Wifing a Girl Who...... (update page 3)

[kramer]

Originally Posted by DJMano34

You heard it here OP, we all agree on the same thing.

Question now is what are you going to do?

And the answer of course is post pics

 

[jthagreat]

Originally Posted by GrimlocK

I remember when people used to post cliffs.

 

[sonoftony]

smash and dash. you too young for a headache.

if you REALLY wanna wife her, i'd say let time pass and make a move once you feel/know the other dude isnt in the picture no more.

 

[donttalkitlivit]

She still F's with dude... TRUST ME. Whether ur in denial or not... This is a NO-GO. She texted him her new number?? Lol.Have u ever seen the movie "Casino"??? If so... think about Ginger.

 

[onemandeep]

come on.. read what you wrote. your being just as foolish as she was/is. USE YOUR HEAD, and you will see that she is tied to this dude. but you gotta make your own mistakes sometime

 

[dwyanewadeog]

cliff notes please?

 

[504 d1 prospect]

Originally Posted by DutchMasterRoller

So every girl will always have a place in her heart for the guy who she lost her V too, you have not control over that.

The fact that they still have communication and she gave him her new number is a little weird. If she wasnt changing her number to have him not contact her who was she trying to get away from?

But yea I would say continue dating shorty but yea as stated previously tread carefully cuz as long as her X is trying he has a shot.

couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[blakep267]

I feel like this is going to turn out like Scott Pilgrim. Anytime Gideon wants, he can steal your Ramona back

 

[mrkane]

dawg she will always love that dude no matter what. does she have a daddy.........cause this is typical behavior from a chick who has daddy issues??

chill, hit, kick it ect. but do not fall for her. keep your options open young man, because sounds like she will ALWAYS go back to him.....even if
it is a ONE-TIME session. SHE's WILL ALWAYS BE WEAK FOR HIM.

 

[dynamics82]

 

[jordanxi45]

need pics of said girlfriend before i evaluate your situation

 

[tomdiginson]

Forget that broad Op not worth the trouble at all.

 

[finnns2003]

First time I've ever seen NT in unison, dump that asap man. She's damaged goods.

 

[wavy and goliath]

Originally Posted by ill steelo

Son, the moment this guy makes a serious concerted effort to get her back claiming that he's "changed" & other nonsense, she'll leave you in the dust.

He's in her head right now, g.

Do NOT cuff that.

No point in trying to be a superhero.

 

[ireminisce]

Originally Posted by finnns2003

First time I've ever seen NT in unison, dump that asap man. She's damaged goods.

unfortunately, the unison is not asking for pics.

 

[nktran001]

It's not even worth it.

Didn't read, btw.

 

[truballa101]

In a similar situation too...

Keep her at arms length man and don't get caught up. You're probably a good dude but like someone else said "She's DAMAGED GOODS"
Her mind is still caught up in her PAST relationship so how can she commit to a FUTURE relationship?

It hurts but on to the next...

 

[biggie62]

Originally Posted by killahcam06

Been in a situation similar to this. My advice is tread very lightly. She is still in love with old boy. As long as the communication lines are still open between them, anything can happen.

Pretty much.  My last relationship sort of ended with something similar to this.  At least it happened fairly early before things got too intense and emotional.  But I did begin to love the girl which really sucked.  The good thing was that she admitted to me that she was talking to the dude and that she didn't want to potentially hurt me so we decided to break it off. 

 

[el rey jr]

Your the rebound guy. Your the guy that gets stuck in the friend zone after she goes back to ol boy. The only way to change this is by treating her like *+%%. For some reason chicks like that. lay down the law and tell her exactly what you want from her and that you aint going to tolerate no BS. Either she stops talking to the guy or get the boot. If you tell her you dont need someone who is emotionally disturbed.....something in that head will click.
Been down that road.....I am a good guy but when things need to be addressed, I aint BSn.

 

[miniojw]

NTer are looking for love in all the wrong places.

