Hinge Takeover >>> Tinder, Bumble Pof

I wouldn’t even have asked if it was another girl watching since I know everybody’s answer.

Another guy but mans wanna watch on the cam not actually be present. Basically diet fans only.

Wild af
Is money involved?
 
I’m not even sure but it would need to be because who’s putting on shows for free

Man's paying to watch you work :lol:
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Man's paying to watch you work :lol:
Looking Fran Healy GIF by Travis
:lol: dude is in another state and I think she said he her on ig. She told me she had a few submissive beta dudes like that in her dms.

I told her go ahead and put the link in the bio and make that money………she still hasn’t taken my advice yet to join that “top 1%”
 
She's probably getting paid and tried to cut you out the deal.
 
I wish that was the case but with the way she carries herself, she’s not getting paid from anything like that. I don’t think she has the living space to be doing any of that either
 
Women will go above and beyond to avoid you after things didn’t work out. It’s so much effort in my opinion that all you can do is laugh :lol Example: Walked into a room to catch up with someone I hadn’t seen in a min. Chopped it up with him and didn’t notice ol girl I slept with (things in my opinion didn’t even end bad but I guess I was mistaken), and she goes “long time no see”, responded with “No doubt for sure, how have you been?”. She said fine, but she was indeed not fine since she whispered something to someone i know and immediately dipped. Maybe because I don’t let things get to me easily and I also don’t really care about things like that but I can’t imagine leaving a venue because of a past yamb.
 
Alright my dudes, so back in May of 24, I met someone on Hinge. Went out, have great times, but last few months its been rocky. I have had to deal with my mom having lung cancer, my dads health isnt great (hes starting to get more forgetful) and I chose to take a buyout from my company and change careers due to the stress that the job was giving me (I have severe Crohns with 2 surgeries). She wants progress as far as moving in (I'm taking care of my rents), getting engaged, etc etc.. She also has said to me with my career that I have "settled" and my multiple degrees wont be put to use. I applied to NYS govt jobs and the DMV hired me and I'm just waiting to get appointed to a location. I am getting paid out on the buyout until June 2027 and I have plenty of resources where the lifestyle we both have will not change.

Tuesday we broke up, and it has been hard. I have been upset and crying (not going to lie) because I do love her. I met up with her yesterday to give her back the key and she wants to be eff buddies until she dates and finds someone she wants to be with. We hooked up last night but IDK how to feel about this.

I got right back on the app and everything doesnt feel right. Have an after work date set up for Tuesday but IDK how to feel.

My mind is going in so many directions. I feel like a mess.
 
Alright my dudes, so back in May of 24, I met someone on Hinge. Went out, have great times, but last few months its been rocky. I have had to deal with my mom having lung cancer, my dads health isnt great (hes starting to get more forgetful) and I chose to take a buyout from my company and change careers due to the stress that the job was giving me (I have severe Crohns with 2 surgeries). She wants progress as far as moving in (I'm taking care of my rents), getting engaged, etc etc.. She also has said to me with my career that I have "settled" and my multiple degrees wont be put to use. I applied to NYS govt jobs and the DMV hired me and I'm just waiting to get appointed to a location. I am getting paid out on the buyout until June 2027 and I have plenty of resources where the lifestyle we both have will not change.

Tuesday we broke up, and it has been hard. I have been upset and crying (not going to lie) because I do love her. I met up with her yesterday to give her back the key and she wants to be eff buddies until she dates and finds someone she wants to be with. We hooked up last night but IDK how to feel about this.

I got right back on the app and everything doesnt feel right. Have an after work date set up for Tuesday but IDK how to feel.

My mind is going in so many directions. I feel like a mess.
She doesn't value you bro.

You changed careers due to the stress that you have. That's not settling.
 
Alright my dudes, so back in May of 24, I met someone on Hinge. Went out, have great times, but last few months its been rocky. I have had to deal with my mom having lung cancer, my dads health isnt great (hes starting to get more forgetful) and I chose to take a buyout from my company and change careers due to the stress that the job was giving me (I have severe Crohns with 2 surgeries). She wants progress as far as moving in (I'm taking care of my rents), getting engaged, etc etc.. She also has said to me with my career that I have "settled" and my multiple degrees wont be put to use. I applied to NYS govt jobs and the DMV hired me and I'm just waiting to get appointed to a location. I am getting paid out on the buyout until June 2027 and I have plenty of resources where the lifestyle we both have will not change.

