn't take it, thanks for the advice fellow NTers. I'll rem to update this and let u guys learn from my experience how this eventually turns out.
Originally Posted by tim teufel
If you feel she is worth it talk to her and feel her out. The eyes never lie Chico
DO NOT GET IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HER EX BOYFRIEND CAN TAP THAT WHEN HE WANTS. TELL HER THAT YALL CAN BE FRIENDS THATS IT. YALL CAN BE FRIENDS BECAUSE SHE WAS HONEST WITH YOU. BOTH OF YALL YOUNG. SHE WAS 20 (SHE DONT KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS. SHE CONFUSED) DONT GET IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER.Originally Posted by nYcHipHopHippo
Will this be able to end well..
This girl who I've been dating for 4 months has been telling me that she wants to have a serious relationship and has told me she's loved me for ab a month now. I'm 22 and she's 20 btw. About 6 months before she met me she had just gotten out of a 4 year relationship. So from soph year HS to soph year of college. The dude was her first for everything and she was crazy about him to the point that he would cheat on her nonstop and she'd stay with him no matter what. Dude would even cheat in parties she was at, once had a girl visit a social at his house and told his girl hes been having sex with her, and cheated on the day she had an abortion. And he eventually dumped her after 4 years for someone else instead of her saying it was enough. I know im disgusted by it too that she stayed with him but she was his first everything from a young age and they lived down the block from each other and dude had bread so it was hard for her to let go. She then continued having relations with him after their break up for a while but that ended before she and i met. Dude moved but now sees her at the gym she works at, still tries sweet talking her ab their past, and still on rare occasions tries hitting her up and told her he just wants to be friends which is obviously %#$!+%*+.
Girl then says to me ab a week ago shes changing her num so people from her past dont hit her up. I assumed he'd be a person she doesnt give her new num too but i saw she texted it to him and flipped yesterday that she had the chance to move on from that abusive dude but still kept him in her life esp when she has me, says she loves me, and wants a relationship. She then tells me she's not completely over him and said that she cant completely let go of someone that meant that much to her, and she misses the love and affection she would get. And even somewhat defended his actions by saying he was immature and not ready for a monogamous relationship and still isnt which is why he cheats on the girl hes with now. Theres a different between that and being completely grimey and doing it right in front of her. She did say though that she'll never allow herself to be with him again.
I then realized I've been giving her so little of that and she still loves me and has been with only me since we've been dating (her best friend lives with and in a relationship with my best friend and she tells him everything.) And I havent been doing it cuz i dont want her loving me any more than she does and eventually breaking her heart.
I've never been in a serious relationship before but this chicks beautiful, smart, on point with what shes doing in life and school, and seems to be willing to give me everything I want and need from a girl. The only thing I'm worried ab is that dude seems to have some kind of mind !#@! over her that might never end. And everything I do for her is just her trying to relive the memories of him. And also that she'll always have a place for that dude even though he was beyond grimey. And obviously worst of all that she'll go back to him.
I think by showing her the love and affection she wants/misses she might eventually be able to move on from that and realize she has someone and something better than shes ever had. But on the other hand its like she'll always wish it was him she can be with.
NTers with wisdom/experience in the game, is this chick bad news cuz of her past or should i just say !#@! it and give it a chance and by giving her what she needs in that regard she'll eventually be able to get over it and realize he should have no place in her life.
Originally Posted by nYcHipHopHippo
And if he wins in the end then I think what she could have been was worth fighting for.