TAY: thread about yambs...

[youngdoc]

Ok guys I feel like I'm starting to improve on my conversation skills.
My only issue is being funny around girls..
I have a huge dry sense of humor but I feel like girls don't find that attractive..
any advice?

Cut back a little bit on the dryness and smile more.

I can be very sarcastic and I make sure to smile so yambs don't think I'm a complete a-hole.

Also you may have to dumb down your humor depending on the demographic. They can't laugh if they don't understand it

 

[surgev1]

So, one of my boys is seriously addicted to porn and/or masturbation. He'll watch it all day if he could. I don't think he's an ugly guy, but I think he does think he's ugly or not good enough. Folks always ask him why he doesn't have a girl, so I think others see the potential in him especially the females. Yeah, he's been rejected and played a few times and I think that took a toll on him in his younger days and affects him today (he's 2. The only time he gets a chick is if she makes the initial approach and in the chance he may have sex with a chick he can't get it up, which I told him because of the amount of porn he watches. It pretty much has corrupted his brain imo.

Is there another answer other than stop watching porn?

I swear I don't get how people say too much porn messes with your sex game. It might not be an every day thing for me but its still a lot & it has yet to negatively effect what I can do, maybe it effects people who literally sit & watch for hours on end?

 

[surgev1]

Cut back a little bit on the dryness and smile more.

I can be very sarcastic and I make sure to smile so yambs don't think I'm a complete a-hole.

Also you may have to dumb down your humor depending on the demographic. They can't laugh if they don't understand it

This. I'm sarcastic as shlt, girls think I'm an ******* from time to time & it's the WORST to tell a joke and it goes over a female's head. Joke is killed & y'all both looking stupid

 

[shorty doo wop]

I never post here and this prob some rookie stuff but F it ya'll seem nice

I got this chick in one of my classes that I used to play intramural volleyball with that I'm feeling right now, so in class I normally sit with my homies across the room from her but I came in late one day and lost my seat so I pulled up a seat right next to her she even said "miracle your sitting here" throughout the class I was making small talk and stuff so that was all good

So I try sitting next to her again today but I walk into class and the chick that was on the other side of her last week is in her chair so she was literally between us the whole class

The thing that got me doubtful is that she two years older than me and I know chicks normally go for older dudes

 

[surgev1]

I never post here and this prob some rookie stuff but F it ya'll seem nice

I got this chick in one of my classes that I used to play intramural volleyball with that I'm feeling right now, so in class I normally sit with my homies across the room from her but I came in late one day and lost my seat so I pulled up a seat right next to her she even said "miracle your sitting here" throughout the class I was making small talk and stuff so that was all good

So I try sitting next to her again today but I walk into class and the chick that was on the other side of her last week is in her chair so she was literally between us the whole class

The thing that got me doubtful is that she two years older than me and I know chicks normally go for older dudes

Age aint a factor as long as you keep yourself mature.

 

[rell826]

Porn messes up your sex game because it gives you unrealistic expectations about the act itself. Mental plays a big role in performing. Everything from the fantasy to how the women perform is how sex is distorted by porn. How many of us can perform for 40 minutes non stop (all edited to look that way)?

 

[championboyz7]

Dog. This broad jets after class. Guess she saw me from the corner of her eye kinda trying to catch up but I was on the phone so I fell back. How the **** do I bag this broad. Im getting annoyed.

 

[Mark Antony]

Dog. This broad jets after class. Guess she saw me from the corner of her eye kinda trying to catch up but I was on the phone so I fell back. How the **** do I bag this broad. Im getting annoyed.

FDB.

 

[Chopper]

F what ya heard, I'll introduce Lisa Ann to my whole extended family

 

[elderwatsondiggs]

[COLOR=#red]Porn is like alcohol... can be great and fun if used responsibly. Over do it and things can go bad.

One guy can say porn makes for unrealistic expectations...another guy can say it can provide new ideas and techniques and spice up the bedroom.

