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Women are fickle by nature and easily swayed.
She was never yours. It was just your turn. That's the harsh realities of nature that we as males need to accept when we transition from boys to men.
All these Disney movies conditioned us at a young age into these fairy tales.Long read but props to everyone reading it.
2020 has been a real rollercoaster for me for so many things. Got into it with my family to the point I lost all respect for my brother because of how he has gone about so many things. I’m cordial with my sister and father now days. My mother is the only one I’ve been close to but even then it hasn’t been much I’ve truly discussed with her.
I moved earlier in the year to spot with my good friend and I think that also strained the relationship with my family since everyone still lives in the same house (I’m the youngest btw 27). Moving gave me the space I needed to truly get away from family, have my own privacy and actually be on my own ever since college.
Had a girl I reconnected with and been on and off with since December 2018. We have/had a 8 year long history of knowing each other and in hindsight I think that blinded me to so much. We fell out in January 2017 when I tried to be more than friends but she wasn’t ready for a relationship but I found out she wound up in one 2 months later. Fast forward almost 2 years later and she’s single and looking better than ever. Things were cool between us from the reconnect to mid this year. I got into it with her about being more serious about what she wants to do in life and to actually put the same drive into her goals as she does being “on the scene” for social media. We gave each other space but still reached out to each other to see how each other were doing for about a month and half till I tested positive for covid. During that space I was able to stop being so attached and deep in it with her but once I got sick, she was constantly checking and reaching out on me and it got me to fall back in deep with her. For a solid 3 weeks things felt back to normal between us while I was quarantined. Recently as in the past week I seen her saying on social media “my boo takes me on dates constantly” and “going on double dates are great when all 4 are cool with each other”. I hadn’t been on any dates with her since mid August and never been on a double date with her either. Confronted her about it but she’s given me the silent treatment and ignoring me now. I definitely think all of that between us is done and it’s been eating me up inside because I fell so heavy for her and I thought we could always be upfront and honest with each other. My problem is I got way too attached and was fooling myself into think things were more than what they were.
All of that to say, I would’ve put my plan to work overseas on hold for her and even assisting her with accomplishing her goals. This is just a big eye opener for me to not but my life on hold for someone especially someone who isn’t truly serious about who or what they want.
Had to get this off my chest and NT has usually been my safe haven to do so. Ready for any judgement.
Women are fickle by nature and easily swayed.
She was never yours. It was just your turn. That's the harsh realities of nature that we as males need to accept when we transition from boys to men.