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Since I can’t seem to talk to anyone in my vicinity aboutthis without somehow setting off the nuke I sleep next to every night. Idecided to post here so I can release this tension without blowing up at herand to hear some quick advice or feedback from my NT fam since ya’ll are all ears.
So long story short.. my relationship feels like it’sdragging. I may be writing this out of grief due to more and more pointlessquestions that need not to be asked.. like..
‘’What’s wrong?’’ (after justwaking up)
‘’Why did you leave and why did you ignore me?’’ (late for work)
‘’Is everything okay between us?’’ (at random out the blue)
‘’Are you going to leave me for another girl?’’
(when everything is fine)
We live together now because last year I didn’t want her tobe homeless due to the fact that she doesn’t sit straight or get along with hermom’s current husband/family. They both wanted her out. I took her in with thekindness and compassion that I was raised with and at the time I was juiced tohave my lady move in with me..
I didn’t however take into consideration how complicated@#$% can get with her there after a while. Thus creating the ‘can’t do list’because she either is there or wants to be there ALL the TIME.
Now for some history…
We’ve been together on and off for about 4 years and we’vedone a lot of growing up with each other. There were a few guys at thebeginning of the relationship. I didn’t care cuz I was still on the prowl doin’me.. There were a few girls in my life before and during the on off time samewith her. Now that summer is coming and the days and women will naturally be gettinghotter. She’s intimidated… THIS EARLY… already raisin her leg to mark herterritory when it’s not needed.
So my question to you is how should I go about this? I’mpretty much done being sympathetic to her emotions because she uses them on meall the time.
Is anyone in the same boat as me here? If not throw me a rope.
/rant
So long story short.. my relationship feels like it’sdragging. I may be writing this out of grief due to more and more pointlessquestions that need not to be asked.. like..
‘’What’s wrong?’’ (after justwaking up)
‘’Why did you leave and why did you ignore me?’’ (late for work)
‘’Is everything okay between us?’’ (at random out the blue)
‘’Are you going to leave me for another girl?’’
We live together now because last year I didn’t want her tobe homeless due to the fact that she doesn’t sit straight or get along with hermom’s current husband/family. They both wanted her out. I took her in with thekindness and compassion that I was raised with and at the time I was juiced tohave my lady move in with me..
I didn’t however take into consideration how complicated@#$% can get with her there after a while. Thus creating the ‘can’t do list’because she either is there or wants to be there ALL the TIME.
- · Can’t kick it with the homies (talk/joke around aboutguy stuff)
- · Can’t hit up the bar/club (with or withoutthe homies)
- · Can’t go to the gas station to pick up a blunt (without her wanting to tag along)
- · Can’t visit my father/family alone (without her packing a bag andwanting to go to)
- · Can’t speak to her about anything relationshiprelated (without the 21questions to follow)
- · Can’t ask for ''healthy'' spacecouples need to give each other in order to function(withoutassuming I’m already cheating on her..)
Now for some history…
We’ve been together on and off for about 4 years and we’vedone a lot of growing up with each other. There were a few guys at thebeginning of the relationship. I didn’t care cuz I was still on the prowl doin’me.. There were a few girls in my life before and during the on off time samewith her. Now that summer is coming and the days and women will naturally be gettinghotter. She’s intimidated… THIS EARLY… already raisin her leg to mark herterritory when it’s not needed.
So my question to you is how should I go about this? I’mpretty much done being sympathetic to her emotions because she uses them on meall the time.
Is anyone in the same boat as me here? If not throw me a rope.
/rant