Tuesday we broke up, and it has been hard. I have been upset and crying (not going to lie) because I do love her. I met up with her yesterday to give her back the key and she wants to be eff buddies until she dates and finds someone she wants to be with. We hooked up last night but IDK how to feel about this.

I got right back on the app and everything doesnt feel right. Have an after work date set up for Tuesday but IDK how to feel.

My mind is going in so many directions. I feel like a mess.
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Hit the gym and clear your head.

She’s a bird that probably didn’t contribute nothing to bro’s life except stress.

Hope your parents are doing okay

Yea it hasnt been that great lately.


Yes thank you they are doing better. Mom is fully recovered from Stage 3 cancer! Chemo, Immunotherapy, and the surgery to remove the tumor worked!
 
Count it as a blessing and take it day by day.

Probably would've been a nightmare to deal with if you guys got married.
 
Alright my dudes, so back in May of 24, I met someone on Hinge. Went out, have great times, but last few months its been rocky. I have had to deal with my mom having lung cancer, my dads health isnt great (hes starting to get more forgetful) and I chose to take a buyout from my company and change careers due to the stress that the job was giving me (I have severe Crohns with 2 surgeries). She wants progress as far as moving in (I'm taking care of my rents), getting engaged, etc etc.. She also has said to me with my career that I have "settled" and my multiple degrees wont be put to use. I applied to NYS govt jobs and the DMV hired me and I'm just waiting to get appointed to a location. I am getting paid out on the buyout until June 2027 and I have plenty of resources where the lifestyle we both have will not change.

Tuesday we broke up, and it has been hard. I have been upset and crying (not going to lie) because I do love her. I met up with her yesterday to give her back the key and she wants to be eff buddies until she dates and finds someone she wants to be with. We hooked up last night but IDK how to feel about this.

I got right back on the app and everything doesnt feel right. Have an after work date set up for Tuesday but IDK how to feel.

My mind is going in so many directions. I feel like a mess.

so y’all got together last year, and she pressing you about moving in & engagement? is this the cause of the break up? had y’all discussed the progression towards these things over the course of the relationship/prior? for the record, what’s y’all ages?

doesn’t make sense to entertain any situation w/her you still have feelings about the way it ended, that’s just inviting unnecessary stress/tension
 
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so y’all got together last year, and she pressing you about moving in & engagement? is the the cause of the break up? had y’all discussed the progression towards these things over the course of the relationship/prior? for the record, what’s y’all ages?

doesn’t make sense to entertain any situation w/her you still have feelings about the way it ended, that’s just inviting unnecessary stress/tension
Yes shes pressing on that as in her mind we havent made any progression. I am with her every day. Before I took the buyout, I would drive her to work, come walk my parents dog, go to work, come pick her up from work, go home, eat, (sometimes we wouldnt have dinner together to save me the trip from FIDI to Chelsea and I would stay at home, walk the dog for them at night since its a 5 floor walkup and its hard for them) and if we ate together, I would leave and go walk my parents dog (she would come with me a lot), then come back and we go to sleep and repeat the story. Now since the buyout, I have been relaxing like I have never ever before in my life, taking care of my rents taking them to their appointments and all that. Besides the relationship stress, I am at ease. I am just waiting to be appointed and start my new career.

We spoke about it. In great detail? No but I said let me make sure mom and dad are ok, and let me get back to work. I have money coming in until 2027 anyways and I do have plenty of resources like I said. We are not going to hurt at all.


I did so many things for her and it sucks that this is over.

She is 34 and I am 36.
 
