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Originally Posted by Yeah
You don't have to make it to every peewee football game, or jeopardize your new relationship in trying to provide care for little dude, but I would imagine that simply leaving gifts on the door step wouldn't fill the void in either of your lives.
Best advice right here. Why you tripping on the little man for? Kid was a package deal with your ex so once she's out of the picture... so is he.Originally Posted by 6 rings MJ
You need to cut ties completely.. The boy is 4 years old..
Ten years from now.. the little boy will not even remember who you are..
Originally Posted by HeavenlyHustler
bro let me tell u somethin. as a man who was in the EXACT same situation in 06, just let it go and move on.
I was dating a girl who when i met her had a 2yr old son. long story short, i was like his dad, he even forgot i wasnt sometimes and called me dad or would name me if asked his dads name u feel me.
when we broke up 4 years later and he was 6, i tried to stay around in his life but it was impossible because no matter how much i cared for him, the lingering fact in the back of my mind that he his no blood relation made it clear to me that if ever came a time that he really needed something, i wouldnt go out of my way to do it cause of his mothers ineptness in raising her child. he would be caught in the middle on alot of stuff.
so it was better to just forget him.
he's 11 now and has forgotten me even tho im now friends with his mom, my ex.
so, i say, @$+% it bro. keep it pushin. maybe throw him something this christmas thats gonna make a statement like this is goodbye.
maybe an xbox or ps3
Originally Posted by mytmouse76
I say cut all ties. As. Ad as it sounds he's not your responsibility and you don't want his mother holding him over your head when she feels like it. What are you gonna do if you get engaged to the new girl and she cuts you off from him? You have no legal rights. It would be amazon if she allowed you to be in his life drama free but from what you've posted in the past that probably won't happen. Plus I'm sure it's not easy for her to move on with you coming around and her son already being so attached to you. She'll put that bug in your ear about what y'all had and how much Lil man would love it. Next thing you know she has you questioning your current situation.
Maybe give the gifts to her fam to give to Lil man from you. I doubt your new lady would mind that.
Sad to think the effect this could have on him but that's more her concern and maybe when he's older he'll understand.
Originally Posted by offbad
yah probably send anon gifts maybe write "From Santa" if you're that generous.
otherwise, do nothing.
*edit*
oh wait also forgot to mention don't do anything you would have to hide from your new girl.
Originally Posted by lildisciple111
damnn whose gonna teach lil man to dribble with his left?? . .j.k man thats a tough situation. good luck to you bruh. i'm sure you'll figure it out
Originally Posted by Degenerate423
Personally, I would leave that situation alone. You're never gonna be able to see him on a consistent basis, and you don't want this situation to be a hindrance on the rest of your life. I could see the benfit in getting him a gift, but, honestly, it's not gonna mean much a year from now. Just keep it moving, I know it sucks, but you not being able to see him on a consistent basis will be worse than him just not seeing you...
Originally Posted by emmmmy
anonymous gifts are solid.
just keep it at that