Neither of the guys are wrong.[/COLOR]

 

[usabasketball08]

Went to the library to study with the girl I mentioned in my last post in this thread. (A chick I haven't smashed, but I enjoy her company)

We leave the library and I walk her to her car. We're in the parking lot and I reach in for a hug and I grab her ***. (Before when we would see each other and hug, I wasn't doing that.)

She lets out a really soft moan, like a slight gasp for air when my hand squeezes her ***, and grabs me a lil' tighter. I start kissing her neck for a few seconds. I pull back, open her car door, she sits in her seat and I tell her to come through.

She makes up some BS excuse.

BUT she texts me just now saying "believe me I've been wanting to do exactly what you want to do, trust me..but how do I know that wasn't just a part of your game and you won't leave me after?"

How should I swing this..?

 

[Top Boy]

Went to the library to study with the girl I mentioned in my last post in this thread. (A chick I haven't smashed, but I enjoy her company)

We leave the library and I walk her to her car. We're in the parking lot and I reach in for a hug and I grab her ***. (Before when we would see each other and hug, I wasn't doing that.)

She lets out a really soft moan, like a slight gasp for air when my hand squeezes her ***, and grabs me a lil' tighter. I start kissing her neck for a few seconds. I pull back, open her car door, she sits in her seat and I tell her to come through.

She makes up some BS excuse.

BUT she texts me just now saying "believe me I've been wanting to do exactly what you want to do, trust me..but how do I know that wasn't just a part of your game and you won't leave me after?"

How should I swing this..?

Tell her it doesn't have to be a one time thing.

Hard to tell you what you want to hear when we don't know your stance on relationships and your motives with the chick other than smashing. Need specifics. Pics if you wanna throw that in too.

 

[jayhood23]

Went to the library to study with the girl I mentioned in my last post in this thread. (A chick I haven't smashed, but I enjoy her company)

We leave the library and I walk her to her car. We're in the parking lot and I reach in for a hug and I grab her ***. (Before when we would see each other and hug, I wasn't doing that.)

She lets out a really soft moan, like a slight gasp for air when my hand squeezes her ***, and grabs me a lil' tighter. I start kissing her neck for a few seconds. I pull back, open her car door, she sits in her seat and I tell her to come through.

She makes up some BS excuse.

BUT she texts me just now saying "believe me I've been wanting to do exactly what you want to do, trust me..but how do I know that wasn't just a part of your game and you won't leave me after?"

How should I swing this..?

Be honest with her

Tell her what you just told us but put a smooth spin on it to affect of

"if that's all I wanted I wouldn't be spending time studying with you. I enjoy your company, sex or not I like being around you"

 

[elderwatsondiggs]

[COLOR=#red]I say just do what you've been doing. She's gonna gift wrap it for you before long.

Believe it or not you are in the drivers seat.

If you overthink or overreact (which I doubt you'll do) then it may throw her off and she go cold.[/COLOR]

 

[アミーゴ]

Don't over think this. Keep playing it the same way more or less. Good work.

 

[usabasketball08]

[COLOR=#red]Porn is like alcohol... can be great and fun if used responsibly. Over do it and things can go bad.

One guy can say porn makes for unrealistic expectations...another guy can say it can provide new ideas and techniques and spice up the bedroom.

Neither of the guys are wrong.[/COLOR]

Well said..and IMO, it's even better if y'all are open enough with each other that y'all can watch that **** together.

(I don't know if you were referring to watching it alone on your own and taking stuff from it in your OP, or watching it together and doing the same. Either way tho..)

 

[snax91]

So I need some help on how to approach this.

Here is the story so I used to work with this girl, and we became friends, but I never pursued since the place I worked at was owned by her parents. I left when I transferred schools. We still talk and what not, and she invited me to go to the Blackhawks game this weekend. I also could never tell if she liked me or was just being friendly.

 

[アミーゴ]

So I need some help on how to approach this.