 

[mytmouse76]

let it go OP

20 telling you she loves you after a month

her history with ol boy

she has some stuff to work out with her self esteem that you more than likely can't help her with...

if you keep it up she's just gonna pull you in on her rollercoaster life w/ol boy

i promise if he hit her up tomorrow and told her he was ready to be faithful she'd drop you...

until she gets past that you're wasting your time

 

[atlien seeko]

Drop that homey. Seriously and sincerely. You'll end up losing big time in the long run. You're a rebound.

 

[noblekane]

Originally Posted by nYcHipHopHippo

Will this be able to end well..
This girl who I've been dating for 4 months has been telling me that she wants to have a serious relationship and has told me she's loved me for ab a month now. I'm 22 and she's 20 btw. About 6 months before she met me she had just gotten out of a 4 year relationship. So from soph year HS to soph year of college. The dude was her first for everything and she was crazy about him to the point that he would cheat on her nonstop and she'd stay with him no matter what. Dude would even cheat in parties she was at, once had a girl visit a social at his house and told his girl hes been having sex with her, and cheated on the day she had an abortion. And he eventually dumped her after 4 years for someone else instead of her saying it was enough. I know im disgusted by it too that she stayed with him but she was his first everything from a young age and they lived down the block from each other and dude had bread so it was hard for her to let go. She then continued having relations with him after their break up for a while but that ended before she and i met. Dude moved but now sees her at the gym she works at, still tries sweet talking her ab their past, and still on rare occasions tries hitting her up and told her he just wants to be friends which is obviously @*!$*!*%.

Girl then says to me ab a week ago shes changing her num so people from her past dont hit her up. I assumed he'd be a person she doesnt give her new num too but i saw she texted it to him and flipped yesterday that she had the chance to move on from that abusive dude but still kept him in her life esp when she has me, says she loves me, and wants a relationship. She then tells me she's not completely over him and said that she cant completely let go of someone that meant that much to her, and she misses the love and affection she would get. And even somewhat defended his actions by saying he was immature and not ready for a monogamous relationship and still isnt which is why he cheats on the girl hes with now. Theres a different between that and being completely grimey and doing it right in front of her. She did say though that she'll never allow herself to be with him again.

I then realized I've been giving her so little of that and she still loves me and has been with only me since we've been dating (her best friend lives with and in a relationship with my best friend and she tells him everything.) And I havent been doing it cuz i dont want her loving me any more than she does and eventually breaking her heart.

I've never been in a serious relationship before but this chicks beautiful, smart, on point with what shes doing in life and school, and seems to be willing to give me everything I want and need from a girl. The only thing I'm worried ab is that dude seems to have some kind of mind +@#% over her that might never end. And everything I do for her is just her trying to relive the memories of him. And also that she'll always have a place for that dude even though he was beyond grimey. And obviously worst of all that she'll go back to him.

I think by showing her the love and affection she wants/misses she might eventually be able to move on from that and realize she has someone and something better than shes ever had. But on the other hand its like she'll always wish it was him she can be with.

NTers with wisdom/experience in the game, is this chick bad news cuz of her past or should i just say +@#% it and give it a chance and by giving her what she needs in that regard she'll eventually be able to get over it and realize he should have no place in her life.

wow not again........ dude if something is labeled poison do you drink it? you KNOW whats up. you see the signs. i am 100 percent willing to bet shes had sexual relations withthis guy even when you guys were a couple. No matter what she or anyone else says.
Jesus you guys on niketalk cant be that gullable can you?

she wants to start a new but gives her new number to her ex who cheated on her many times but she still wants to keep in contact? 

DUDE?

DUDE???

Come on now.Dont go there...

 

[blazinrook]

U ever run your concerns by her?

I too think ur fighting an uphill battle..but u can help her realize what she's doing..hopefully she can work out her stuff..and maybe later y'all can see wsup, but as for now..it's not a good look

 

[6 Rings G.O.A.T.]

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