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[ryda421]

Mods need to do a sweep

Mods about to pull up like this

 

[WASHED KING]

Aye YO

 

[willypete]

Yamb I had over said she thought I was living with a woman because my spot is organized and clean.

I’ve seen how both genders live and both are trifling. I like always having a clean spot after living with nasty *** roommates

 

[Walk like Denzel]

One good girl is worth a 1000 *****es

Solid nugget from Mr. West... but is the 1000 *****es a necessary part of the process of finding that good girl? How can a man know what a good girl is without a frame of reference? What you guys think?

 

[tay1]

Good character is easy to spot.

A lot of dudes wont admit to it but we chose bad partners the same way we blame them for doing.

 

[willypete]

Like tay1 said, it’s easy to spot and you’ll know when someone is legitimately good for you.

I definitely chose bad partners because the yambs were fiyah, they were more attractive or a great source of entertainment.

 

[tokes99]

was just talking to an uncle about this if it is an absolute necessity that man must move through/to multiples of women to get to a ‘good’ one or have a good reference for what that actually would even mean but in these times it just seems prudent that folk, & maybe man in particular, do the due diligence of ‘experiencing’ a spectrum/variety to really be secure in knowing what to expect…

i don’t think it is easy at all to tell if a woman is ‘good’ or good for you (because it could fasho be the case that a woman is good but not good for you) in real time…that is usually why man will need to see the different iterations & facades of what’s outchea and perhaps spin the block or compare in hindsight once man actually figures ahht who he is/what he wants…

and of course this is all complicated by attraction & ‘shiny object syndrome’ that has always afflicted us all, not only that, because the mores & the ways we interact with each other now folks behavior & expectations are all over the place; there is just less cultural/societal scaffolding to really keep folk in check with a singular standard…so if i’m understanding the question the only thing man can do is, to the extent man has the wherewithal, observe & correct what doesn’t suit him such that any woman he chooses he ‘makes’ that woman ‘good’ for him & vice versa

 

[willypete]

Let’s flip it, y’all consider y’all selves good dudes?

I was trash with some women but “good” with all the others. Trash in the sense of I was only smashing and that’s it, no dates or nothing.

 

[boss302]

Let’s flip it, y’all consider y’all selves good dudes?

I was trash with some women but “good” with all the others. Trash in the sense of I was only smashing and that’s it, no dates or nothing.

Personally, I've never approached a woman I was interested in with the intent of just smashing. Always pursued a relationship and gave it my all. Many times, it leads to just them getting a free meal or a few. However, I only approach situations with good intentions and have never had recreational fun outside of lifestyle events where that was the sole intent of being there. Always respectful to women, no matter the reception I get from them. I do my best to be a good person in general.

 

[smedroc]

Yamb I had over said she thought I was living with a woman because my spot is organized and clean.

I’ve seen how both genders live and both are trifling. I like always having a clean spot after living with nasty *** roommates

Pretty sure some women think you're a sociopath / psychopath if you're 'too clean'

In fairness the way a lot of single guys tend to live their place is set up more as a base of operations rather then a home.

If everything seems too calculated and the space isn't 'soft' i imagine it can be unsettling for them.

 

[Grine]

Now that I’m older, I’ve realized moving through a thousand women was a never good requirement to find a good one. What is required is moving through versions of yourself.

I kept going for chemistry, ego, attraction, money, or even how it made ME felt in the moment - I confused intensity for intimacy and excitement for compatibility. And because of this, a lot of women got hurt.

Therapy did a number on me.

Just know you can meet a good woman and still loose her if you’re not a good man for yourself. Learn who you are first, sit in the truth and feeling, and be honest! Something I wished I learned earlier on.

Also, I believe people can be objectivelu good and still not be good for each other.

 

[adobecs4]

Bruce Wayne on the anniversary of his parents death couldn't beat that kinda info out of me

Real tears

 

[willypete]

Pretty sure some women think you're a sociopath / psychopath if you're 'too clean'

In fairness the way a lot of single guys tend to live their place is set up more as a base of operations rather then a home.

If everything seems too calculated and the space isn't 'soft' i imagine it can be unsettling for them.

Dam so if my place is tidy and in order then I’m Dexter Morgan is crazy.

I had a roommate in college that lived trifling and that was the day I decided to never have a messy or dirty place. Had a roommate in the spot I’m in now but he moved out, mans was living so foul I had to make sure his door was closed whenever a yamb was over

 

[ryda421]

Dam so if my place is tidy and in order then I’m Dexter Morgan is crazy.

I had a roommate in college that lived trifling and that was the day I decided to never have a messy or dirty place. Had a roommate in the spot I’m in now but he moved out, mans was living so foul I had to make sure his door was closed whenever a yamb was over

#NTextremes. dudes really find any reason to cherry pick. having a clean spot is taking care of your castle. people saying it is too much effort probably do not clean their place often

 

[boss302]

Dam so if my place is tidy and in order then I’m Dexter Morgan is crazy.

I had a roommate in college that lived trifling and that was the day I decided to never have a messy or dirty place. Had a roommate in the spot I’m in now but he moved out, mans was living so foul I had to make sure his door was closed whenever a yamb was over

I know a girl that sleeps with a guy who has a girlfriend and lives in his mom's basement the guy looks exactly like an obese version of Kenny Powers with braids, she said that his bed is on the floor and there are McDonald's bags all of the place that you have to step over. She's also told me several times that I'm too mature and calm and I always clean clothes and a clean car and the vibe of being too put together is not what any woman would ever want.