Here is the story so I used to work with this girl, and we became friends, but I never pursued since the place I worked at was owned by her parents. I left when I transferred schools. We still talk and what not, and she invited me to go to the Blackhawks game this weekend. I also could never tell if she liked me or was just being friendly.

How old are u guys?

Do u text frequently?

 

[snax91]

I'm 21 and she is 24 and we text about 2 times a week.

 

[アミーゴ]

I'm 21 and she is 24 and we text about 2 times a week.

When u said transferred coulda meant high schools.

I'd say she's intrigued by you since she invited you to a game...She doesn't know you all that well.

I'd go to the game, and make her know that ur interested. Hand on her knee type stuff, eye contact.

 

[Coromanti]

saw this on thoughtcatalog...thought it was pretty interesting...worth a try

 [h3]9. rawr_777[/h3]

Pretend she is a man (assuming you are straight). If your interpretation of the interaction is unchanged, she’s being nice. If all of a sudden you feel uncomfortable, she is flirting. Point being, you probably already know whether or not she is flirting – people just have an unfortunate tendency to see what they want to see, and not what is actually happening.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/2013/30-women-on-how-to-tell-if-shes-flirting-or-just-being-nice/

 

[mr marcus]

Nvm

 

[rocman23]

Does this happen to anyone else? Every time I'm in a one on one situation with a girl at a bar or a club and one of my boys isn't talking to someone, they immediately jump into the conversation I'm having with the chick. Pisses me off every ******g time it happens. I just don't get it. I don't need a wingman or the help if it's a one on one. I'm never failing at that point, so there is never any assistance needed. Anytime the situation is flipped I let my boys do their thing, at least until I see very obvious signs that they've failed.

I don't understand why my boys do this. Because then it makes it awkward to go in for the kill and completely disrupts the conversation that me and the chick have going on. Do they do it to block or are they just lonely and want to be involved in conversation? This blows my mind and costs me opportunities. I'm putting my foot down because it really pissed me off last night. Anyone else have this issue?

 

[mr marcus]

Tell em to chill with that ****. Lol

 

[mugen81]

Does this happen to anyone else? Every time I'm in a one on one situation with a girl at a bar or a club and one of my boys isn't talking to someone, they immediately jump into the conversation I'm having with the chick. Pisses me off every ******g time it happens. I just don't get it. I don't need a wingman or the help if it's a one on one. I'm never failing at that point, so there is never any assistance needed. Anytime the situation is flipped I let my boys do their thing, at least until I see very obvious signs that they've failed.

I don't understand why my boys do this. Because then it makes it awkward to go in for the kill and completely disrupts the conversation that me and the chick have going on. Do they do it to block or are they just lonely and want to be involved in conversation? This blows my mind and costs me opportunities. I'm putting my foot down because it really pissed me off last night. Anyone else have this issue?

When I had a bigger circle of friends, this would happen alot... So you have to re-evaluate the dudes you go out with... What I mean by that is you have the homie that's like your point guard to your PF or Center and vice versa, they know when to step back and alley and they also know when to help you shine... Then you have those insecure dudes that block you on the low and UENO...
You can always tell how insecure a dude is when they comment on a chick you want to talk to or you are talking to. I have seen more bish tendecies in dudes when females are around.. Not saying to drop your homeboy(s) but ask them what's up with that straight out and keep it 100 on how you feel.. Also next time just chill in the cut and make a comment about any female and see their reaction...
I became a loner after some of my homeboys flaked/ c-blocked, etc but it helped me become very observant of body language and comments that come out of people's mouths, if you just take sometime and analyze it, 9/10 you will get the answer you are looking for from the miscues in someone's voice or facial expressions...Also being a lone wolf, your "game", mouthpiece and courage grows exponentially to we're you just go out solo dolo and never ask friends out again lol... But like I said just ask them, maybe they don't realize it but if they get defensive, they are blocking on the low
Peace