To truly love someone, you have to not be scared of the outcome . Yeah it's easy to get caught up from the dopamine pumping through out your body for that first 6 months-a year but that's not the true essence of what we have been taught since birth...
People get love, commitment, lust and intimacy confused all the time.
Love is raw and masochistic and has no rules or bounds to it but it also does come with conditions. To truly be committed to someone is to take on their past, present and future demons/endeavors. It's the process of being able to look at someone for longer then an hour and to not only think about sex but to actually understand and delve into their psyche. What makes them a person(their passions, fears, dreams). We have all been sold on this idea of what to be "Loved" truly is but we don't even know or fully understand what makes us tick to begin with. Love is not something you do or feel. It's something you live and breathe everyday.
It's selfless, it knows no right or wrong, it doesn't yell or scream, punch or kick, it just is. To honestly be committed to an individual you have to know that it might not last forever but as long as you have it, you will ride it to the wheels fall off. When it's over, you are not angry, maybe hurt but not angry because to really love someone is to want to see them happy no matter the consequence...
I have a theory on divorce and why it's so cantankerous. The ego takes over saying" How dare this person treat me this way!!FDB, who does he/she think they are!" You were never in love to begin with. If you can't take the pain and learn and grow with time then ultimately it was all about you to begin with..
Yes people get cheated on(been there and was a plum fool afterwards) but that wasn't "Love", when you know you can walk away and let that person enjoy their life and realize, **** happens and things change, then you know you are in LOVE..
I love my wife to death, but if she decided to bounce tomorrow, it would hurt but I was someone before her, had family and friends before her and will continue grinding without her but I would always wish her the best because she has taught me a lot about myself and how to let unsuspecting people in....
That's "Real" Love, when you know you have matured and learned something from the experience and don't talk ill about somebody...
Love is not easy or for the weak. It takes bravery, patience, knowledge of ones self, understanding, trust and above all COMMUNICATION. If you or your partner haven't developed those tenants as your foundation for a healthy relationship, then be prepared for your house to crumble. These are the tools and signs that you know you truly are in LOVE. Everything else up until then is strictly lust and I have only been in love once now that I look back on it...
True Love/Marriage isn't a game, it truly is your primary job. So don't feel bad or rush into something you are not prepared for.. I have seen too many people get their proverbial "*** Kicked" for jumping into things. Enjoy your life, build your character, entertain a higher class of woman, speak from your heart( keep it 100), abstain from the yambs so you can have clear-court vision and in due time that woman will come and you will be more prepared for her...
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@ me being so unselective about whom i apply the forehead kiss to.
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