 

[ryda421]

I know a girl that sleeps with a guy who has a girlfriend and lives in his mom's basement the guy looks exactly like an obese version of Kenny Powers with braids, she said that his bed is on the floor and there are McDonald's bags all of the place that you have to step over. She's also told me several times that I'm too mature and calm and I always clean clothes and a clean car and the vibe of being too put together is not what any woman would ever want.

this is occuring in florida?

 

[willypete]

I know a girl that sleeps with a guy who has a girlfriend and lives in his mom's basement the guy looks exactly like an obese version of Kenny Powers with braids, she said that his bed is on the floor and there are McDonald's bags all of the place that you have to step over. She's also told me several times that I'm too mature and calm and I always clean clothes and a clean car and the vibe of being too put together is not what any woman would ever want.

Just reading the bolded tells you everything about that woman. I wouldn’t listen to her if she were the narrator of my own life

 

[Mark Antony]

And you want this woman ?

 

[tay1]

Now that I’m older, I’ve realized moving through a thousand women was a never good requirement to find a good one. What is required is moving through versions of yourself.

Now this here is the truth.

 

[tay1]

was just talking to an uncle about this if it is an absolute necessity that man must move through/to multiples of women to get to a ‘good’ one or have a good reference for what that actually would even mean but in these times it just seems prudent that folk, & maybe man in particular, do the due diligence of ‘experiencing’ a spectrum/variety to really be secure in knowing what to expect…

i don’t think it is easy at all to tell if a woman is ‘good’ or good for you (because it could fasho be the case that a woman is good but not good for you) in real time…that is usually why man will need to see the different iterations & facades of what’s outchea and perhaps spin the block or compare in hindsight once man actually figures ahht who he is/what he wants…

and of course this is all complicated by attraction & ‘shiny object syndrome’ that has always afflicted us all, not only that, because the mores & the ways we interact with each other now folks behavior & expectations are all over the place; there is just less cultural/societal scaffolding to really keep folk in check with a singular standard…so if i’m understanding the question the only thing man can do is, to the extent man has the wherewithal, observe & correct what doesn’t suit him such that any woman he chooses he ‘makes’ that woman ‘good’ for him & vice versa

If you wanna justify runnin through women, just say that. We're in a hinge thread, but none of this is true.

 

[tokes99]

If you wanna justify runnin through women, just say that. We're in a hinge thread, but none of this is true.

not really saying going through a bunch (bunch being of a relative measure to the man) of gyal is a prerequisite to getting to a 'good' one, but i do think it is how it just plays out sometimes it's definitely not the only way tho

how else would man really define what 'good' is if not by comparison, experience, &/or observation? this was basically what my uncle was saying to me how he was moving back in his day

 

[Grine]

not really saying going through a bunch (bunch being of a relative measure to the man) of gyal is a prerequisite to getting to a 'good' one, but i do think it is how it just plays out sometimes it's definitely not the only way tho

how else would man really define what 'good' is if not by comparison, experience, &/or observation? this was basically what my uncle was saying to me how he was moving back in his day

Comparison didn’t actually teach me what good was, it taught me what I was willing to tolerate at the time.

A lot of what I was experiencing was really just repeating same patterns with different women. Until you recognize who you are then you can recognize a good woman in real time - not later.

 

[willypete]

Comparison didn’t actually teach me what good was, it taught me what I was willing to tolerate at the time.

A lot of what I was experiencing was really just repeating same patterns with different women. Until you recognize who you are then you can recognize a good woman in real time - not later.

This is definitely how I look at it. One last aspect is everyone won’t experience partners the same way. She might have been a “good” woman in her past relationship but is terrible with you and vice versa

 

[tokes99]

Comparison didn’t actually teach me what good was, it taught me what I was willing to tolerate at the time.

A lot of what I was experiencing was really just repeating same patterns with different women. Until you recognize who you are then you can recognize a good woman in real time - not later.

so do you think those experiences did not inform how you now move? and/or do you think you would be better off if had you not had them??

intellectually/in theory i can understand the point of having (an/some) awareness of self is what would make decisions & selections more sure but how many really have that off the rip without going through the trial & error process to some extent?

in the past i think people had way more 1st & second hand information about on another because social groups were closer, on top of culture & societal norms that did more heavy lifting; obviously everything wasn't sweet & i definitely find the current climate preferable but i do think it is just messier these times

 

[Grine]

so do you think those experiences did not inform how you now move? and/or do you think you would be better off if had you not had them??

intellectually/in theory i can understand the point of having (an/some) awareness of self is what would make decisions & selections more sure but how many really have that off the rip without going through the trial & error process to some extent?

in the past i think people had way more 1st & second hand information about on another because social groups were closer, on top of culture & societal norms that did more heavy lifting; obviously everything wasn't sweet & i definitely find the current climate preferable but i do think it is just messier these times

Yes experience did inform me but not in a way people may assume. It didn’t give me wisdom, it only gave me data (which I used to say women - ‘I’m just collecting data’). I still had to sit down later and actually process it.

I don’t wish them away but I do recognized that I stayed in that trial and error phase longer than I needed. Thats mostly because I didn’t truly know who I was and what I needed.

A lot of people don’t come in with self awareness. The mistake is thinking that self awareness comes from more bodies and more situations. For me it came from reflections, accountability and therapy.

Knowing yourself matters more than just moving through people.