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How long were y'all together for some context?
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This, only time heals really. A good cry and scream when you're alone helps, no sense repressing it at that point. Do work on yourself though, in all facets so when you make it out that fog you're surprised by how much you've accomplished.You gotta go through.
On and off for almost 2 years but been cool with each other for 8.How long were y'all together for some context?
Go on YT. Watch some of BOA's videos. His joints will have you looking at things differently.Need that TAY advice to get over someone I was feeling real heavy. Them feels but I rather this than looking stupid and continuing wasting time.
Definitely will check out the videos.Go on YT. Watch some of BOA's videos. His joints will have you looking at things differently.
My situation has been over a month and I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Bruh grieve and dont let it bottle up. Best thing I did was to figure out my value and logically looked at the situation. At the end of the day she did me a favor by not f***ing my life up like her past relationships. That also plays into setting boundaries early on my ends so my life remained the same.
The positive is that I have more time for myself to keep grinding. One thing I do know is that I won't be in a monogamous relationship again. It's draining and not worth it.
If that's the case, check out Coach Warren on YT. You can't go back to the ex ever but in my opinion she can be a side but never commit again. The first time ol' girl leaves is who she is.Definitely will check out the videos.
I got way too attached and that’s what messed me up the most. I need to leave the women of my past in the past and stop rekindling things at later dates to only be disappointed.
Can’t even call her an ex because we weren’t in a serious relationship (together officially). I think as soon as I’m fully over here, I won’t even want her again afterwards. Pretty much the same I feel about my 3 ex’s honestly.If that's the case, check out Coach Warren on YT. You can't go back to the ex ever but in my opinion she can be a side but never commit again. The first time ol' girl leaves is who she is.
Thats the mindset. You will quickly realized she left because she can't control you.Can’t even call her an ex because we weren’t in a serious relationship (together officially). I think as soon as I’m fully over here, I won’t even want her again afterwards. Pretty much the same I feel about my 3 ex’s honestly.
I’ll check these videos out shortly.
I’d say it’s because she wasn’t at the same point in her life as I am. Going in between meaningless jobs that don’t benefit whatever her end goal is, constantly seeking validation from social media, still living with her family (nothing wrong with that but when you’ve been preaching moving out for almost 2 years, something needs to change). The appreciation wasn’t reciprocated from her end and it showed greatly.Thats the mindset. You will quickly realized she left because she can't control you.
I’d say it’s because she wasn’t at the same point in her life as I am. Going in between meaningless jobs that don’t benefit whatever her end goal is, constantly seeking validation from social media, still living with her family (nothing wrong with that but when you’ve been preaching moving out for almost 2 years, something needs to change). The appreciation wasn’t reciprocated from her end and it showed greatly.
She’s still in that “experiencing life” stage and honestly I don’t need to be with her during that time because all that’s going to happen is she’s going to go through her ho phase.
Funny you say that because it was one time I told her that “the way I treat you and take care of you, I want to make it difficult for the next person” we’ll see how that goes.Haha I am in the same situation. As soon as what I was teaching her worked for me, she bounced (I got a promotion). She was talking about she needs to find herself and work on herself. Two weeks later she was messing with a coworker, called me crying that it wasn't the same and was upset that I wasn't upset with her decision.
To add, every girl wants a *** phase. Don't take her back though because she will be damaged. She will never be the girl you knew. Let that for the next sucker to deal with it.
I went hard the second time and the hurt isn’t as bad as I thought it would be. I’m hurt but it’s like all the benefits outweigh the cons on if this didn’t happen, and I’m actually content with that.No bro you did right by not going hard the first time. The outcome would have been the same except you would be extremely hurt for trying too hard
I feet it. Mine was there when I was coming up but that was her way of feeling secure.Sex aside I can honestly that’s the only person I’ve fell in love with. So I blamed that as the reason.
Yeah it’s the fact of losing that friend aspect more than anything and also the feeling of being betrayed. You think someone’s in your corner but they’re really not. I think talking about it and getting everything off my chest actually helped me a lot so far. Do I think I won’t be hurting at a later date? No. Will I get over it? Yes. I just look at it as a learning experience of what not to do or to do in the future.I went through something similar. Knew a girl where the friendship and chemistry was great. Turned physical and even that was more than I expected. Knew her for 4 years, messed around for 2. She broke it off saying she needed her own time and never really had her phase and she’d forever regret it if she wasnt fully single (only dated 1 guy before me for around 5 years).
**** sucked, no lie, bc you also lose a best friend. But time does heal. Out of mind out of site. Its natural to have all these feelings you’re going through. It makes you stronger mentally and less emotional/committed in the future. Once you put anyone on a pedestal, you honestly lost. Us men make logical decisions, women mostly emotional. No reason of tryna get answers or fix things for the better. We always think we can fix or make anything better. I had to learn that the hard way. No point of tryna forget, you’ll always have a small place for her in your heart. You gotta realize there’s all types of love, but never the same love twice.
Dead that thought and any other excuses you make for her like "ho phase". She's just not for you and that's ok.Maybe I’ll run into her in a few years,
I actually like this response and will take this to heart.Dead that thought and any other excuses you make for her like "ho phase". She's just not for you and that's ok.
Sorry fam I’m not rolling. You’ll be byke.Think I found wifey for real y'all
Might have to hang up the jersey in the rafters