Yes shes pressing on that as in her mind we havent made any progression. I am with her every day. Before I took the buyout, I would drive her to work, come walk my parents dog, go to work, come pick her up from work, go home, eat, (sometimes we wouldnt have dinner together to save me the trip from FIDI to Chelsea and I would stay at home, walk the dog for them at night since its a 5 floor walkup and its hard for them) and if we ate together, I would leave and go walk my parents dog (she would come with me a lot), then come back and we go to sleep and repeat the story. Now since the buyout, I have been relaxing like I have never ever before in my life, taking care of my rents taking them to their appointments and all that. Besides the relationship stress, I am at ease. I am just waiting to be appointed and start my new career.

We spoke about it. In great detail? No but I said let me make sure mom and dad are ok, and let me get back to work. I have money coming in until 2027 anyways and I do have plenty of resources like I said. We are not going to hurt at all.


I did so many things for her and it sucks that this is over.

She is 34 and I am 36.

bet…i’d say this, to the extent you haven’t already really laid out the plan, if you think the relationship could be salvaged it might be worth it to put some thought into communicating in more detail what the vision is/was to her, women in that age demographic are wont to expedite/rush the process as they tend to feel that proverbial shot clock (biological & societal) much more than men…and even if she knew & understood why you made the career change her seeing you ‘lounging’ despite being good/well set up probably contributed to whatever uncertainty she was already feeling…just my superficial take, you’d obviously know more what the temperature is/was on that but if it’s for sure done, going w/a clean separation is the best move, letting her now dictate terms isn’t a good position

i’d definitely chill on trying to get into a new situation for bit, like man said hit gym, and/or pick up an old/new hobby, get w/the mandem, try something new like cleaning up/changing the diet, going on solo ‘dates’ ‘treat yo self’ type tings etc.

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Yea it hasnt been that great lately.


Yes thank you they are doing better. Mom is fully recovered from Stage 3 cancer! Chemo, Immunotherapy, and the surgery to remove the tumor worked!
This is great news, next question would be did she even care that your parents were going through things? Last thing on my mind would be moving in with someone if my parents aren’t doing okay.

I was going to say she’s too old to be moving like a bird but that’s still the age group.

If she doesn’t contribute nothing to your life other than cheeks and a headache, block her and delete everything y’all had together.
 
bet…i’d say this, to the extent you haven’t already really laid out the plan, if you think the relationship could be salvaged it might be worth it to put some thought into communicating in more getsil what the vision is/was to her, women in that age demographic are wont to expedite/rush the process as they tend to feel that proverbial shot clock (biological & societal) much more than men…and even if she knew & understood why you made the career change her seeing you ‘lounging’ despite being good/well set up probably contributed to whatever uncertainty she was already feeling…just my superficial take, you’d obviously know more what the temperature is/was on that but if it’s for sure done, going w/a clean separation is the best move, letting her now dictate terms isn’t a good position

i’d definitely chill on trying to get into a new situation for bit, like man said hit gym, and/or pick up an old/new hobby, get w/the mandem, try something new like cleaning up/changing the diet, going on solo ‘dates’ ‘treat up self’ type tings etc.

🫡
Yea I laid it out somewhat but not to the extent I guess she wanted. Yes shes going to freeze her eggs and said she will bc of no planning between us. She then apologized and said it wasnt all my fault as we met when she was 33.

I feel sometimes she is just so bad (due to the subject of her life not being in the stage she wanted) with her mood swings and that played a part as well.

What got me is she dated a director at a hedge fund guy, not someone who is complacent to work at the DMV and my problem is stress management. She works at a the global headquarters of one of the major banks as a SVP in Data Governance. So she has a good job.
This is great news, next question would be did she even care that your parents were going through things? Last thing on my mind would be moving in with someone if my parents aren’t doing okay.

I was going to say she’s too old to be moving like a bird but that’s still the age group.

If she doesn’t contribute nothing to your life other than cheeks and a headache, block her and delete everything y’all had together.

She does care that my parents were going through things. She always asked them how they were doing and the day of moms surgery, she was with me keeping me company.


I remember one comment she made a while ago and said "none of my (meaning her) relationships have lasted more than a year". I guess I should wake up and see why.

In 2 days it would have been our 18th month together.
 
No way could I go through a break up with someone I actually loved and get back on the apps after a couple days.

Take a break from dating for a while man. You dont need to rush. You got alot more going on that needs your focus.
 
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